how do you battle depression ?

[diggi]

i`m probably the only one who whines on this board all the time..but what can I do.. I honestly have more respect for all of you here than my real friends..

Right now, honestly my life completely sucks..

I`m being laid off from my work... and I will collect unemployment which is ok.. but will sit in the house until I find a new job or when the company calls me again.

My ex gf is still in my mind 24/7.. and its getting to the point where I cant take it anymore..

She is leaving tomorrow to Germany to see her family and friends and will return on August 18th... so thats what 2 months me and her will not see/talk or contact eachother.. first time ever this long..

My ex is adding fuel to the fire to all this situation and its just leading to major/serious depression where I might seek professional help.

One time she tells me she loves me, then she tells me she stopped loving me.. she blames my gear use and how I became more of an "asshole" type of person..and you know I seriously now believe in ROID RAGE no matter what anyone says..I know how I am when I`m off and I know when I`m on.. she tells me if I become clean and more like myself she`ll be with me..but that`s BS and I don`t believe it and I wouldn`t do it..

I am mad after 3 yrs I got USED mentaly, financialy USED in every fuking way and its not fair. Sometimes I get this visions in my head murdering her but then when I come to my clear senses I regret everything. She is right about some things.. sometimes I would find an excuses not to see her or hang out with her... and 80% I take my full blame regarding the break up.

Other than that..all my good friends are either on vacation... or in the service so I really have no close friends to hang out with..

I need to do something to keep myself busy from all this BS.. and I honestly don`t remember the day I woke up and felt happy and good.

I wish there was some other way to get out of this situation..but there is not..

BUT I wish there was a way so I can get inside my head , my brain and remove that piece of brain where my ex gf is stored.. or something ..

On top of that my training sucks, diet sucks and I`ve become a downlooker.

I`m sorry cause I`m whining too much.. but I seriously don`t know what to do anymore..

[BIGMOFO]

Re: how do you battle depression ?

Just decide to be happy and not let things get you down. If you think its something you cant handle go to the doctor! maybe you need to take a break from training and dieting. life is full of ups and downs everyone goes through hard times. And for your job, one door has to close for another to open. a better job is on its way bro, just dont let it get you down. Yes that is easier said than done, but what good is it doing you to be down and worry about it? NONE.....

Take care and if its more than you can deal with....go to the DOCTOR!!!!!

[T-Man007]

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Just stop and think about all the kids who grow up orphans, think about 3rd world poverty, think about the qudriplegic, think about the man who can't see (and never has),....there are a lot of things is this world that you don't suffer from.

It's about being thankful for what you do have and not what you don't have. This isn't a lecture bro, just how I look at things. Anytime I start having a pitty party over what is happening to me I think about the worst possible thing that could happen, and instantly become thankful for what I do have.

Depressions is no joke, if it's clinical depression then you need to see your doc. They have a test you can take to see how you rank. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. But if it's not clinical then it's just mind over matter.

[BIGMOFO]

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Just stop and think about all the kids who grow up orphans, think about 3rd world poverty, think about the qudriplegic, think about the man who can't see (and never has),....there are a lot of things is this world that you don't suffer from.

It's about being thankful for what you do have and not what you don't have. This isn't a lecture bro, just how I look at things. Anytime I start having a pitty party over what is happening to me I think about the worst possible thing that could happen, and instantly become thankful for what I do have.

Depressions is no joke, if it's clinical depression then you need to see your doc. They have a test you can take to see how you rank. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. But if it's not clinical then it's just mind over matter.

Very good words my brother!!!!

[O2BESOHUGE]

Re: how do you battle depression ?

THE SWEETEST REVENGE IS SUCCESS!! KEEP YOUR CHIN UP AND DO WHAT MOTIVATES YOU - DONT THINK ABOUT HER....

THE BEST WAY TO GET OVER A GIRL IS TO GET UNDER ANOTHER ONE!!

O2

[mick-G]

Re: how do you battle depression ?

Diggi, you need a clean break from this girl. Women that change that often need to growup in my book, but then again, maybe she is somewhat right in her claiming you are an asshole when you are on.? Could this be the case?? If so maybe gear use is not for you if you can not control your moods, especially if you are depressed you should not even be taking them. You are not that bad off really...think of this as a time for change, and to start life anew. Quit dwelling on the past and start your future. Only you can control you destiny, and no one else. It is another case if you are clinically depressed. If you think this is the case get off aas entirely and seek a qualified clinical psychiatrist. There are tests you can take to find out if you are.

[O2BESOHUGE]

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GREAT ADVICE MICK!

[daved150]

Re: how do you battle depression ?

Diggi, you need a clean break from this girl. Women that change that often need to growup in my book, but then again, maybe she is somewhat right in her claiming you are an asshole when you are on.? Could this be the case?? If so maybe gear use is not for you if you can not control your moods, especially if you are depressed you should not even be taking them. You are not that bad off really...think of this as a time for change, and to start life anew. Quit dwelling on the past and start your future. Only you can control you destiny, and no one else. It is another case if you are clinically depressed. If you think this is the case get off aas entirely and seek a qualified clinical physicologist. There are tests you can take to find out if you are.

great advise again mick!! diggi- i just went through some serious challenges...career was tanked, money problems= relationship problems..throw a couple kids and there needs in the mix...well, i hope you get the point. i to felt depressed..but, i had to keep turning, keep moving, keep trying to get my shit together..now, i think i've turned the corner...i think!! bro, you have to controll it...dont let it controll you..

[mick-G]

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Thanks Bros! But you know Diggi what i do when iam cluster plucked with litter?? I throw it away and forget about it. Thats what you need to do. Screw all this stuff this is messing up your life and think about yourself. Damn bro, there are soo many women in this world, and she isn't the only one, and Yes there are even better looking ones, lol! Go out and have some fun then get to business!

[geesler]

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sometimes I would find an excuses not to see her or hang out with her...

I've done this exact same thing before with someone I cared about and still do for, but Ive come to realize, if you do this THERE IS A REASON you do it- it means your inner self is protecting you even its against what you think you want


I tend to be a downlooker also, lots of things always on my mind (living in a new city, hard to make new friends in a city where you don't really know anyone and all your work friends are married and just stay at home all the time.

One exercise that helps alot I've found is to write the shit out- bring a paper with you everywhere when you are feeling down and write down what you are thinking. This makes it obvious to you when you are thinking the same thing over and over again. And for some reason writing it down makes you think twice- you will find yourself saying to yourself- fuck it I've already wrote this 3 times now, and will get easier to say fuck it and think about something else when you are in a rut. Another really important thing to do is to change something about your daily routine, don't do the same thing all the time. Think of something you haven't done or a place you haven't gone and do that. Another thing that helps to stop being a downlooker is to make it a point to say hello to people when you pass them on the street or wherever.

Hope that helps and feel free to PM me whenever and we can chat on AIM or whatever bro. Take care and take things in stride and you will be ok, there's alot of us that feel the same way you do alot of the time

[diggi]

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all of you.. are like family to have.. wouldn`t know what to do without you guys or this board..

thanks alot.

[O2BESOHUGE]

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KEEP YOUR CHIN UP DIGGI!! WE'RE PRAYING FOR YOU

O2

[daved150]

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all of you.. are like family to have.. wouldn`t know what to do without you guys or this board..

thanks alot.

you'll be good bro. keep your head in the game.....and, you right,these guy's are a pretty good bunch (except for that mofo dude, watch out for him!)

[BIGMOFO]

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you'll be good bro. keep your head in the game.....and, you right,these guy's are a pretty good bunch (except for that mofo dude, watch out for him!)

yep theres always one mofo in the bunch!

[SUGARBABY]

Re: how do you battle depression ?

Diggi, you need to take care of yourself first.

What USED to make you happy (don't include people in this equation)

If you are having bad thoughts about harming someone (Lord knows we all do) and you think you need professional help - there is NOTHING wrong with that. The important thing to remember is you want to feel better.

All the ideas listed have merit ~ try setting a goal each day to help someone. You will receive gratification and happiness while doing good for someone deserving. It can be little things like paying for a stranger's (or homeless person's) lunch, buy flowers for that old lady neighbor of yours, send your mom a card telling her how much she means to you...