should i be careful here ?

[diggi]

the girl im seeing for nearly a month now we are now officialy together, a couple. Now she had a boyfriend for 2 yrs who treated her like shit and all, used drugs, didn't treat her well at all.. and she never said one good thing about him ever.

Now, she tells me how he sends her e-mails telling her he still loves her, and will always love her, and even if she's with another guy he will still love her and if he has a gf he will never find anyone like her..

this is high school bullshit and the guy is in his late 20's. should i be worried that he won't buy her with his words ?

[NATE]

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why worry? he can love her all her wants, YOU have her...screw him. hell man, he can love her all he wants and what difference would that make? If you make her happy and provide her with what she needs (physically and emotionaly) then you have nothing to worry about. His love for her now is the same love he had for her before, the love that didn't quite cut it with her.

[diggi]

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good call bro..thanks.

[NATE]

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Its always a concern, just dont let it intrude on your lives...

[T-Man007]

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the girl im seeing for nearly a month now we are now officialy together, a couple. Now she had a boyfriend for 2 yrs who treated her like shit and all, used drugs, didn't treat her well at all.. and she never said one good thing about him ever.

Now, she tells me how he sends her e-mails telling her he still loves her, and will always love her, and even if she's with another guy he will still love her and if he has a gf he will never find anyone like her..

this is high school bullshit and the guy is in his late 20's. should i be worried that he won't buy her with his words ?

I'll take this one......

I had the same thing but worse. My wife was dating a guy for 5 1/2 years when we met. He was the only guy she ever slept with. He was her HS sweet heart and blah blah blah. I found out he used to put notes on her car and called her all the time and so forth. At first I got pissed and then I realize a sure way to blow it would be to get all jealous. I learned this the heard way. The last serious girl I dated before her left her jerk boyfriend and everytime I found out he called her or went to her work I got all pissed at her like she did something wrong. I was pretty jealous. Well, this dude got smart and put me in checkmate when he told her something along the lines of: "Look, if that's who you want to be with then I will except it. All I want is for you to be happy. Best of luck." So, there I was being a dick to her and her ex was being supportive. It wasn't long before she went back to him. Touche! To prevent this from happening again, I sat down with my girl and told her something along the lines of "Look, if you have any feelings for this guy I would like to know. If this is who you are meant to be with I don't want to be the guy who messes that up. I care too much about you to mess your life up for my seflishness. Yes, I want to be with you and I don't want you to be with him but most importantly I want you to be happy." Case closed brother! She told him not to contact her and the rest is history.

Be smart and just let her know that you know this is a tough time for her and you want her to be happy more than anything else. But make sure you tell her that you want her to be with you. If you leave that out she will think you are teling her to go with him.

[Lily]

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Good replies guys...

[supasaiyan99]

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I'll take this one......

I had the same thing but worse. My wife was dating a guy for 5 1/2 years when we met. He was the only guy she ever slept with. He was her HS sweet heart and blah blah blah. I found out he used to put notes on her car and called her all the time and so forth. At first I got pissed and then I realize a sure way to blow it would be to get all jealous. I learned this the heard way. The last serious girl I dated before her left her jerk boyfriend and everytime I found out he called her or went to her work I got all pissed at her like she did something wrong. I was pretty jealous. Well, this dude got smart and put me in checkmate when he told her something along the lines of: "Look, if that's who you want to be with then I will except it. All I want is for you to be happy. Best of luck." So, there I was being a dick to her and her ex was being supportive. It wasn't long before she went back to him. Touche! To prevent this from happening again, I sat down with my girl and told her something along the lines of "Look, if you have any feelings for this guy I would like to know. If this is who you are meant to be with I don't want to be the guy who messes that up. I care too much about you to mess your life up for my seflishness. Yes, I want to be with you and I don't want you to be with him but most importantly I want you to be happy." Case closed brother! She told him not to contact her and the rest is history.

Be smart and just let her know that you know this is a tough time for her and you want her to be happy more than anything else. But make sure you tell her that you want her to be with you. If you leave that out she will think you are teling her to go with him.

Ecellent advice. Reps!

[Rage]

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I'll take this one......

I had the same thing but worse. My wife was dating a guy for 5 1/2 years when we met. He was the only guy she ever slept with. He was her HS sweet heart and blah blah blah. I found out he used to put notes on her car and called her all the time and so forth. At first I got pissed and then I realize a sure way to blow it would be to get all jealous. I learned this the heard way. The last serious girl I dated before her left her jerk boyfriend and everytime I found out he called her or went to her work I got all pissed at her like she did something wrong. I was pretty jealous. Well, this dude got smart and put me in checkmate when he told her something along the lines of: "Look, if that's who you want to be with then I will except it. All I want is for you to be happy. Best of luck." So, there I was being a dick to her and her ex was being supportive. It wasn't long before she went back to him. Touche! To prevent this from happening again, I sat down with my girl and told her something along the lines of "Look, if you have any feelings for this guy I would like to know. If this is who you are meant to be with I don't want to be the guy who messes that up. I care too much about you to mess your life up for my seflishness. Yes, I want to be with you and I don't want you to be with him but most importantly I want you to be happy." Case closed brother! She told him not to contact her and the rest is history.

Be smart and just let her know that you know this is a tough time for her and you want her to be happy more than anything else. But make sure you tell her that you want her to be with you. If you leave that out she will think you are teling her to go with him.

This is a great ****ing answer because it comes from experience and actually worked. I would probably rather find the guy and beat him half to death. I wouldn't even see it as an issue between me and the girl--now that's just me and with that selfish perspective I'd prolly lose the girl. But damn it would be true justice! When another man messes with your woman you gotta fight! Stick up for what's yours! I would see red, go ballistic, and then I'd prolly lose the girl in the end. But there could be some great sex after you kicked a man's ass for her. Chicks dig that at some primitive deep part of their lymbic system.

[Rage]

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Huh, I just learned that I can's say ****ing. I guess I can't say shit, ****, or ****sucker either. This is what it means to grow out of newbie status.

[mick-G]

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I agree with 007 here, but somehow i would find out if shes emailing him back. If so that is not a good sign. Either shes a "one man woman", or shes not. Oh, btw, how did you go about the commitment thing, lol?

[DJDIGGLER]

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Tmann and Nate great answers! I don't think anyone could have worded it any better....Good advice!

[diggi]

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I agree with 007 here, but somehow i would find out if shes emailing him back. If so that is not a good sign. Either shes a "one man woman", or shes not. Oh, btw, how did you go about the commitment thing, lol?

yeah she brought that up so i agreed

[daved150]

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great replies nate and t-man....nothing i can add to those bro, good, solid advice there!

[mick-G]

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yeah she brought that up so i agreed

Good! If you had brought it up, then you'd never know if she really wanted it. Now you don't have to worry, because she brought up the commitment and you agreed. This means...dah she wants to be commited to YOU. And think about it.....she is telling you about this ass emailing her. If she were going behind your back, she wouldn't have bothered to tell you, right? No need to frown, put on a smile! You got her bro!

[diggi]

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yep..all mine hahah