how do you battle depression ?

[kite]

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Don't really have anything to add, I think everyone here's covered it. Just know that you have all of our support and we're all here if you need anything.

[badasz32]

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life is a rollercoaster bro, the highs are high and the lows are low but it happens too fast to just watch it go by. get your head in the game bro. im sure veryperson on this board has a heart broken story. things happen for a reason even if it seems unclear at the time. rely on yourself and your faith bro. when i get down i just think anyday im a live is a good day. dont set monumental goals just take lil steps toward your happines. this time away from her will help u find out what u really want. if u decide u cant live without her then do something about it. if u decide its time to start over then totally cut her off. no one here can make that decision for you bro. you and only you control your own life.

[OldWiseGuy]

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Sounds like it's time to make some changes in YOUR LIFE. While your layed off and she is gone. Get a new job and a new girlfriend. Take a week off from training then start over with a new split. Make some new friends. And by all means go out and have a good time. At times life sucks but it's not the end of the world. There is a time and place for everything and this is the time to do it. You will enjoy your revamped life. So walk around happy and good things will happen.

[T-Man007]

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all of you.. are like family to have.. wouldn`t know what to do without you guys or this board..

thanks alot.

Man, if you ever want to talk just put it here. That way you can be as open as you need to. Nobody on here is perfect and we will never judge you for going through tough times. We all have in some way or another been affected by tough times.

"Whatever doesn't kill you, only makes you stonger"

You will look back at this time in your life and be happy it happened one day. When I got married I was still in the health club industry. Well, I got a job offer 1,600 miles from me and my wife's home and I took it. 6 weeks after getting here (Colorado), the investor backed out and the gym closed. So, here I was married less than one year, new city, no friends, no family, no job. I had two choices, first was to move back and beg for my old job back or the second, make somethign out of nothing. I knew at that point in my life, and marriage, that it was time to show everybody what I was made of. I worked a job I hated for a full year. I lived paycheck to paycheck. We ran up our credit card debt and added new cards. This whole time I was preparing for my future. I never gave up. No mater how bad it got I fought my ass off to succeed. I had to prove to my wife, my family, her family and myself that no matter what happens I will always land on my feet. And that's just what I did. 18 months after losing my dream job I was the owner of a new home, my own company and about to be a new father. The toughest choice usually pays the greatest rewards.

The best thing about being at your worst point is once you pass it, you know life will be on an upward slope from that day on.

[kite]

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The best thing about being at your worst point is once you pass it, you know life will be on an upward slope from that day on.

That's so true. Anytime your life seems turned upside down, it's most likely just a transition period in your life, and transitions are NEVER easy. It hurts to get get stronger, but the end result is always worth it.

[DeezGunz]

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you want my opinion? And this is without reading your entire post or anyone elses reply. Depression happens for various reasons, I was depressed a while back and I had absolutely no reason, i guess thats kind of a reason tho. But anyway, if it is true depression nothing you can say or do is going to help you get through it, your friends will give you bullcrap advice that just sounds like the right thing to say because they heard it on dr. phil or oprah. The right thing to do is to take action asap, go to a professional, and if they suggest an anti depressent or anti anxiety medication then take them up on it. Depression was the worst time of my life, and I dont know what the hell I did to get so deep into it. I would lay in my bed at night, and just think bad thoughts, I pulled several all nighters just layin in my bed thinkin the worst things and there was no real reason. Take my honest advice, if things are real bad, seek help from someone other then your parents or friends, someone who is thinking with a clear rational head and knows how to get you out of that rut and back on your feet!

[mick-G]

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Not to contradict your post Deezgunzz, but i had a very close friend that was clinically depressed and the prob was in finding a clinical psychiatrist that really cared and did the proper testing first to find out if in fact they were clinically depressed before administering medication for treatment, as many Dr's in this profession are very easy in giving out scripts without doing anything but asking a few questions. I would only medicate, if all indicators (testing and evaluations) point to clinical depression, and only then. I will even go as far as saying most of these Dr's are more than willing to give out meds to ppl that don't need them at all, and just need counseling sessions. I can not stress enough, that if you are feeling like you Are feeling depressed without control, Yes, like Deezgunzz says go seek help and see someone that is a professional and a clinical psychiatrist and Not a physicologist, as they are the best ppl to evaluate it.

[Equalizer]

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Just keep your head up Diggi....we all worry about these little things in life but when a major event does occur in our lives we look back and say "wow those werent really problems it was all in my head". The key to is realizing what you can change and change it and realizing what you cant change and accepting it, if you try and change things you cant it will make you crazy. When you think you have it bad you gotta sit down and look at the world around you and do some soul searching and look at the things you do have to be thankful for and then focus on your life and where you wanna go and make some kind of guide to go by to reach your goals. I know a woman you have loved and lost has a powerful effect but you just have to accept it, see what went wrong and use it for the future, but dont beat yourself up no matter what mistakes you have made, just try and fix those mistakes if you can and if you cant accept it and learn from it, if you beat yourself up over it you will get no where you will just stay down.

[diggi]

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Here I am.. umm.. she (my ex) has left yesterday for Germany.. and.. called me yesterday to say bye.. etc.. she told me she will write me e-mails etc..so we can keep in touch.. it`s especially hard now that she will be gone until August 18th.. I or both of us have never been apart from eachother that long..

I have couple of questions to ask here...

She tells me she loves me and all..but sometimes when she gets mad she tells me she doesn`t love me and she always goes back the time I treated her bad..etc so thats cool. Now, should I respond to her e-mails or just ignore them and delete them..

If I ignore her completely during these 2 months..but I mean completely.. well the only way for her to communicate with me is via e-mail msn/aim.. so if I ignore all these things..do you think she will be scratching her head wondering where I am ?? will she miss me at all.. or even forget about me completely.. I was her first.

And even when she comes back if she tries to contact me..I`d ignore all her atempts..so its like I`m dead to her.. she won`t have any clue where I am if I`m still alive or dead... etc..

[edit] she will have tons of fun while in there so.. this fun can it influence her mind.. so she forgets about me completely..?

[SUGARBABY]

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DIGGI - YOU TWO ARE NOT GOOD FOR EACH OTHER!!

Nothing here has showed maturity on either of your sides. Email her and let her know you wish her the best but you don't want to play games. You aren't interested in persuing a relationship with her because of this.

THEN MOVE ON.

[Shiner22nd]

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I agree.

When she emails you, be polite and respectful, but don't tell her that you want to continue this. It's ultimately your decision, but it doesn't sound like the two of you have a very good/healthy/trusting relationship. It seems that Sugar has a good idea...if not break up, then At Least use this time to get things right personally and when she comes back you can see how the two of you connect on that level. Good luck bro and let us know if there's anything more we can do

[daved150]

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DIGGI - YOU TWO ARE NOT GOOD FOR EACH OTHER!!

Nothing here has showed maturity on either of your sides. Email her and let her know you wish her the best but you don't want to play games. You aren't interested in persuing a relationship with her because of this.

THEN MOVE ON.

EXCELLENT ADVISE!!

[trip]

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you want my opinion? And this is without reading your entire post or anyone elses reply. Depression happens for various reasons, I was depressed a while back and I had absolutely no reason, i guess thats kind of a reason tho. But anyway, if it is true depression nothing you can say or do is going to help you get through it, your friends will give you bullcrap advice that just sounds like the right thing to say because they heard it on dr. phil or oprah. The right thing to do is to take action asap, go to a professional, and if they suggest an anti depressent or anti anxiety medication then take them up on it. Depression was the worst time of my life, and I dont know what the hell I did to get so deep into it. I would lay in my bed at night, and just think bad thoughts, I pulled several all nighters just layin in my bed thinkin the worst things and there was no real reason. Take my honest advice, if things are real bad, seek help from someone other then your parents or friends, someone who is thinking with a clear rational head and knows how to get you out of that rut and back on your feet!

Deez, excellent post, it is a nightmare most fortunately will never know the horrors of.

Diggi,

Concern is your plan for while being laid off, is to stay in the house. That's not good and may be an indication you are in a certain stage of depression, ie, their comes a point where most activities provide "NO JOY" whatsoever there is a tendency to limit all social contact to the minimum. Seeing others happy and doing things and knowing you don't feel those things, or no matter what you try and do you can't feel those happy feelings is also painful.

The key thing to understand: It is a chemical issue, not a personal or character issue.

The main question to ponder is: Do you feel JOY?

And on a regular basis.

Do not be embarrased about being a downlooker, how you view life is in the long is hardly ever permanent, it's usually just temporary. We have all looked down before. You can't have good without bad, no, pleasure without pain.

Try and do what you need for you and no one else. If you think doctor is right thing to do, like deez says, go asap. And as I'm sure you know AS can lead to depression.

good luck & keep postin

[desialbob]

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Somethin I learned early on is that Pain is necessary but suffering is optional.Sounds like you've got alot of support here! People who care and don't require anything in return. Some people don't have anyone because they cut themselves off from the world. Stay receptive and it'll pass.

[mick-G]

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Diggi, im guessing here, but is she the closest gf youv'e had or maybe your first love ?? If so, many men who have lost their first love will tell you that the first is always the hardest to recover from. Some do go into an obcessive, depressed behavior, because in their mind, this girl is the "one and only", but let me ask you this?? Can you honestly say in your heart that this girl feels the same feelings for you?? Most women that are truely "in love" with their man would be hesitant about going away for so long a period without seeing them. Did she say anything to the effect that she will very much miss you, "call me", "i'll send you letters" etc. When i went out with women that were deeply involved with me i personally didn't have to do much or worry about them, because they were constantly sending letters, calling me, all the little things women do when they are "in love" with their man. If she is not doing these things or concerned, why do you want to cling to this?? I think it just may be that you want to hold on to something you wish you had, but Diggi, its not there, and prob wasn't from the beginning. If you end it by an email or calling her explain to her the reasons for your breaking it off. If you continue to cling to something that is not there you will only be delaying what will inevitably happen anyway, and you will be prolonging your pain. One thing i have learned is that the first is always the hardest, and that time heals all wounds.