Question for the men!

[McKenzie]

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I'm not with anyone Mick....I wouldnt even keep company with a man as I described above. Just throwin out scenarios, just as you did.

I dont tolerate bullshit from a man. I believe everyone here knows what I like in a man.


*sigh*....I'm becoming very bored and visually unstimulated with this thread

no offense baby1

[pincrusher]

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ok my turn LOL
for a long time i used to complain that my wife wasnt initiating sex at all during our relationship and one day it dawned on me just how hard she works and how much more she does than i do. by the end of the day when she is ready to hit the bed, she is so damn tired that no amount of desire will get her to initiate sex with me. i have learned that if i really want it that bad, i need to do things that will put her in the mood for sex. lately i have been doing some things around the hosue to help her out such as picking up our daughter from daycare so my wife can go to the gym instead of coming straight home. i also have been taking her out to eat more often, have been more sexually stimulating for her through my actions around the house such as i will walk up behind her while she is cooking dinner and just start to gently kiss the back of her neck.
for the first time since we were dating she has started to actually initiat sex and she even went out to buy a new nightime outfit to wear for me
now we are doing this almost every day because of MY change in behavior patterns.

[pincrusher]

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you could just sum this whole conversation up and say, taking your lover for granted will kill your relationship

yup

[mick-G]

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I'm not with anyone Mick....I wouldnt even keep company with a man as I described above. Just throwin out scenarios, just as you did.

I dont tolerate bullshit from a man. I believe everyone here knows what I like in a man.


*sigh*....I'm becoming very bored and visually unstimulated with this thread

no offense baby1

Im not asking if you are with anyone Mck and All i said is that if there is a man like you described, then "you", as in "any" woman has the right to be neglectfull. I think that i have been very respectfull in what iam saying, and i think you should as well. It is good that you do not tolerate "bullshit" as you claim. But in the same respect, it is this kind of derogatory remarks and statements, like "you make your own Money, house etc", that some men will find as a turnoff. Nobody was even talking about what a person makes or owns. I also said in my above post that iam not using what iam saying to reflect any women here, but what i have heard from other men.

[McKenzie]

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Well hey...I'm just throwing scenarios out there too...as some of us women just sit around all day, dickin off, in old flannel pajamas, being extremely unattractive, fat, and irritating.

I just had to say...I do work, I work hard and I do want to be appreciated as a person

[mick-G]

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Whatever Mck Im out.

[BigDawg]

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I think cooking is a bonus. My wife is a great cook but like others have said that's not what attracted me to her. Obviously the physical attributes got my first attention. After that it's the little things. Let me know you think i'm still sexy. I don't expect lingerie all the time either. The sexiest look for me is my wife in panties and one of my t-shirts. But if she couldn't cook a lick it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

[pigmeat]

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I grew up with my Grandparents pratically next door, and that woman was the best cook in the world..my mom worked so i ate at grandmas almost every night. She made 3 course meals even for lunch, so to me....Yeah, i need a woman that is a good cook...i dont go for ordering pizza, or tv diners very often...i want a good meal.

[Merc]

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my wife can cook about two meals and thats it, I cook most of the time but I didnt marry her for her cooking

[trip]

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nice story pincrusher, and perfect point wolfy, says it all, what we focus on expands, if we focus on criticism complaints they grow in size and conflict rises, if we focus on what a person does right, appreciation grows

[BABY1]

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Was looking through some old threads, like I like to do sometimes. Came across this one and though we could get some updates from some of you guys on it

[DaddyDawg]

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I just was curious about what men felt when a woman is a good cook. Does it matter? As we know, noone has the perfect woman, or man, we all would like that. I think Fuzo can say that I am some of the things that you described in this post, but of course not all of them. It is sometimes a challenge to be a stay at home Mom, who does work part time, does the cleaning, cooking, laundry, takes care of the kids, etc. Sometimes we just want to be in those pj's and big shirts and sweats!lol! We would like to be "wow'd" by our man to sometimes, but I think that what wows us is different then what wows the men. Just was looking for some insight on what qualities men really appreciate in a woman, it seems somehow that it always ends on a sexual note.

That could be because you are posting on a site with men who's test is through the roof. LOL As for me. I love that a women can cook\ wants to cook for her man. It's not the only thing, but for a women to settle down with I think it is a great characteristic to have. Yes the looks and sex are important also and is what attracts us, but for a wife and mother it's good to know that your kids will be fed and not just through a drive through. It also shows that she cares enough to want to take care of and provide for her man\ family. just like a man with a good work ethic and good job. yes he has to look good to her, but she also knows she will be taken care of. If she is not a good cook, but wants to learn and puts in the effort it's just as good to me because you know she wants to. My wife was not the best cook at all when we met, but she kept trying and showed that the cared by doing so. 13 years later and I'm a happily married man with a little too much around the waist because of all the delicious cooking she does.

[MemphisMax]

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I'm not worried about the cooking. I do most of it now anyway, and if I'm on a strict diet I like being the one to prepare my food. My wife obviously found another way to get my heart.

[BABY1]

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AS you can see this thread was started in 2006...8 years later and 25 years together..I have created a sweets monster who loves a good meal too

[animal87]

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I do all the cooking, is it the way to a woman's heart too lol?