How do you handle this?

[Dzone]

Ok, my friend has been tallin me about this hot chick who cuts his hair so he gave her my phone #. She called me and we exchnged pix. She looks good and we have talked on the phone a lot over the past week. Well, she invited me to go with her and her 2 daughters, age 4 and 8, to an NBA game tonight. She wants to meet first over dinner with her girls then go to the game...maybe it aint a big deal, but would you guys pay for the whole meal for the 4 of us? She is the one who got the tickets to the game, I guess a coworker gave them to her.
Would you guys cough up the $$$ for dinner? I suppose I will. I dont know if Im going to dig this chick or not. The main issue I have is she is friends with this friend of mine who likes to stick his nose in other peoples business, including mine....so Im sure he will be talking to her a lot about me.
I gues sI will pay for dinner, but I wouod rather not have to..LOL...I hope I dont sound like a cheap basta rd...lol...Im just not sure what is appropriate. This is our first meeting and she **** near pressured me into going. She has invited me to other things and I keep having an excuse not to.

[angryoldman]

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First off, I would be leary of any chick who brings her kids around you on the first date. That's a bad sign right there.

[J F T]

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First off, I would be leary of any chick who brings her kids around you on the first date. That's a bad sign right there.

That's the first thing that came to mind for me....

[Schiznick]

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bump ^

Me personally, especially since you have mutual friends, I would probably pay for the dinner since she has the tickets...

but.................. I would tell her that I would rather not have her kids going on the 1st date.,.. I would tell her straight out that, no offense, but Im not comfortable with that so soon...

if she doesnt understand and insists on them going, you could always say that you dont have time for dinner, but you could meet her right before the game for a drink or something...

[daved150]

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dam bro...do you squeez quaters till they shyt nickles? she got the tickets, pony up for some dinner!!!

[trip]

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agree with angry and others

and yeah u come off as cheap

and in my books she gets some props for calling u, inviting u and planning the gig

take it one day at a time, it takes 3-6 months to begin to get too know someone, that's why i alwasy like to see the kids on the side line the first several months, it's super easy for kids to get attached, and to get attchd to kids how can u not love em, it's just throws a little dirt in the water

[Slightly Enhanced]

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Trip is never wrong!

agree with angry and others

and yeah u come off as cheap

and in my books she gets some props for calling u, inviting u and planning the gig

take it one day at a time, it takes 3-6 months to begin to get too know someone, that's why i alwasy like to see the kids on the side line the first several months, it's super easy for kids to get attached, and to get attchd to kids how can u not love em, it's just throws a little dirt in the water

[trip]

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thanks for the props se, how the hekc u been, long time no post, glad to see u r still out there slugging it out

[Rolsroyce]

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Its dinner bro, just do it. If you dont have the cash then just be honest and tell her and see what happens.

[CeasarIM]

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sounds like she is looking for a serious relationship,or she is a dedicated mother who has a goal in life which is based on family values

[bohunt]

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Doc she is showing you the package right off. It's up to you my friend and pay for the dinner you cheap bastard. LOL

[MONSTER]

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#1 PAY
#2 IN her shoes she is saying " if u dont hit it off with my kids , you dont hit it off with me, so u dont get to HIT IT at all LOL, you oughta respect that thou she really has no other choice, if she is any kind of mother or person, and bro, PAY -- the kids are gettin chicken fingers anyway and NBA tix arent cheap and HIT IT!!!!!

[Xadrenaline]

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First off, I would be leary of any chick who brings her kids around you on the first date. That's a bad sign right there.

Another for me too... Kids on the first date?? That is weird...

You should have called me first Doc...

[supasaiyan99]

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I'm with everyone else. Meeting the kids on the first date makes no sense. She is in need of a replacement daddy for the kids. If you're not ready for that, you better run far, far away!!!!

[daved150]

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I'm with everyone else. Meeting the kids on the first date makes no sense. She is in need of a replacement daddy for the kids. If you're not ready for that, you better run far, far away!!!!

well...that's true too. it's a package deal, and she's making you aware of that. i guess, without thinking about it, i was assuming that you knew that and that was fine (if you've been talking on the phone i'm sure the kids wasnt a suprize). if the kids aint a prob, then your a cheap fuk...if they are a prob, then respectfully decline and move on, and i appologize. (your prob. still a cheap fuk, lol)