FATHERS

[FUZO]

WHAT WOULD YOU REALLY DO NO JOKE ALL SERIOUS IF YOUR DAUGHTER THAT GREW UP IN A GREAT HOUSE HOLD GOOD MORALS AND SUCH AND SHE BECAME A *****. DID MOVIES OR PROSTITUTED OR WAS EVEN IN THAT GIRLS GONE WILD MOVIES.

[OldWiseGuy]

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You can only halfass control your kids till they turn 18. After that we can just hope for the best.

[6p6]

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ah man thats a hard one

[VveTTe917]

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My daughter is almost 6, she's definatly a wild one already, and loves the boys, to dance, and attention lol. But me and the wifey are strict on her and wouldn't let anything like that happen cause we'd kill her. Seriously I'll never be ready to handle her hanging with dudes and what not, juiced up daddy has something to say and 'show' to these punks. My friends always tell me, let me know when you'll need me to take care of business.

[daved150]

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damn...what a question...what could you do??! she's my daughter, and no matter what, i will love her forever, regardless of the poor decissions she makes in her life. i will try not to have that happen, but should it happen, you can only relay your disappointment in her decission, and hope she wakes up! we're here to guide and teach, to protect and shelter, and after the age of 18, our job is basicly done....let's just hope we all do the best we can and instill our belief's strong enough that they (our daughters) make the right decissions...thanks fuzzuy nut's...i needed to worry about this now!!!

[kite]

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I don't know that there's anything you could do. I'd be dissappointed and absolutely livid, but that goes without saying.

[daved150]

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thanks fuzo...i'm still wondering about that shyt!!! what's your next question...what would you do if your son was gay??!! geez..

[bowbow]

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For those that say once they hit 18 your job is done as a father I feel sorry for you. You are the ones that will have more problems. A fathers job is never done. If you don't have any influence on your kids after there 18 that's your own fault. Many will need more guidance than ever and I plan on doing everything possible.

Now for the question, As said, it would be very disappointing and I would feel that I had failed as a parent. That's why it's so important for girls to have a good father figure when they are young so they are confident with themselves and don't need to look for attention from a man in that way when they are older.

[O2BESOHUGE]

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YOU KNOW IN THE BIBLE...IT SAYS TRAIN UP A CHILD THE WAY THEY SHOULD BE AND WHEN THEY ARE OLD THEY WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT



O2

[FUZO]

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I WAS WATCHING INTERVENTION LAST NIGHT AND THIS MANS DAUGHTER WAS WHORING TO GET DRUG MONEY

[daved150]

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[quote=bowbow;784252]For those that say once they hit 18 your job is done as a father I feel sorry for you. You are the ones that will have more problems. A fathers job is never done. If you don't have any influence on your kids after there 18 that's your own fault. Many will need more guidance than ever and I plan on doing everything possible.[quote]

i hope your not referring to me....when i said your job is BASICLY done...i meant just that. it is basicly done. you should've already instilled right and wrong. you should have already help mold there morals. you should have already given them alot of the tools they will need to survive. never did i say "throw them out and forget about them". i know you didnt say i did, but the implication is there. as of 17, i didnt listen to much my parents had to say...but, the tools my mom and dad instilled in me was always there...i didnt ASK, i just did! and my parents didnt guide me in shyt after i turned 18...i didnt turn to them again untill i was 24 or 25 with my own kids! (witch would've been well after my bigger mistakes, were i to have any) i didnt become a drug dealer...i didnt get hooked on crack, i didnt fall into a life of crime...i turned out great, thank ya very much. and another thing, if they DARED to TRY to influence my life, i woulda rebelled like you never seen....no, its the parents that dont instill propper values while their kids are young that i feel sorry for...the parents that try to make up for it when they get older, those i feel sorry for...by 18....you've better HAVE done your job!

[T-Man007]

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Psycologist have proven that a very high majority of girls who seek that lifestyle did so because their father wasn't as loving as he should have been. Thus, they seek that male satisfaction elsewhere. There was a long chapter on it in this book I read about raising boys. There is a certain age where the father's presence in the daughters life is critical. If the dad is right on during that pahse of her life, the chances of her going that route are very very slim. However, if it did happen, I would not be happy. But, because of the books I have read on the topic I would know it was the result of something I did wrong. I either didn't explain morals well enough, I didn't spend enough time with her, something. Young women don't seek out to be on Girls Gone Wild or in Porn by a natural choice, it's usually the result of something that they are trying to fill the void on. Or, maybe it's their way of getting daddy's attention. Of course, the GGW chicks are usually drunk, so they don't really count, but the ones that grow up to be strippers and porn chicks usually didn't have a good relationship with their dad or they were molested or something. Very very few seek out to do that type of thing. There was a big study on it and I forget the statisics but there were overwhelming in support of the father's failures that led to their 'needing' that male approval or male compassion. Gilrs who grow up with very healthy relationship with their dads who feel loved and admired by their dads usually don't need to find that type of thing in other men until they are considering a companion. It's not 100%, nothing is 100%, but it's not likelye for a girl to go that route with a good relationship with her father.

[T-Man007]

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For those that say once they hit 18 your job is done as a father I feel sorry for you. You are the ones that will have more problems. A fathers job is never done. If you don't have any influence on your kids after there 18 that's your own fault. Many will need more guidance than ever and I plan on doing everything possible.

I agree 100%. A dad's job never ends, ever. You are a dad until the day you die. Even when you are a grand dad, you are still a dad.

[daved150]

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I agree 100%. A dad's job never ends, ever. You are a dad until the day you die. Even when you are a grand dad, you are still a dad.

well, i do agree with that, but you've better have done your job while they were young.

[T-Man007]

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well, i do agree with that, but you've better have done your job while they were young.

Absolutely! Most of the books I've read on it give the most important ages for which a father must be actively present in their childs life. For boys, which I've read the most on because I have a boy, it's the age frame of 4 to 8. That is the crutial years because that is when they start to emulate dad, that is when they start to compy your actions, your words, your behaviors, everything. It's very very important during this time for them to see you and their mother spending quality time together so he knows how important the wife is. It's also when they begin to form the foundation of being a man. I watch the things my son tries to copy and I encourage him. Unless its something bad, then I explain to him why I should not have done something and I tell him what would have been better to do and I also appologize to him for doing the wrong thing. My son is smart and very very rarely does he make the wrong choice. He will admit when he's done something wrong and he forgives quickly when something is done to him. I could learn a few lessons from him, and I do quite often. A childs heart can be so pure and honest that it amazes me sometimes. I think the fact I work from home helps alot. I get to see him during the day and night. Some days I take him with me to do my job and we have some good quality time.