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um..are you sure there isnt another man or something thats not been said?
Most women wouldn't just leave like that unless they are VERY unhappy..at least from what I hear from women... maybe she just doesnt love you anymore? But to clean you out and leave you broke is just plain mean...women like that give the good ones a bad rap....I divorced my first husband because he was a lying cheat and he tried raping me when I told him I wanted to separate but I still didnt steal from him as much as I hated him! I just took my stuff and my babies and left! Gave him everything because i wanted OUT! ....if a woman wants out, she will just take her own stuff and go! So my thoguhts is there is something else going on?
I've been married again now for 12 yrs (together 15) and we talked about splitting up last year just because we weren't on the same page so to speak on things but we love each other and worked them out..the reasons to stay far out weighed the reasons to split....
so..again...why would she clean you out like that is she just didnt want to be together anymore??
I wish you luck and hope things work out for you.
---------------------------------------------------------------- "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."
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I forgot what state you live in Ixorl?? In my state it is no fault, meaning it is 50/50, unless you are smart and have money kept away that was tied with someone else before marriage. I don't want to get too personal here Ixorl, but you two made such a good looking couple, but i do recall you saying before you got married that "she was a handfull" whatever you meant by that? It is just very hard for me to believe a woman that "loved"a man would do such a thing after such a long relationship? There must have been signs of her unfeelingness before hand. Most any good attorney would jump on this, because of the fact of abandonment and her taking everthing out of your funds. Bro, you have to fight for what you are deserved. She left you, not visa versa. Imo, you are being too relaxed on this. I believe that this was deliberately planed and she know exactly what shes doing. Women like this know how to play on your emotions and will make you believe whatever they want. Im sure she know how your brain works. Do you think she is actually going to tell you if she has someone on the side, lol? SE is correct cancel andy credit cards etc asap. Even though im sure you have feeling for her, im positive it isn't the same for her or she wouldn't be doing this. Are you very sure that there isn't a third party involved?? Women that skip like this ususally do. Just for the facts how old is she and you?
I TOTALY agree with this~
---------------------------------------------------------------- "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."
---------------------------------------------------------------- Aerobics: a series of strenuous exercises which help convert fats, sugars, and starch into aches, pains and cramps! (that's why I don't do 'em LOL)
I am really sorry to hear about this lxorl. This sounds very similar to what happened to my brother. She cleaned him out and then made allegations of abuse to get him to back off. He got a few things back, but had to basically cut his losses. Hopefully your situation will turn out a little better. You always have a place to come to talk bro.
Bro, if you want some advice pm me i been thru this exact thing many yrs ago. Mine in fact was that the woman was just too damn young and didn't know where her head was at. It was only later i found out that there was a third party involved. She was very delebrate in how she did things, lol. I remember me going to my moms house to do laundry, my mistake by calling her there asking her to pls reconsider and maybe tryng counceling, she was so understanding on the phone. When i got home everthing of hers was gone. I know for fact if you go to an attorney the first thing hes going to ask you is if you can get counceling, even if you know she won't go for it, if you can document that you tried it will be in your favor. With the abandonment, including emptying your accounts, pay into the home with the option to buy, iam sure you will get at least half if not more since there are no children involved, and how she abandoned you. Also, 007 is right, stop paying the damn rent. Her father can not kick you out without a court order and i would be good to have some proof that you were paying on the house in option to buy, as you are intitled to those monies back in the divorice. One thing i learned with that experience that happened to me about 25yrs ago, is to make sure you keep your mind on track and seperate your feelings from her and what you must do to benefit yourself. She will use every trick in the book to her advantage and so will her family.
I really dont think there is another guy... well im not positive, but we are somewhat open with our marriage.... we dont SWing per say... but were not a classical marriage. That doesnt mean she might not have found someone else..... but i believe she would tell me. She swears it has nothing to do with this.
Also for the most part we get along great.... most of her excuses are based on me..... im not motivated enough in life.... i do not have enough passion in life. I do not share in her enthuiasim for certian things.
the bank thing went like this....... when she dropped this bomb on me... friends and family advised me to secure a little safty money.... i took about 1/10 of our money and put it aside, just incase i found myself on the street. She freaked out, so i put it back to defuse the situation, and also because i was hoping to never need that money...... later that day she cleared that account.... sent me an email saying she wouldnt screw me over, but she didnt trust me and was holding it until i could prove what part of it is mine.
I'm Just an old chunk of Coal, But I'm gonna be a DIAMOND some day.
Bro, If you need some money its a phone call away. I can't believe that she's acting like this... You know I went through the EXACT same thing though!!!
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...Courage and Strength to change the things I can...And Wisdom to know the difference."
Her friend and family told you to put aside money??? Damn bro this should have opened your mind! I think we are missing something here on what she is like. You say you don't swing? So what does that mean? Have you shared or say threesomes either way? Also, what does she mean by you don't share in her enthuiasim? Spell it out bro. I have been in three marriages one divorice, the other one passed at an early age. I have been thru it all. I have had threesomes etc(safe sex of course), which i don't anymore, but iam not embarassed to say what i been thru. Its all a part of lifes experiences. Is there something she expresses interest which you don't? I know iam getting personal here, but i don't think the picture is real clear. How much $ we talking about here 10K total, less more? Everyone is in different situations monetaraly, sexualy, and relationship wise, so one is better than another for having diff interests. Maybe counceling would help here, but you need to be open in what you are talking about and how it affects you and her individually and as a couple.
I dont like the sound of everything, seems like she's been scheming for some time and she's weighing the pro's and con's right now. I wouldnt show any emotion, just cut and run for a bit like she says she wants to do and then see what she does. Chances are she'll come back, but dont let yourself simmer on the back burner while she's "finding herself"
i'am speechless, and sorry about that...we all fall down and get right back up....
fyi: there is a lot of fishes in the sea...remember that....
And that's coming from a BIG WHALE so he should know
Call me bro and I'll meet you at Hooters.....
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...Courage and Strength to change the things I can...And Wisdom to know the difference."
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