18yr old niece

[FUZO]

Might be doing drugs. she stays out all night,she has gotten very bad acne,she is losing weight. all the signs point to it. and her mother is just giving excuses for her daughterlike,oh no not my daughter.

[straydoglogic]

Re: 18yr old niece

sorry to hear it bro..i have a few neices the same age..its gotta be tough...
hopefully you guys can get it all figured out and take care of it...i know what its like...

[quirkysmilin]

Re: 18yr old niece

She needs to cut off the money source.

[Doink the clown]

Re: 18yr old niece

Force some change in her life, make her do different things, time consumed so she can't do most of it at her discretion.However, i have an aunt that just stuck her head in the sand and told me my nephew was doing great....while we were standing outside the courtroom waiting to hear his burglary charge!!!

[deepsouth]

Re: 18yr old niece

Need to get her involved in something that occupies her time and takes her away from this. Normal if they get bad, you will see a change in friends -doers hang with dealers

[BABY1]

Re: 18yr old niece

This is my sisters daughter. For the past couple of months whenever I see her I notice she has really bad face acne. She is thin and obsessed with thinking she is fat. My sis tells me sometimes she stays out all night. She also has been having double vision and headaches. My first instict was drug usage or I am even thinking some kind of eating disorder. My sis is naive to these toughts of mine. My insticts are right a lot of times. I think I will confront my niece myself and see how she reacts. I think of her like my own and this worries me a lot.

[daved150]

Re: 18yr old niece

i actually thaught my nephew was smoking pot, so i just used physical threats on him. he kinda chuckled until i took the keys to his car and started tearing through it, asking where the pot was...then, later that night, when a friend came over their house, i took the friend outside for a walk with my nephew and gave him my cell #. i told him if he ever narks nick out, it's worth 100$ to him....if i findout, through other friends i got watching both of them, that he covers for nick...i'll kick the fuk out of him. i think nick quit, lol

[deepsouth]

Re: 18yr old niece

youshould also consider getting bloodwork done- that will tell you alot. I'm sorry to hear this- I'm with you on the eating disorder other than the all night outings.

[skinnyman]

Re: 18yr old niece

we had/have the same problem with my cousin. He's 20 now and his mom still sticks up for this kids habits. the problem has been sisnce the day he ws born. The mom thinks the best way to raise a child is to be/act as their best friend as opposed to parenting.

[trip]

Re: 18yr old niece

This is my sisters daughter. For the past couple of months whenever I see her I notice she has really bad face acne. She is thin and obsessed with thinking she is fat. My sis tells me sometimes she stays out all night. She also has been having double vision and headaches. My first instict was drug usage or I am even thinking some kind of eating disorder. My sis is naive to these toughts of mine. My insticts are right a lot of times. I think I will confront my niece myself and see how she reacts. I think of her like my own and this worries me a lot.

well, if your instincts are right alot, and you have a close relationship, imho, go with the instinct

confrontation, as a first move usually causes the person to shut down, versus open up, try a one on one in a comfortable situation, lunch or coffee, and talk life stuff, like how it was for you at 18, and how maybe times have changed, and see if you can feel her out on anything at all

first goal is to get information, knowledge

be supportive and point out all the things you love and admire about her, be specfic with examples and then say, you've noticed some small, changes and wondered if anything you could help her with

these things rarrely turn on a dime so be patient

good luck

[alwaysfit]

Re: 18yr old niece

This is my sisters daughter. For the past couple of months whenever I see her I notice she has really bad face acne. She is thin and obsessed with thinking she is fat. My sis tells me sometimes she stays out all night. She also has been having double vision and headaches. My first instict was drug usage or I am even thinking some kind of eating disorder. My sis is naive to these toughts of mine. My insticts are right a lot of times. I think I will confront my niece myself and see how she reacts. I think of her like my own and this worries me a lot.

My first thought was eating disorder baby1... but the being out all night doesn't seem consistent. Then again, she could be doing the drug thing to keep her weight/appetite down. Does she tend to be a perfectionist? Good grades, etc.?

If you do confront her, do it gently. The first stage of an eating disorder (and/or drug use for that matter) is denial, and breaking through that can be really tough.

[Stout1]

Re: 18yr old niece

Sounds like meth.....very powerful stuff. Terrible around these parts.

[BABY1]

Re: 18yr old niece

well, if your instincts are right alot, and you have a close relationship, imho, go with the instinct

confrontation, as a first move usually causes the person to shut down, versus open up, try a one on one in a comfortable situation, lunch or coffee, and talk life stuff, like how it was for you at 18, and how maybe times have changed, and see if you can feel her out on anything at all

first goal is to get information, knowledge

be supportive and point out all the things you love and admire about her, be specfic with examples and then say, you've noticed some small, changes and wondered if anything you could help her with

these things rarrely turn on a dime so be patient

good luck

Thank you for the advice. I have been told in the past that I have very good,and strong, instincts and my instincts tell me that something is not right.

[BABY1]

Re: 18yr old niece

My first thought was eating disorder baby1... but the being out all night doesn't seem consistent. Then again, she could be doing the drug thing to keep her weight/appetite down. Does she tend to be a perfectionist? Good grades, etc.?

If you do confront her, do it gently. The first stage of an eating disorder (and/or drug use for that matter) is denial, and breaking through that can be really tough.

Thanks and I don't expect her to admit to it right away. So i will continue to keep my eyes and ears open.

[BABY1]

Re: 18yr old niece

Sounds like meth.....very powerful stuff. Terrible around these parts.

That is exactly what I thought. She is often very bubbly and energetic and don't know if meth does this.