what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

[SMILEY FACE]

Re: what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

diggy..u did the right thing...no worries bro...if she has the moeny to go shoppin every time she gets paid, i mean at least, she should pay once or gas at least..........damn do what fit said: start playing the busy part, LET HER MISS YOU MORE, AND THE MORE U IGNORE, THE MORE THEY WANT U BACK, OH AND DONT LET EM KNOW WHAT U ARE DOING EITHER...USUALLY WOMEN LIKE HARD MEN , AND WHAT I MEAN WITH HARD MEN IS THEY TEST U IN A HARD SITUATION AND THEY WANT TO SEE A REAL MEN AND NOT A MAN WHO BREAKS DOWN AND CRY AND CANT DO THIS AND CANT DO THAT......
TRUST ME AND LEARN FROM ME, I 'AM TELLIN U FROM MY OWN MISTAKES

[Starr]

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I like what Mick has to say. But you are also young. It takes years to get a grip on your relationship style. Take these experiences as lessons and put them in your book of things you don't like in relationships:

1. Princess Syndrome
2. Lack of Respect for Money

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Ciao, Gotta Go...

[O2BESOHUGE]

Re: what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

I AGREE WITH FIT, BE BUSY AND SEE IF SHES AFTER THE FUNDS OR YOU

[diggi]

Re: what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

Yes all of you are right.. and someone mentioned that she's probably used to guys paying for her ass all the time. She told me last night, My ex wasn't never about money.. and some BS.. And yes I did and still am playing that "i'm busy" game.. she calls non-stop..leaves voice mails.. I just call her whenever I feel ..

Mick you are right about the commitment part..but the thing is for some reason I always end up with girls like these.. so I know the reason you're saying I should be dating more women...

She is 23 - not that young but still has alot to learn..and I'm 25 and still go through this shit..

But **** it at least I didn't hold anything back.. I told her what I had to say..if she doesn't like it..phuck off then..

[T-Man007]

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She's not dumb, she'd working you bro! It happens to ALL of us at one point or another. She expects to spend all of her money on her and all of your money on her, this is a time bomb. Time to move on bro, you don't need this BS. Let he go find some dude in his 20's that can afford what you've been doing for her, she will see the light real soon.

[mick-G]

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It sounds to me Diggi that the reason you are getting into the same probs over and over, is that you are approching women the same way all the time. You met a woman, then you date for a short time and take the woman/girl out whenever your with her, then you think you are ready for a commitment. Your 25 bro!! Common!! You are very young to be wanting commitment at such a young age. What, you think you wont find someone else, lol?! When i was going out with 20 yr old women/girls, there were two kinds..the ones that are very very attractive and expect guys to pay for everything and be entertained everytime they go out, then then are the ones that are very attractive, but are not into all this frills and entertainment and care about a relationship and goals. If she were at all caring about you and a possible future, she would be worried about all the stupid spending you are doing on her and would be happy spending time with you at your home or doing more quality things, like talking and actually getting to know one another. If she is spending all her earning on herself and clothes, thats got to tell you something about what kind of girl this is. Would you want this girl as a future serious partner, or perhaps even a fiancee?? Imo, you were not upfront with her enough, lol! I would have told her my mind exactly and i think she would get my point. Next time she calls tell her exactly what you think, and if she doesn't get it, just tell her you don't think you and her are on the same plane. Then tell her when she decides to growup and spending all her $, to give you a call. I would not even think about calling her after that. I myself am not and was never into this "game playing' either. Either you want her or you don't and visa/versa. If i have to ignore a girl then im not with her simple as that. Why should i have to makeup excuses and say im busy if im not? Forget about her and move on. Perhaps, quit worrying about finding another girl as a priority and get your future together and think about a serious relationship when your in your 30's.

[DJDIGGLER]

Re: what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

Like I always say bro old school is old school for a reason! The days of men paying for the ladies is over. Everytime I used to pay I'd find out the girl was shallow. So I stopped paying and made girls pay for their own stuff anytime we went out, and they'd even pay for me sometimes. I found myself surrounded by women that were actually worth wasting my time with, instead of the usual ho's that are just using you.

Don't be a fool and pay for women anymore. The occasional movie or dinner on you is ok. But it should be few and far between. If you pay for everything right from the start then that is what they will expect of you, and that will be your fault. If you only pay once in awhile they won't expect really anything in terms of money or material things from you.

Be glad that ho is gone. She's a user anyway. No girl that cared or respected you would respond like that. Plus if she had any ounce of decency, or manners, she would've demanded to pay sometimes, and let her!! Unless your trump, let women want you for you not your money!

[antihero]

Re: what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

yo diggi...you did the right thing, at least in my opinion...

[Stout1]

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Sounds like she has a bad case of princess syndrome, not good. Nip it in the butt!

Ever watch the movie "A bronx tale?" Does she pass the door lock test at least?

Ha ha that shit is classic. I've used the "door lock test" before. Good shit.

[antihero]

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Ha ha that shit is classic. I've used the "door lock test" before. Good shit.

i havent seen it, so what is the "door lock test"

[lxorl]

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i usually pay for everything.. but if she doesnt offer or isnt extremely gracious then i take offense. you cant be expected to pay all the time.