to prove a point

[daved150]

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me and my wife was having a convo. and i didnt just want to ask for opinions from you guys. she was married before me (for about 2yrs, wich she had my oldest son) and it came up about their divorce. i told her, i.m.o., it (the marriage) was doomed from the start. both her and his parents were divorced and i believe, for a successful marriage, you, most likely, have to have one set of parents that were married and lead the example to one of the 2 of you. obviously there's a exception to every rule....she said i was full of shyt, lol. but, as noted here....most relationships on this thread had at least one parental unit inwhich to draw from...consciencly or subconsciencly, i still believe this to be true.
after showing her this, she decided maybe i wasnt full of complete shyt, lol
thanks guys

[jipped genes]

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married going on 17 years

my folks are still together, happily

my wife's father skipped during pregnancy.

[a-bomb83]

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just a couple Q's...i'll explain later, but i need as many participants as poss.

1) are you married or in a relationship for a long time and might as well be married or are planning to be married?
no to both

2) are you divorced now?
no

3) were/are your parents happily married while you grew up or were they divorced?

yes, happily married and still are

4) was/are your spouces, or ex-spouces parents happily married or divorced?

n/a

i would appreciate anyone who could answer these q's. no need to elabrate, just an honest answer.

[horsepwr]

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me and my wife was having a convo. and i didnt just want to ask for opinions from you guys. she was married before me (for about 2yrs, wich she had my oldest son) and it came up about their divorce. i told her, i.m.o., it (the marriage) was doomed from the start. both her and his parents were divorced and i believe, for a successful marriage, you, most likely, have to have one set of parents that were married and lead the example to one of the 2 of you. obviously there's a exception to every rule....she said i was full of shyt, lol. but, as noted here....most relationships on this thread had at least one parental unit inwhich to draw from...consciencly or subconsciencly, i still believe this to be true.
after showing her this, she decided maybe i wasnt full of complete shyt, lol
thanks guys

Well, here's how it works for me. Me coming from a broken family, and knowing so many broken families and the effects that situation has on the children as well as how difficult it must be for the adults, I made a promise to myself when I was a kid that I will never put my family or myself through that. I've said many times that I feel that bad family values and improper parenting is quite possibly the biggest problem in the world today. I fully believe that it is the root of our worst problems.
But I have always known what I need in a woman for it to be a long, happy and healthy life together. I just got lucky and found my girl pretty early in life. But I think that coming from a broken home might have made me more cautious and basically picky, you could say, in choosing a mate.
My mother-inlaw and I had a similar conversation last week. She said that our generation is definitely different than the baby-boomers on the family tip. And I agree. We do go about marriage and so on differently than they did.

[lxorl]

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1. dating (seeing same girl about a year now)
2. I am divorced
3. my parents didnt get along growing up, but didnt divorce until i was 23
4. my x wifes parents are still married but i am not sure why...they are more like living partners than a married couple.... they stayed married for the kids but there is no real love there.