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sucks man.... just step back for a while and let time take its course. Not much you can do overthinking it.... or trying to plan out some sort of resolution. I have found that Time heals all wounds and its best just to let time take its course.
I'm Just an old chunk of Coal, But I'm gonna be a DIAMOND some day.
Last comment. Only you Diggi know where you stand in this. I know you are young, but if you really love this girl, and i don't think she is playing any game any other girl would, being not talked to for three wks, then i would setup a time to talk to her in person and tell her exactly how you feel and make sure you get her real feelings on whats been going on for the last several wks. If you truely love her and care for her, trust me this macho cold shoulder treatment will only be hurting yourself, unless you need your own time, which isn't a bad thing at your age, but by that time she may have found someone else for sure. Be true to yourself and listen to your own feelings, then make your judgment call. Only you really know this woman and what shes like.
Last comment. Only you Diggi know where you stand in this. I know you are young, but if you really love this girl, and i don't think she is playing any game any other girl would, being not talked to for three wks, then i would setup a time to talk to her in person and tell her exactly how you feel and make sure you get her real feelings on whats been going on for the last several wks. If you truely love her and care for her, trust me this macho cold shoulder treatment will only be hurting yourself, unless you need your own time, which isn't a bad thing at your age, but by that time she may have found someone else for sure. Be true to yourself and listen to your own feelings, then make your judgment call. Only you really know this woman and what shes like.
honestly, I don't think this is great advice at all. You didnt have a positive, effective, or respectful relationship when you WERE together - what makes you think you can have one now?
I would let her go - work on yourself - date a few girls and see if your ex truly does have the qualities you want or realize that there are better fish in the sea. Take a step back so you can analyze the relationship honestly instead of blinded by "love"
Mick I already did that with her.. I told her how I feel and she told me how she feels. She still tells me she loves me, she cares about me, but I really can`t ask her "hey you wanna be back together with me" as she never mentioned anything before. However, I did ask her if me and her would potentially end up together later down the road and she says yeah..
She has a guy right now so really if anything happens with them she will probably come back to me which is kinda fucked up but that`s how I feel it will go down..
Now - MY QUESTION IS THIS..
SHE HAS A BF AND WHENEVER WE TLAK ON THE PHONE SHE TELLS ME SHE LOVES ME OR BYE BABY ON THE PHONE LIKE WE ARE STILL TOGETHER..
she gets mad easily so you really have to pay attention to what youre saying..
I don`t know if I should tell her or openly ask her what will happend btw us.. do you want us to remain friends forever, I don`t wanna be on a rebound..
Last comment. Only you Diggi know where you stand in this. I know you are young, but if you really love this girl, and i don't think she is playing any game any other girl would, being not talked to for three wks, then i would setup a time to talk to her in person and tell her exactly how you feel and make sure you get her real feelings on whats been going on for the last several wks. If you truely love her and care for her, trust me this macho cold shoulder treatment will only be hurting yourself, unless you need your own time, which isn't a bad thing at your age, but by that time she may have found someone else for sure. Be true to yourself and listen to your own feelings, then make your judgment call. Only you really know this woman and what shes like.
Originally posted by SUGARBABY
honestly, I don't think this is great advice at all. You didnt have a positive, effective, or respectful relationship when you WERE together - what makes you think you can have one now?
I would let her go - work on yourself - date a few girls and see if your ex truly does have the qualities you want or realize that there are better fish in the sea. Take a step back so you can analyze the relationship honestly instead of blinded by "love"
Seriously i don't see anything "bad" about the above ^ advice ive given. Only Diggi knows what his relationship with this woman was like. We don't. Everyone in a relationship, whether it be dating or marriage has agruments. I know that it prob wasn't the most mature thing for her to have sent him the picture of her and this "bf", but i do know that alot of women if not called for three wks would have prob thought that they were being dumped and in trying to get the bf back resort to a jealousy tactic. Sure if Diggi needs room to grow and date other women that is one story, but other than this thread ive heard different things comming from him. Also if they have a communication problem then that is another issue also, and that is why i suggested that he talk to her one on one to get everything out in the open. I think after he gets things out in the open to find out what has been going on, it will make for better decision making. If he then decides he needs room, at least he will know he made a decision based on facts and not on what he thinks the facts are. They are both very young, but that dosent necessarly mean that they are blinded, by love.
run diggi run! she's no good for you. she's playin you like a violin! right now, she's in total control. she knows you're all buttered up for her. dont be an idiot bro.
Mick I already did that with her.. I told her how I feel and she told me how she feels. She still tells me she loves me, she cares about me, but I really can`t ask her "hey you wanna be back together with me" as she never mentioned anything before. However, I did ask her if me and her would potentially end up together later down the road and she says yeah..
She has a guy right now so really if anything happens with them she will probably come back to me which is kinda fucked up but that`s how I feel it will go down..
Now - MY QUESTION IS THIS..
SHE HAS A BF AND WHENEVER WE TLAK ON THE PHONE SHE TELLS ME SHE LOVES ME OR BYE BABY ON THE PHONE LIKE WE ARE STILL TOGETHER..
she gets mad easily so you really have to pay attention to what youre saying..
I don`t know if I should tell her or openly ask her what will happend btw us.. do you want us to remain friends forever, I don`t wanna be on a rebound..
For gods sake man, stop talking to her. She is just stringing you along; and honestly, it sounds like she is keeping you close in case it doesnt work out between her and the new guy or if she cant find someone else.
No offense, but you are a back up plan. Just drop her and soon.
Mick, thank you so much bro for everything you`ve told me it really helps alot..and to all of you other great guys and lads.
My situation is a bit strange I can taste it but.. there is a solution for everything.. right now I need to find a best one..
I can easily tell her to fuck off and never call me again but again I could be making a mistake only she knows whats really going on and if there was a way for me to enter inside her head and see everything for myself then the picture would be more brighter.
On the other note, Fit is RIGHT.. she is possibly thinking that she could have us both (me) and her new guy.. I don`t know anything about her relationship with him I know its fresh and nothing serious has happened YET.
It bothers me when she tells me she loves me and all this sweet puppy talk to me.. but on the other side there`s her BF. It`s not fair to me nor him. Should I just tell her to stop telling me she loves me and all that other sweet talk and if she wants to continue to talk to me in that way then she has to choose someone me or him.. but again this is not btw choosing. He is her current BF, I`m not..I`m her ex BF (good friend) right now.. thats about it.. I can`t tell her to choose btw. me or him..
For gods sake man, stop talking to her. She is just stringing you along; and honestly, it sounds like she is keeping you close in case it doesnt work out between her and the new guy or if she cant find someone else.
No offense, but you are a back up plan. Just drop her and soon.
my sentiments exactly - nothing you have mentioned shows that she has your best interest at heart - EVER!
-she gets mad easily
-she sent me a picture of her and her new boyfriend
-she is with another guy and still says 'i love you'
-she acts like nothing has changed
only she knows whats really going on and if there was a way for me to enter inside her head and see everything for myself then the picture would be more brighter.
Lol, that is why i suggested you talk one on one, to see where her heads at, and also to find out whether this is really a "bf", or a person she is using to make you jealous or to win you back. You must be direct in asking her about the bf or she may think you are just jealous. Tell her you are not jealous, but you want to find out where you stand, that you still have feelings for her. Tell her if she really has feelings for this other guy that you don't want to intrude, but then again you don't want to be played either. Tell her this upfront. If she can not give you a clear answer, or continues to play this little "cant we be friends, kissy, holding hands" thing, you need to make a decision. 1. continue being "friends" at what may be at the expense of your own feelings, or 2. split and no more contact and start making new life for yourself.
Ok, spoke to her over the phone and told her how I feel. She told me me and her BF are similar.. I look better than him but his personality is better than mine..she says that..
I told her that everything is in her hands now and thats that..
I wont chase her no more and I wont bother her and her new bf.
For gods sake man, stop talking to her. She is just stringing you along; and honestly, it sounds like she is keeping you close in case it doesnt work out between her and the new guy or if she cant find someone else.
No offense, but you are a back up plan. Just drop her and soon.
This is my thought exactly..^^^^^
Also, I have been through this. She is keeping you there for security reasons, she does still love you no doubt, but is having trouble letting go. She will continue to do this until she is secure in her new relationship and doesnt need you. It is time to be selfish, think of yourself and RUN. For Gods' sake RUN man.
Get over her.
The fastest way to get OVER one is
to get UNDER another.
go get laid, it will help put her behind you. It will work.
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