A Moral Mistake

[MAK2102]

Some of you know the situation between my "ex" and I. I wrote a thread about it but if not, in a nutshell....we had a prolonged fight and during that time she slept with a friend of mine, like 4 times. She didnt confess, he did. Well....I was very attatched to her but knew I needed to let go, but the whole time as you can imagine, I was angry....VERY angry.

About 2 1/2 weeks ago she started calling and coming around. The first 2 or three days I was rough on her...but then I eased up and told her "you made a very stupid mistake but we can work this out because we love each other". We had been with each other every day since, and things were 'perfect' as far as the relationship was going. But it was only superficial. See the only reason I was with her was to make her feel like she did me, she had hurt me and I wanted to do the same.

I had slept with her friend. I had every intention from the get go on sleeping with her friend and it all came out tonight. My girl was devestated, completely crushed and that was the feeling that I was going for the whole time, but when it was finally here......I felt awful. I feel like a P.O.S. Two wrongs dont make a right and somewhere in this whole mess I lost sight of that. I dont want one here to judge me I guess Im just writing to vent. Do I want her back? No. Do I want to say Im sorry..........more than anything. Thanks for listening.

[Testify]

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Not much to say, other than "another lesson learned." I think you said it all pretty well yourself at the end of your post.

[daved150]

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the best thing about this is you feel like shyt for doing it. i'd never judge becouse i've done plenty dumbass shyt in my lifetime! dont be too hard on yourself...your human, and knowing you fuked up say's alot about the man you are.

[horsepwr]

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It's good you feel nasty about the situation. That's alot more than some people get out of something like that. Hell, she did it 4 times! I don't know where you stand, but I don't have time for shyt like that in my life. I'd chop that deal off at the knees. Done...tell her, 'see ya'. I would make damn sure I never saw those days again brotha. Just that easy. And don't beat yourself up no more about her buddy. It's done. today's a new day.

[McKenzie]

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Being female....I wouldve handled the payback a lil differently.

I wouldnt want to bring her friend/another person into the situation...no need in adding to the situation. I wouldve simply distanced myself completely from her. Went on to find an honest/trustworthy woman who would love me and that I loved also...fell in love...and totally forgotten about the past drama and heartaches with her.

And yes...that would've hurt her way more than you sleepnig with her friend, because seh is no longer in the picture and youre giving/sharing your love/attention to someone else besides her and never being able to go back to you or what you guys had.

eh...anyways...how was her friend in bed? good bad?

[alluprbdy]

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been there n ya two wrongs dont make a right but most people in your situation would do the same thing.

[pigmeat]

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i dont blame you, and i wouldnt feel bad...she should have kept her pants up and thought about how you would have felt...she didnt, so fuk her

[Merc]

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you feeling bad says a lot though, that is how I look at it, you learned an important lesson about yourself

[MAK2102]

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Defintely appreciate it.

[O2BESOHUGE]

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YOU SHOULD HAVE JUST EITHER FORGAVE HER AND GOTTEN BACK WITH HER OR JUST MOVED ON. NOW YOU WONT GET ANY FROM EITHER ONE!

LOVE IS WEIRD - YOU ALWAYS HURT THE ONES YOU LOVE THE MOST.

PUT IT TO HER THIS WAY. BE HONEST. YOU WERE MAD AND HURT AND WANTED TO SHOW HER HOW BAD YOU HURT. BUT YOU WENT ABOUT IT THE WRONG WAY.

YOU FORGAVE HER NOW SHE HAS TO FORGIVE YOU. FORGET THE PAST AND NEVER BRING IT UP AGAIN AND MOVE FORWARD IF THATS WHAT YOU BOTH WANT.

ME, PERSONALLY...I CANT FORGET STUFF LIKE THAT. ID HAVE TO MOVE ON. SHE CHEATED ON YOUR FIRST - SO THAT SHOWS YOU WHAT SHE THOUGHT OF YOU.

GOOD LUCK MAK
O2

[MAK2102]

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No you got it wrong.......I have no intention on being with her. In a nutshell, I want to apologize for stooping to her level. Nothing more.

[horsepwr]

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That's a good way to put it to her. That is if you even have a reason to speak to her again. But just tell her you wanted to see what it was like to be on her level and that you realized that you will never stoop that low again. See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya babe.

Glad to know you're moving on though. I know I couldn't get past something like that and carry on like nothing happened. uh uh, no way. sick

Congratulations on getting past that gal.

[Deno]

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what goes around comes around... you did the right thing... don't apologize. just my 02.

[Merc]

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I say call her up and say youre sorry you never know when it could come back and bite you in the ass. Be the bigger person which I think you are just be prepared to get yelled at and remember your above it dont try and get back at her just close the door once you have made your peace.

[supasaiyan99]

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Hey what's done is done. Like my boy Booba says "Life is about making choices. You make a choice and don't look back!"