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[diggi]

Oh man..had a pretty damn bad day today real bad day..

To start things off...

I had a GF and was with her for 3 yrs.. we loved eachother very much and still do..but there was alot of drama, alot of fighting btw. us and we broke up many times but always got back together. About two and an half months ago we broke up kinda "for real" but we still continued to talk regulary over the phone etc.. for some reason we didn`t talk for like 3 wks.. she didn`t call I didn`t call and I finally had to call. I missed her alot and I called her.. well she is doing ok..she has this new boyfriend who treats her "right" and she says all her girlfriends are telling her he (the new bf) is the best guy she ever had... and that`s fine..

So today she calls me and tells me can you come online (MSN Messenger) I was like why.. she told me she had these pics she liked to show me from this dance she went to..and I said fine..

I came on and she started sending me pics..of her and her friends..and all of the sudden she sends me this pic her and her bf in eachother arms kissing.. right there I felt really hurt.. really there was no reason to send me this picture.. I know she has a new guy and that is OK but why did she have to send me that picture.. I felt like shit right away..

After I saw this I told her her new bf looks very decent and I wished them a good luck..(but she still talks sweet to me) like calling me baby or I love you when we hang up and stuff.. but she has a boyfriend..I think thats fucked up.. anyways

I feel like shit, I`ve been in love many times, dated alot of beautiful girls but this was something different.. never in my life did I have anyone hit me in the heart like she did.. ..

We will hang out tomorrow like friends for an hour or so.. just to at least keep the friendship alive.. I would like to have her as a friend, she`s a really beautiful and smart gal and in one case I admit when I got mad I said alot of nasty stuff and I regret everything..

On top of this I had HUGE fight with my own fucking father.. he used to treat my mother like shit when I was a kid and call her names, even hit her at times well now that I`m grown and they got older..things are better but he always talks alot of shit to her gets mad..real bad and I finally couldn`t take it anymore.. I`m on this cycle and I snap in a minute..so I told him to SHUT HIS FUCKING MOUTH otherwise I`ll break his fucking jaw.. and my mother was in between us trying to seperate us.. and he took this thing looks like a hammer wanted to swing at me.. I just looked it got real mad grabbed this huge ladder and kinda went after him.. but later on dropped the ladder.. went outside was MAD AS HELL took the ladder and threw it in the window causing it to brake .. its a big outside window of my home..

anyways.. I felt like I was gonna kill him I really at this point don`t give a fuck if I stay dead or alive, if I go to jail or not..life is really fucked up to me now.. so I called police..they came 3 officers..I told them what happend and I told them to tell him to calm down or I will do some stupid shit.. they did and left so he still continued to say trash I had enough respect for myself and held back didn`t say a thing..

Then he tells me how I`m not his son anymore, don`t call me dad this and that.. I`m gonna divorce your mother , I hope god gives you bad luck...I hope everything goes awry in your life.. this and that I ignored all of it..

My mother is a good wife to him.. and a good mother..but I`m sick and tired of him treating her like shit.. she can`t defend herself so everytime I have to defend her..and I don`t mind doing it but this happens all the time..

They both work fulltime jobs, they both pay for their house rent.. but when something is going to happend it will happend..

I am really fucked up today, probably the worst day of my life.. seing how my ex gf had no respect but sending me that pic ..and now this.. fuck... man..

No wonder people kill, steal, cheat and everything else..

I also believe in god alot and I pray alot but it looks like even he turned his back on me..

everyone please send a prayer for me and my family..

I need you !

Thanks !

[Skarhead]

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[diggi]

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Scarhead - Listen.. I know you like to kid around but seriously don`t fuck with me now.. I`m not in a good mood take ur shit elsewhere..

[ByRoN]

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bro i am sorry to hear that i feel that way sometimes if you need anyhting send me a pm and maybe i could help ya out!!

[mick-G]

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Hey, Bro! Try not to worry too much and try to think postive. I know it is hard. You have your own life and you need to start thinking of yourself and developing your own future. It is apparent that your ex gf has no compassion for your feelings, unless she did this too purposely hurt you because she still has feelings for you...? Im not trying to tell you what to do, or even know exactly what is going on, because i don't know your gf, but do you think that possibally she still has feelings and maybe she is going out with this guy because you two haven't spoke to each other for three wks?? When you hangout with her tomorrow, i would be upfront and ask her if she still has feelings for you and what her position is with you. If she tells you that she is with this other guy now and she still wants to be friends, i would ask her why she sent you that picture of him and her. Either way you need to find out what her thoughts are. For me, i don't think that i would be able to remain friends (hangout) with someone i had loved so much and had feelings for. If you still love this woman and want to see if there is anything left, if she tells you that you are no longer in the picture, i would tell her that you can not see her anymore because of the way you feel, end the evening short, and wait and see what happens. If she dosen't call anymore you will know what she told you is for real and you need to go on without her period, if she calls you and starts talking with the way she has (using the word love etc), i would stop her in her tracks and ask why she is calling you and talking to you like that and find out wtf is going on. My experience is that women play these little games sometimes when they want to get a man back. So if it is indeed the game, you need to stop it dead on. As far as your parents, go, there are alot of variables that make a couple the way they are. I don't know your parents situation, but in my parents generation the male dominated the household, some ppl in their generation it was almost, or to the point of degradation, humiliation, and many times abuse of both physical and mental. Like i said i don't know your parents situation, but you have to kind of seperate yourself from their relationship and let them be, or maybe try talking to your mom to find out really what is going on. Many women of my parents age bracket were dominated by their husbands and chose to stay in the relationships because they feltthey have no where to go, because either they have no skills to live seperately, or felt they would loose everything they have if they divoriced, and feel trapped. Sometimes it is better to get a divorice in this situation, but i have personally heard many horror stories where an ultimate argument will incurr at some point and the worst of all thoughts occurs. I hope this is not your parents situation, but i think maybe you need to find out. If not i would stay out of it and think about your own future. You do not need to be feeling like this at your age, you need to be thinking with a positive outlook. There are plenty fish in the sea, and ones that perhaps you can communicate better with and will be more compassionate with you feelings and needs. Take some time and enjoy your new found freedom. I hope you do not take this as a lecture, but i have experienced alot of what you are saying.

[diggi]

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Thanks Mick.. that was a helluva reply.. thanks once... again..

I already know that my ex gf loves me at least she says she does..NOW I did tell her to stop telling me I love you or call me sweet names.. she told me I can love you like a friend.. and I didn`t say anything about that..

As far as my parents .. I kinda blame my mother.. for some stuff for putting up with his shit.. but w/e.

Anyways, thats again.

[badasz32]

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just hang in there bro. dont do anything stupid that u might regret. Girlfriends and ex's can be a big pain in the ass. i have been in your shoes. if your truely over her and dont want to be with her ignore her games. give yourself some space from her. find out who u are with out her in your life. it might be hard to ignore her calls but it for the best until your over her. otherwise u will be her security she can do all sorts of stupid shit alsong as she knows your there as a back up plan. dont play that card bro, i did for months.
about your parents, its good u stand up for your mom. try to have a civil conversation with the both of them. try to mediate the situation.
things get better bro.
"when your up its never as good as it seems, and when your down it feels like youll never be back up again, but life goes on.

[Fit2bLarge]

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she's playin games bro. stay away from her. she knew very well it was gonna hurt you to see her with another guy. thats why she sent them! run bro, run as fast as you can away from this girl. she's not good for you. stay focused on your diet and training. come'on bro... you know u can pick up any girl you want! MOVE ON!!!

[solidground]

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dude ive had a pretty identicle experience with my parents and an ex girl..as for your dad, if he does that shit to your mom you need to put him in his place even if he is your father. i was w my girl for 5 yrs, weve been broken up for about a yr now, i still think of her but as time passes it gets alot easier...your girl is def playing games with you even if its not on purpose u need to see that and anyone that would do that shit isnt worth it...my advice is dont talk to her as friends atleast for a long time, it DOES NOT work -atleast in my experience. try to see the bigger picture, go out and try to meet some girls it helps

[DJDIGGLER]

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Don't give up bro. people lie, cheat and steal because they are too weak minded to deal with things. Your better than that! I agree dump off the girl! If she cared she wouldn't have showed you that pic. She's trying to drag you along incase her new relationship doesn't work. Don't be her puppet.

As for your dad I've gone through similar shit and the best advice I can give there is use his negative comments to fuel your ambitions. I use all the negative things people say to better myself. Constantly remember that crap he said and use it to keep yourself from ever giving up, or throwing in the towel. God hasn't given up on you. This is his way to force you to be stronger and teach you how to use those negatives to become a better person. Its a test to see if your strong enough. Soooooo......Show him you are!

Good luck bro my prayers are with you!

[diggi]

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Oh man this really helps.. I`ll def.. use all of your given advice...

thanks..

[superdog]

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Baseball-

Sometimes you win.
Sometimes you loose.
Sometimes it rains.

The important thing to remember is that there is always another game to be played.

You will survive this.
You will be stonger for having survived it.
You will play the game again.

[jipped genes]

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bro that is like being kicked when your already down. i cant give ya any advice and i wont say "keep your chin up" but i have faith that you will work it out and be a stronger person for it.

[diggi]

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I had a lunch with my ex GF today and boy it was nerve racking..

I was very nervous at first but then cooled down after..acted myself very relaxed and normal..I told her how I feel and that was that..

She told me I look good (more built) which is a good thing.. also tried to kiss me but I pulled away and I told her she has a bf and shouldn`t be kissing me.. she then didn`t say anything..

She grabbed my hand several times and we took a short walk talked, laughed etc.. and she kept saying remember the good old times when we used to do this and that.. I still played cool..

she still tells me she loves me and cares about me alot but when I ask her about his new guy (her bf) she gets this tired look on her face like she doesn`t wanna talk about it..

At the end I gave her a hug and a kiss on a cheek and went my way.


That was that..

[geesler]

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Hang tough digi! The parents thing sucks, but the good thing about family is that even if you dont talk for a while they will always be around. Its ok and good even to let out your anger or feelings about how things are with them. Usually, and hopefully in due time it will get settled- it even takes a lot of time sometimes so people ahve enough time to think about everything. Sometimes even years later things will be able to be seen in a TOTALLY different light (this has happened to me more than once)

As far as the girl, bro you really gotta just let her go. You know that she loves you, and you know that you love her. This will probably most likely continue for a very long time. The thing is- you ALSO know that you two are not together, and even moreso you knwo that she is with someone elese. You really gotta take some steps to protect yourself from being hurt in this situation. ITs ok that you still love her- and hey its even good that she still loves you- but keeping contact with her is going to only leaqve you open to being hurt by these things- and tey shouldnt hurt you they should be somewhat comforting things.. Knowiug that your ex loves youas a person and things just didnt work out is a good feeling, but can turn very bad when you are faced with talking to them or being with them- those situations will make you feel like you are alone, and hurt, and that is because yes the love is still there but htats the only thing that is still there. So in that way you are taking something that should be comforting and turning it into or allowing it to be something that is causing pain for you. You gotta stop that, and the only way is to ct things off for a while- maybe even a year- however long it takes for you to be bale to think of her withsomeone else and NOT feel hurt. Its very hard to separate the ways of loving a person, and time is the only thing that will help. I know it sucks having to avoid someone you care about- but if you care about yourself you willknow that you will have to.

I hope this makes sense bro- I have been through this exact same sort of situation and know what your feeling. If you want PM me and I'll be glad to try to explain this better if any of it doesnt make sense or you have any questions. Hang in there digi.