Social situations with people you don't like

[jipped genes]

how do you deal with it? I am going to a party with my wife and I know of another couple we just can't stand. they are condescending and have to be the center of every conversation, they will listen to half of your story and butt in with their own. if I start to tell a story about my kid catching a pass in a football game and being proud of him they will tell a story about their kid catching 9 touchdown passes with a pulled hamstring to come from behind and win the game.

i hate that crap. I am compelled to be respectful and not push this guy into a corner where he wants to get physical. But I want to have fun. the rest of the people are cool. And the couple who is having the party are great folk and I don't want to disrespect them by fighting.

tips?

[JsJs24]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

I would try to ignore it to not cause a potentially embarrassing situation. However, if the couple gets too bothersome you could ask the husband to step outside and politely ask him to ease up on the interruptions and bogus stories. I suppose this is how I would handle it, but I know it is tough to hold back. If someone crosses the line of intentionally trying to embarrass or insult you, then it would probably be okay to say something even if it does cause a bit of a scene.

Personally, if someone I don't like is going to be somewhere then depending on how bad I don't like being around them I may not show up. If that's the case, I would probably let the hosts know why I wouldn't be making it.

[Dzone]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

Damn that sucks. Some people are idiots. Blowhards that cant wait for you to shut up so they can top whatever youre saying. Well, I think anything you do or say will increase the tension so I think youre kind of stuck with them...I would try to stay away from them as much as possible. I would proba bly make it known by body language that I think he is a dickhead LOL
Enjoy your good friends and focus your attention on them and ignore these douchebags. Good luck

[animal87]

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I just don't go to bars or parties, unless it's a family member or real close friend. If somebody makes me mad I stare them down, I can't help it.

[BABY1]

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I hate when people do that. I honestly would be polite, say "hi" and thats about it. Would not make the attemp to have a conversation with them, and if they but in, you could say' can I finish my story"? People like this need to be put in their place and ALWAYS make eye contact when you speak to people, especially ones like them, they will get the hint,lol

[mikeyg51]

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I have been through this before....honestly, just don't talk to them! Put a smile on your face if need be and try to ignore them...hell, if they start to interrupt, just keep telling YOUR story lol...I just went through this myself...and the result was everyone else at the party saw this person/couple for what they truly were: assholes! But if need be, tell him to be respectful in private...I am sure you could snap this guy's neck too...You know, we are not meant to be doormats...It is important to not be disrespectful but we also don't want to let ppl walk all over us....I would seriously just try to ignore him...it will drive the couple crazy that they are not the center of attention...

Great question btw....I struggle with this all the time!

[animal87]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

If you're even a little big or in shape people will try to mess with you because it makes them insecure.

[MrzDiva]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

I only go to gatherings from church that are either weddings, anniversaries, graduations, or just a gathering of people I know. I'm pretty much a mellow person and I'm quiet so I hardly talk. I usually am sitting down and keeping to myself. If I find myself in a situation like that I just smile and excuse myself from the conversation . Its polite and easier that way without causing any problems or making a situation out of something that can be easly avoided.

[BABY1]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

If you're even a little big or in shape people will try to mess with you because it makes them insecure.

Lyeah but even then you might come across some shmuvk that wants to mess with you just because ifbthat, lol. Just give thrm a mesn look, lol

[Hy-Maint]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

Odds are if you think they are weenies, the other couples there feel the same way. You will leave a lasting and not so good impression if you get into it in someone's home. I know sometimes it's easier said than done, but try to ignore them and enjoy everyone else.

[jipped genes]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

all good advice. we shall see how it pans out tonight. Hope we can all get along as it is a football party and we will be in close quarters in the living room watching the game. throw in alcohol and some type "A" personalities. I am very diplomatic and all should be good.

[apbt549]

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good luck.. my wife's office manger is like that and I cant stand her so I just stay away from her as much as I can and her other co-workers know this and try to keep her away from me also..

I just go to the office parties and talk to the other people there and if she does come up I just walk away to get to something to drink and hang out with the dr's wife bc the office manger stays away from her bc she knows the dr's wife doesn't like her..

[rmewrench]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

I'm a sarcastic asshole to people like that, but in a polite, when they walk away they scratch their head and ask themselves....was he serious??? way. So after awhile I would just start asking smartass questions and fuck with them mentally. Much more fun than going to jail for beating ones ass.

[guage]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

I'm a sarcastic asshole to people like that, but in a polite, when they walk away they scratch their head and ask themselves....was he serious??? way. So after awhile I would just start asking smartass questions and fuck with them mentally. Much more fun than going to jail for beating ones ass.

like your way of thinking. nothing wrong with having a little fun

[sensitivenips]

Re: Social situations with people you don't like

the thing is you know these people have this personality type, and by saying something to them most likely wont change how they are bc its part of their personality. in addition, if they are true doosheroos then they may take you asking them respectably as a weakness and the possibilities resulting from that can make the environment your in worse.

think of them as children, laugh at how immature they are. take everything that comes out of their mouths as childish bc truly that is what it is. joke about it. walk away and start another conversation with someone else thats not around them, its really that simple. they are not better than you, so theres no reason for you to get upset about it. dont let it bring down your attitude allowing you to spread more negativity from it.

the best ways to handle a situation like this is to turn it into a positive for you and yours and have some fun with it.