Keys for a successfull long lasting relationship ??

[diggi]

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Some marriages survive and some dont..I honestly believe it has to do with luck and what kind of person you have to deal with.

At begining everything seems to be going just fine, but after real colors start to show up.

See, I'm the type of person if you lie to me once, I can never really trust you again ..even if I can it wont be a complete, full trust I will always assume shit no matter what.

[mick-G]

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I have found that most women, if you are good at finding the good ones, are pretty damn honest. You have to be trusting tho as well, because if your always looking for deceit, someday your gonna find it.

[T-Man007]

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Yeah, good call on the trust thing Mick! Trust is way up there on the list.

[mick-G]

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Its like the boy who cryed wolf. If a girl continues to insinuate that your cheating on them, one of those days hes gonna say "phuck it" and do it, because if shes saying hes doing it all the time, he might as well do it then right? Same goes for men insinuating the same thing on their women.

[O2BESOHUGE]

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I'm twice divorced, don't listen to a damn thing I say about relationships.

THATS FUNNY!!

[crombie09]

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Dont think Im ever getting married. I cant even have a good relationship with a girl.

[T-Man007]

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Dont think Im ever getting married. I cant even have a good relationship with a girl.

Me neither! Ever girl I dated had more baggage than Paris Hilton on vacation. But, eventually, you start to identify the red flags and even thought she may be hot as hell, you learn to avoid the wrong ones.

[Lily]

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Oooo, that's bad! My wife told me once 'I feel like we are roommates' and I had my butt in marriage counselling in less than a week. No way do I ever want to hear that again. That was a clear sign to me that I was failing as a husband and I refuse to fail at anything. The last counselor I met with took me and told me how to approach my responsibility as a husband from a Biblical perspective. That was a real blow right there. Because I wasn't doing anything right. Now, I probably get it right about 60% of the time, but that's much better than 0% of the time. I doubt I will ever get it right even 90% of the time but if I make a conscience effort to get it right she notices.

you make very good points (your previous post, too!!), ..your wife is a very lucky lady!

I am ok, though....things always work out for the best. I hate Maine winters anyway and have been joking with friends for years that I want to move south...well here's my chance!! Time to do something wild and spontaneous..you only live once!!

[Lily]

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Lily....I'm sorry to hear you two are separating....especially when children (your son) are involved. I know you feel an enormous responsibility to him and worry how this will effect him....but mostly much happiness to Lily

Thanks, Mck

My son is 18 and moved out ..he is ok with it really......nothing will change for him. Most of our family wasn't very surprised anyway. Like I said, we havent had a "marriage" in a long time....just no real reason to split (easier to stay then go through the hassle) but if you find something or someone else that finally wakes you up to what your missing, you just can't settle for "easy" anymore and then you realize life is too damn short to not be happy! Life isn't all smiles, but you have to really enjoy what you have overall....there's always arguements and disagreements, but there should never be any feelings of loneliness or longing for something more....

[mick-G]

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Dont think Im ever getting married. I cant even have a good relationship with a girl.

Ah...youll be ok Cromb, lol! Stop thinking about the sex all the time and try to get to know the girl.

[SMILEY FACE]

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everybody got it right...i think trust and communication are the 2 important factors in a relationship...that what foocked up my relationship is communication and trust and jealousy..once i called my ex she has a big head and got it the wrong way (even though i meant is that she is conceided but her communication is very bad wt me)..
hell with that, i'am happy being single for NOW

[snickers1]

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i've been with the same woman for 15, almost 16 years. we've had our ups and downs. no matter what, we talked every fight through to the end (many late night shouting matches!!) she's been convinced at different time's of our relationship, that i was cheating. i never, EVER cheated, but you couldnt tell her that (she's italion, you know how passionate, and pig headed they are!). i never got so p.o.'ed at an acusation that i ran (or left) my house. i've never slept on a couch. i would insist that we talk it out!! no easy way out. no running! and i'd tell her that if she tried to leave.
when the fights came, there was always another reason for them. maybe i wasnt attentive enough. i listened to her feelings, and made her discuss them. then, try to read between the lines.
the biggest thing that we've both done, is refused to grow up! we dont get "too old". i still chase her around the house, grabing at her butt, and she still runs away giggling, lol(just a little more discreatly becouse of the kids). she still drives me nuts, and i make sure she know's it! that's number 1 in my opinion! make sure she know's that she's the love of your life! there's a reason why you hooked up to begin with, most likely a physical one...make sure she know's she's still got "it"! there is no way i could give you a full answer in this thread bro...just dont get old!

Very well Said Dave reps for you .....
TO me it amazing how we all think being married or being in relationship is hard work, it really isn't yes life gets a little hectic with two careers and if there is children and you have soccer games and different activities .... but it really is the simple things that keep a relationship/marriage going .... give 100% and only exspect 60% in return, like dave said show the other person you love them and they turn you on with the simple things like chaseing them around the house making them laugh, getting couple time together like once a week do date night i don't meen wine dine them just take them out for bite to eat and just enjoy each others company.... weekend getaways you don't have spend a fortune you know just got to local B&B and have some quality time together. always keep the lines of comunication open no reason to keep stuff bottled up it will only fester and get worse, being honest and open is so important

[NATE]

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Keep it simple. Don't let everyday life intrude or overrun your relationship. Don't let people who have know idea who you are influence the way you go about your relationship. Your gf/wife loves you for you, for who you are inside and out, you change that and it's only a matter of time.

Don't start asking others what to do, ask her....she's the only one that matters...

Keep it simple....

[T-Man007]

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you make very good points (your previous post, too!!), ..your wife is a very lucky lady!

I am ok, though....things always work out for the best. I hate Maine winters anyway and have been joking with friends for years that I want to move south...well here's my chance!! Time to do something wild and spontaneous..you only live once!!

Do it! Get the heck out of their and do something different. New start, new friends, new happiness. Sometimes it takes something like that to get back on track. Heck, I moved from ATL to Colorado and it was the best thing I ever did.