So what do you do in this situation (female imput appreciated)?

[Got Gear?]

TweetWell, after the marrige of a couple of our good friends. The GF and I were talking about how our wedding would be. We're not serious thining about getting married at this point... just sorta talking about it.

That's when I realized that both of our parents are now divorced and 3 of the 4 have new girlfriends/boyfriends.

So how the heck do you arrange that sort of thing? So much of a wedding is orientated around Parents of the bride/groom. And it's assumed they are together. Even things like seating at a dinner table seem to be a problem..

Luckily there's no bad blood between the broken couples.. so I really don't need to worry about them fighting or anything. But I'd still like to avoid awkward situations like sitting them all at the same dinner table (like it's customary to do).

Should I still ask the parents to make a speach together? Or should all 4 go up seperately? If they go up seperately, should their new significant other come up with them?

How do I ask my Dad to help pay for the wedding but not my mom (she cannot afford it)? The GF seems to expect her family to pay for 1/2.. so it'd kinda suck if my side didn't at least contribute a little..

I dunno why I'm even thinking about this... it's years away if it even happens...

[TheGame1976]

TweetThe bride should pay for 100% of the wedding. The groom is responsible for small expenses. I know this because my cheap ass ex- father in law had a book and gave me a bill even after my parents threw us a 300 person reception for their friends.

[Keiser]

TweetElope

[TheGame1976]

TweetSeriously GG there are tons of books on this information. I was dragged through a year of it.

[Got Gear?]

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Originally posted by Keiser
Elope

It's crossed our minds...

The GF seems to want to just run off to Hawaii and get married there. Only invite close friends and family.. only pay for close family that cannot afford it (like my mom).

I'm more for a "Big Party" style wedding. Friends and family together celebrating and having fun. Not some stuffy, formal wedding.. As long as I get married, have my friends and family there to celebrate it with me, and enjoy myself doing it.. I'm happy. I could care less if the wedding is a catastrophie so long as the following ingredients are present (Friends, family, fun, and a marrige license).

[Got Gear?]

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Originally posted by TheGame1976
Seriously GG there are tons of books on this information. I was dragged through a year of it.

Yes, your probably right..

It's so far away if it even happens that I'm still in the "Thinking about it, but don't need the info badly enough to get off my ass and research it" phase.

[Plucks]

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Originally posted by Got Gear?
It's crossed our minds...

The GF seems to want to just run off to Hawaii and get married there. Only invite close friends and family.. only pay for close family that cannot afford it (like my mom).

I'm more for a "Big Party" style wedding. Friends and family together celebrating and having fun. Not some stuffy, formal wedding.. As long as I get married, have my friends and family there to celebrate it with me, and enjoy myself doing it.. I'm happy. I could care less if the wedding is a catastrophie so long as the following ingredients are present (Friends, family, fun, and a marrige license).

Man you sound more like the woman in the relationship. Guys are the ones that want to elope and women are the ones that want the big fancy wedding. But seriously its something that you need to sit down with her and the entire family and figure out together. Its your special day so you need to make sure that you guys feel comforatable and happy with what is going on.

[Auriflex]

TweetGet married in the manner that pleases the two of you the most. After all, you are the ones who (might be) getting married. Do your own thing and dont sweat the drama. If you want to elope, then do it. If you want a big wedding, then plan for one. There isnt a right or wrong with the manner of the marriage ceremony, just that you can love that person for the rest of your life.

And requesting family to make a speech, or even just sit together is perfectly fine. If they have a problem with it, tell them to keep it to themselves. Most can butch up for a few hours.

However it pans out - good luck to both of you.

[jipped genes]

Tweetmy folks wanted a southern baptist wedding and my wifes folks wanted a catholic service even though my wife says she has never been to church in her life but as the parents feuded we called them on the cell phone told them to meet us at the justice of the peace. he married us deal done no worries and no huge bills for flowers that are going to die the next day. glad we did it this way.

[rado]

Tweetnotice how not one lady anwsered

[Auriflex]

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Originally posted by rado
notice how not one lady anwsered

I'm a little feminine acting. That counts for something.

[3Vandoo]

TweetTell yourself that you are lucky and not italian



hahahahaha

[rado]

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Originally posted by Auriflex
I'm a little feminine acting. That counts for something.

ok, accepted

[lxorl]

TweetI am in the process of planing my wedding for next summer, and it is already frustrating. I feal your pain.

[newgirl]

TweetI did the big wedding and I have eloped.

ELOPE. Trust me.