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Ok, so it's him AND his g/f now. Did his g/f do meth too? If so, then I would say hell no. If the g/f is a good girl and he's trying to clean his act up, then maybe use this as an opportunity to steer him in the right direction. I don't know bro, it all depends on his character at this point in his life. Do you trust him? Could you trust him?
I cant imagine the gf using she works hard and has tried to help him through this crap. I dont think I could ever trust someone like him...
I know that he is clean right now he has to get tested every week or something like that. It was part of his deal with the DA but who knows...I think his mom wants my wife and I to try and make him think about a family and go in the right direction since we just started our family and now have the kids...
I cant imagine the gf using she works hard and has tried to help him through this crap. I dont think I could ever trust someone like him...
Well, maybe, and this is going to take alot on your part bro, but maybe you should try to see what she sees in him. Obviously, if she's stuck with him she sees something worth waiting for and maybe there is a good kid in there that just needs a second chance and a little direction. You would have to forget about everything he's done in the past and give him the beneift of the doubt, treat him like a man and he will be very open to anything you suggest. He probably needs someone to make him feel good about himself.
I used to have superhuman powers....until my therapist took them away.
PS - I was a total phuk up for several years. I did things that I am ashamed of, but there were people who never gaveup on me and now I'm ten times that man I ever would have been had I not made those mistakes. Maybe this is a turning point for this kid. People CAN change, they just need to see the benefit of it.
I used to have superhuman powers....until my therapist took them away.
I wouldn't let that dick anywhere close to my kids I don't care if he's recovering or what. Those meth heads steal whatever they can to afford more of that crap. No way he'd be in my house family or not.
My wife is having her family visit and some how our spare bedroom was offered to her cousin. Well here is the thing the guy is a recovering meth head only because he got caught. I think he is a piece of shyt, he worked with the DA to turn his friends in to get a reduced sentance since he was looking at his second conviction so he was going to be spending time at club fed. Anyways just the thought of someone turning in their friends for getting caught just pisses me off, take some f*cking responsibility for what you do imo. Every time I think about this guy I just want to pound the shyt out of him for being a rat. I had a family member that got turned in by one of his friends and the family member took responsibility for what they did and ended it at him which cost him so I guess that is where my hostility comes from. So I dont know what to do should i let the dipshyt stay here or tell him to go fu*k himself my wife understands my position but at the same time its her cousin and it might cause some tension on her side of the family. Oh and she didnt offer the room it was her mom that did without asking us.
Anyways any feedback would be great!
I don't know if you have kids or anything, but you don't need some meth head coming in your home! That is asking alot of you to allow that guy in your home. Sure they might not be happy if you tell him he can't stay, but you didn't marry your wife to have to babysit her meth head cousin!
In my opinion this guy needs to go out on his own and hit rock bottom. If family continues to bail his sorry asss out, he will never get better. I think your asking for trouble if you allow him in your home. If he brings drugs in your house, you can get in trouble. If he ratted out friends, It wouldn't surprise me if he tried to drag you into his problems if he gets caught again.
Plus if you have kids that is definitely not the type of role model that needs to be around them at all!
I would stand your ground bro, and make your opinion and reasoning clear. You didn't marry your wife to be a puppet of her family! You seem to have good morals, so stick to them!
So I guess we're not going with the 220 line? Was it not high enough voltage? You can always rent a generator and hit him with like 400. He'll piss himself, almost guaranteed.
“I don't look ahead... I keep focused on my next opponent. I am looking forward to my next opponent, I don't think past that point.”
--Manny Pacquiao
Merc I think if it bothers you then you should ask him and his girl to get a hotel bro. If inlaws cant understand your position then I would say,Im sorry but thats how it has to be for now. You are the man of the house and you shouldnt have to feel uncomfortable under your own roof. I hope I dont sound like an ass but that just how i feel bro. In the coming years if he makes something of himself and shows everyone he is a different person then maybe later things will be different.
pssssst Leave some meth where he can find it. Then u have a reason to kick his ass out and not look like an asshole. He might even get violated and sent up the river. You got ur revenge for him being a rat and u dont have to deal with him anymore. Besides no one will believe him when he says u had it layin around.
first off: it's a done deal, and it will not last forever
2nd: Like u say, u don't have too trust him, it's a small stay
3rd: this is super hard, yet, try and focus on what the guy is doing RIGHT, RIGHT NOW
the reality is who really knows what his situation was, and why he did what he did, and u can bet whoever was doing it with him, probably had quadruple thoughts about doing it with him, ie,
if he is trying to do the right thing, right now, give the guy a break, some people do change
just never give them a lot of rope, and whatever they get they have to earn it
since he's been clean, he's been doing the no. 1 thing he has to do right now to move forward, which is hard as hell, so
and yeah, i understand we don't like rats, yet, thinking that people shouldn't rat and be rats is unrealistic, it's amazing what people do in real situations as opposed to what they think they would do
just trying to throw the opposite side in there
either way, i'm sure whatever you do will be the right thing
well how long is he staying for ..?? a few days..weeks..months years...centuries..lol.. i think you should let him in.. him being a rat.. and working with DA to rat out a friend..has nothing to do with you..your life..or your family at all bro..
have him sit down..lay down the pipe..tell him he must obey ur rules or he cant stay..
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