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This happened to me a while back..
When i used to be an ironworker i had to commute about an hour and half to wherever my job was. During the last 6 months of my job i drove the same route everyday. This happened during the summer months so i was working alot more than usual, 6 days a week at 10-12 a day, and that is where the bulk of my earnings came from. So, just to give you an idea of what was going on, i would leave at 4 am and i would not return home until 8-9 pm..yeah, it sucked badly.
So heres the deal.
My wife had to borrow my commuter car (for reasons i don't remember) on day and she had found a map from mapquest and handwritten directions with a note "can't wait to see you" ( wich is no big deal bc thats how i found my jobsites and there were several old ones in my car at any point and time) and she had asked me about it...I said "i don't know, theres alot of those in my car" then she replied by simply handing me the map and the note. I looked at it and instantly knew i was fucked and fucked bigtime but i was innocent as hell....It was a map from my house to some womans house thats address happen to fall on the route i take to work. Of course i had no idea who this person was or how that map got into my car...But, being a guy with half of a brain i knew that whatever i said would be the exact same thing i would say if i was lying...just that it would be the truth..The fact remains that all the evidence was against me and against me in a big way so saying "i've never seen it before" or " I have no idea how it got in my car" would be a futile attempt and perceived as a lie...but, thats what i went with and of course she didn't belive me. But, at that point in our lives we had been together for 11 years and her trust ran deep with me...but c'mon....i was busted, BIGTIME! and there was no way i could be mad at her for feeling the way she did...All i could say is that I had no idea what was going on bc, well... I really didn't.
Then came the depression and the upset stomach and the feeling that i didn't love her the way i have always said i did...but what could i really do??? i totally understood why she was feeling the way she was and i did everything i could to help her get better ( i think the women here understand the type of gut wrenching feeling my wife was dealing with) although she took my word for it, she basicly gave into the fact that i had cheated on her and had accepted it...now her broken heart had to mend, if at all possible.
This went on for about three months, it was bad, really bad for the both of us. Her depression just got worse and worse, everything i did lead her to belive that i was cheating on her, the things i said were mean and cruel and my love for her was gone.
But all i was really thinking was "damn, when is she going to get over this, i didn't do anyting and i'm tired of saying it over and over again" On the other hand she was my wife and it destroyed me to see her this way.
Then one day she couldn't internalize it any longer and decided to call her best friend in Idaho and get things off of her chest...
To make this long story a bit shorter, It turns out that when her friend and her husband had came to California to visit us 6 months earlier, they had borrowed my car to go visit another friend and had used mapquest for directions....so, the note, the map and my car...badda boom...badda bing...
funny how things work out....
This happened to me a while back..
When i used to be an ironworker i had to commute about an hour and half to wherever my job was. During the last 6 months of my job i drove the same route everyday. This happened during the summer months so i was working alot more than usual, 6 days a week at 10-12 a day, and that is where the bulk of my earnings came from. So, just to give you an idea of what was going on, i would leave at 4 am and i would not return home until 8-9 pm..yeah, it sucked badly.
So heres the deal.
My wife had to borrow my commuter car (for reasons i don't remember) on day and she had found a map from mapquest and handwritten directions with a note "can't wait to see you" ( wich is no big deal bc thats how i found my jobsites and there were several old ones in my car at any point and time) and she had asked me about it...I said "i don't know, theres alot of those in my car" then she replied by simply handing me the map and the note. I looked at it and instantly knew i was fucked and fucked bigtime but i was innocent as hell....It was a map from my house to some womans house thats address happen to fall on the route i take to work. Of course i had no idea who this person was or how that map got into my car...But, being a guy with half of a brain i knew that whatever i said would be the exact same thing i would say if i was lying...just that it would be the truth..The fact remains that all the evidence was against me and against me in a big way so saying "i've never seen it before" or " I have no idea how it got in my car" would be a futile attempt and perceived as a lie...but, thats what i went with and of course she didn't belive me. But, at that point in our lives we had been together for 11 years and her trust ran deep with me...but c'mon....i was busted, BIGTIME! and there was no way i could be mad at her for feeling the way she did...All i could say is that I had no idea what was going on bc, well... I really didn't.
Then came the depression and the upset stomach and the feeling that i didn't love her the way i have always said i did...but what could i really do??? i totally understood why she was feeling the way she was and i did everything i could to help her get better ( i think the women here understand the type of gut wrenching feeling my wife was dealing with) although she took my word for it, she basicly gave into the fact that i had cheated on her and had accepted it...now her broken heart had to mend, if at all possible.
This went on for about three months, it was bad, really bad for the both of us. Her depression just got worse and worse, everything i did lead her to belive that i was cheating on her, the things i said were mean and cruel and my love for her was gone.
But all i was really thinking was "damn, when is she going to get over this, i didn't do anyting and i'm tired of saying it over and over again" On the other hand she was my wife and it destroyed me to see her this way.
Then one day she couldn't internalize it any longer and decided to call her best friend in Idaho and get things off of her chest...
To make this long story a bit shorter, It turns out that when her friend and her husband had came to California to visit us 6 months earlier, they had borrowed my car to go visit another friend and had used mapquest for directions....so, the note, the map and my car...badda boom...badda bing...
funny how things work out....
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