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  • #31
    Re: Family Issues need some advice

    Youre a nice guy adwal. I would have gotten the car keys and I would be calling her a cab right now while putting her suitcase on the bed LOL

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    • #32
      LOL! Like I said if the kid wasn't involved it would be like that in a second

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      • #33
        Dzone has good points.
        No time for bullshit.
        Tell her what is up and if she isn't willing to fix it y should u!
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        • #34
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          Originally posted by adwal99 View Post
          Diesel I feel you bro. And dzone that car is under my name and guess what.. I'm not allowed to drive it lol. Gotta be ****ing kidding me. I cooked her dinner cleaned the house did the dishes and laundry and that's what I get. Can't wait to leave for FL tomorrow. Diesel meet me there we'll hit south beach and have some fun!
          its a deal lol,,,,im in ny lol
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          • #35
            I'm serious bro, Halloween pub crawl in south beach sat night, u know how many sluts will be there lol

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            • #36
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              Originally posted by adwal99 View Post
              I'm serious bro, Halloween pub crawl in south beach sat night, u know how many sluts will be there lol
              I like the sound of that !!!!
              God gives the hardest battles to the strongest soldiers

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              • #37
                Yeah buddy. Ill post pics

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                • #38
                  Re: Family Issues need some advice

                  Wow! Sorry to hear your having these problems. How old are you two? It sounds like there are many issues goin on here. In my opinion..you are living way beyond your means. If you cant afford a $600. car payment and are paying for like $450. boots..I think maybe you have to put your foot down. If you have spoiled her in the past, thats a hard one to fix, unless you do some counseling. I have a feeling though that maybe some of her aggression may be due to hormonal issues. I know a guy sometimes needs to have space, but going to Miami now to "hang loose" with the boys may not be a great idea. I think there are some deep lying issues here that need to come out, and going to a marriage counselor could help a lot if you are both willing to work through this. Arguing and screaming at each other without a professional to mediate it so both of you have your turns to talk wont get you anywhere. I dont think you can work this out without some professional help. If you wait, it may get worse. The anger has to be coming from past issues that haivent been resolved with her that either something you have done or some past experience that is bothering her. A combination of that and a homonal/chemical inbalance may also be making her thinking not rational. I am not saying that you have done anything wrong, but if she is irrational and hormones are off, then anything you do will be wrong.
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                  • #39
                    Do you think she's seeing someone else?

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                    • #40
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                      I think Michelle hit the nail on the head here. Sounds like your wife carries much anger from her past and yes, hormonal imbalance can play a big part in things. Has she always been this way to you? Does she take any kind of meds a all? Counseling may be helpful if she is willing to go. You need to focus on yourself and your daughter and realize that your wifes actions are "her" problem and not yours. Maybe stop doing so much of what you are doing and see what happens. The way you are being treated can be very draining both mentally and physically. If you feel that you do not just want to walk away, try to get yourself together and have a plan for your future. Also, as on member said, journaling and writing things down can be very helpful for you. Also, the fact that everything is ih your name really does not mean anything when you are married. Things are still consifered to be both of yours.
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                      • #41
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                        So if a girl treats a man like dirt and disrespects him over and over and is sneaky behind his back its not her fault, its the hormones fault? IM sorry, but no man deserves to be treated that way and hormones are not a legitimate excuse.

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                        • #42
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                          Originally posted by Dzone View Post
                          So if a girl treats a man like dirt and disrespects him over and over and is sneaky behind his back its not her fault, its the hormones fault? IM sorry, but no man deserves to be treated that way and hormones are not a legitimate excuse.
                          Noone is making excuses for the way she is treating him. I am not one to believe in blaming averything on hormones but it is a fact that they can cause problems when unbalanced. We are just trying to point out a possible reason that she may be acting this way. Bottom line is he must decide what he needs to do for his own sake and his daughter.
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                          • #43
                            Dude you have a spoiled woman on your hands. You work full time and pay all her expenses and for her toys and she works part time and *****es about the babysitter issue? Tell her quit her job since you're paying for her stuff anyway and be a full time stay at home mom. Then maybe trade her 600/mo car in for a ford fusion or minivan mom type car. Seriously of she's going to treat you like that and ***** about her sugar daddy annoying her I'm worried you may not be the only one tapping that keg bro. Hope I'm wrong but as long as you let her neuter you on a daily basis while ponying up the dough for her every need nothing is gonna change. And Michelle is right, with you're having issues to fix in your home maybe the south beach pub crawl with all these "sluts" you mentioned isn't the best plan right now. Bad as things are with one free loading honey imagine knocking up another? Fix things at home and either see if counseling helps or part ways and support your child to the nines and let baby mama buy her own wardrobe and stuff. Sending wrong model of behavior for your daughter to see that's how women are allowed and expected to behave. Leads to a hollow cheap existence once the looks are gone and sugar daddies aren't interested anymore. Nowhere good to go from there. Just my two cents bro. Wish you all the best.
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                            • #44
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                              Good point Bigdawg.
                              Adwal didnt elaborate on what information he had about her sneaking around, but if she in fact is cheating on him well then that changes everything and for a lot of people, that is the last straw. As it should be. I know a lot of people in relationships that are making them miserable , depressed and their life is a living hell. Its not a male/female issue , its a people issue. If a female friend came to me and told me her man is cheating on her, degrading her, using her, emotionally abusing her, etc etc, my response would be the same. I would tell her to boot his ass to the curb so fast it would make his head spin.
                              If adwal really wants to make things work out with this girl, I agree that the pub crawl with sluts is a sure way to make things not work out LOL Perhaps his going tosouth beach with his buddies is a sign that he has already decided he is done with this woman.
                              Sorry for getting riled up here, but I just hate seeing any good hearted person, man or woman, treated like that.

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                              • #45
                                Originally posted by Dzone View Post
                                Good point Bigdawg.
                                Adwal didnt elaborate on what information he had about her sneaking around, but if she in fact is cheating on him well then that changes everything and for a lot of people, that is the last straw. As it should be. I know a lot of people in relationships that are making them miserable , depressed and their life is a living hell. Its not a male/female issue , its a people issue. If a female friend came to me and told me her man is cheating on her, degrading her, using her, emotionally abusing her, etc etc, my response would be the same. I would tell her to boot his ass to the curb so fast it would make his head spin.
                                If adwal really wants to make things work out with this girl, I agree that the pub crawl with sluts is a sure way to make things not work out LOL Perhaps his going tosouth beach with his buddies is a sign that he has already decided he is done with this woman.
                                Sorry for getting riled up here, but I just hate seeing any good hearted person, man or woman, treated like that.
                                Exactly, to clarify my point if as Dzone said roles were reversed then the guy would be in the wrong treating his sugar momma like that as well. Not a slam on the gender, strictly the behavior displayed.
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