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well we've been talking for few weeks now..taking everything slow.. but she calls me all the time.. i dont really call her alot.. i give her space ..
Id hold off and let her bring it up bro. Unless you're scared of her not being commited to you and seeing other guys? Please tell me you've got some already too, some girls just really suck in bed and I would never want an ongoing relationship with a coldfish or a girl that just has no potential of being good in bed.
Trust me...not many guys out there get straight to the point....they feckin ***** ass around and usually screw around in the process with other chicks....Make your intentions and wants known Diggi....she'll respect you more.
Umm, who better to take advice from than another girl Diggi?? I think Kenz laid it out the way it is. My girl agrees with Kenz and although we try to think we know what women want....we don't!!
"If you can't live large, look big in a coffin"
"Some people call it an obsession, I call it a lifestyle"
Trust me...not many guys out there get straight to the point....they feckin ***** ass around and usually screw around in the process with other chicks....Make your intentions and wants known Diggi....she'll respect you more.
Umm, who better to take advice from than another girl Diggi?? I think Kenz laid it out the way it is. My girl agrees with Kenz also. Although us men try to think we know what women want....we don't!!
"If you can't live large, look big in a coffin"
"Some people call it an obsession, I call it a lifestyle"
Mick said most girls wont mess sround if they like the guy. He didnt say the guy wouldnt mess around. Thats why I think the girl usually brings up the relationship part, b/c she likes the guy and doesnt want to get any from anyone else.
I get your point...and Mick's as well.
However....if he lays it all out for her and shows her he is a good person/good heart....she wont mess around on him and respect and treat him well
If he doesnt tell her how he feels or what he wants....she'll read different things into it and it'll make matters worse or lines of communication difficult.
But its Diggi's call....he'll do the right thing for her and himself
Trust me...not many guys out there get straight to the point....they feckin ***** ass around and usually screw around in the process with other chicks....Make your intentions and wants known Diggi....she'll respect you more.
Not false at all Mck. Every girl i ever dated for awhile will start to ask if i were seeing someone else, and that they wouldn't want me to. So in that respect a commitment would be formed. Its not that i didn't want a commitment, but if i were seeing someone for only a few months, even if i wanted a commitment i wouldn't ask for it. To me it gives the woman an impression of insecurity in yourself. Many times i find the reason for many bad relationships is that one or the other partner asks for something the other cant give and isn't ready for, so they make a commitment just to appease the other. If im dating someone, i want the person im dating to ask for the commitment, that way i know they want it, and i don't have to worry that their making a decision based on what "I" want. Trust me Diggi, if she wants a commitment and is ready for it she'll ask in a roundabout way. If she doen't and starts dating others, then you weren't what she was looking for to begin with.
Not false at all Mck. Every girl i ever dated for awhile will start to ask if i were seeing someone else, and that they wouldn't want me to. So in that respect a commitment would be formed. Its not that i didn't want a commitment, but if i were seeing someone for only a few months, even if i wanted a commitment i wouldn't ask for it. To me it gives the woman an impression of insecurity in yourself. Many times i find the reason for many bad relationships is that one or the other partner asks for something the other cant give and isn't ready for, so they make a commitment just to appease the other. If im dating someone, i want the person im dating to ask for the commitment, that way i know they want it, and i don't have to worry that their making a decision based on what "I" want. Trust me Diggi, if she wants a commitment and is ready for it she'll ask in a roundabout way. If she doen't and starts dating others, then you weren't what she was looking for to begin with.
If a woman asked for a committment .... you guys would RUN....or try to figure a way around the subject. You'd think she was pushy, needy, clingy, and the lists goes on.
trust me...it means much more to a woman and a relationship if the man speaks his mind first. And yeah...its somewhat common knowledge that if you want a commitment, hopefully everyone will be faithful....hopefully.
Iam bringing this to Diggi from a man's prospective, and thats what he needs. Now if Diggi were a girl, id be tell her to do the same thing. Listen, ive been here and thru that many times. If a man wants to find out if his girl is truthfull and honest, then he will wait and let her make the commitment. Then he will know she is committed to him and that she made the decision based on her own feelings towards him not because he asked for it. Sure, from a girls prospective, yes the woman will know for sure that "he" wants the commitment, then again, she may take it as a sence of insecurity. "He wants a commitment because of the fact that he doesn't want me screwing or dating other men". Fine, that is all good, but when are we going to get mature and independant here. I myself don't worry about the commitment even if i really, really like a woman, because i want her to have her space and the time to make that decison based on whether she really likes "me" , and even if she asks for it later, i want her to make that decision based on really wanting me and not just because she is jealous or insecure within herself. Thats what i could never get...Why ppl put soo much emphasis on commitiment, when they haven't even been together that long??? Usually its because the guy is overy jealous and insecure. If you wait Diggi and she starts the "are you seeing someone other then me sometimes, cause i really don't want to see anyone else, blah, blah..." then you will know and be glad for the fact that she honestly, really likes you. If you bring it up tho after only a few wks of dating, then imo you are rushing it...and possibly cutting off her space. I am not saying that she doesn't feel the same way about you, but i just think it is too early to be that demanding on someone youve only been with a short time. Not only that, alot of women like it when you play the "hard to get game" for awhile. It makes for more interesting foreplay, lol! and when you finally get it, it will make it sooo much more spontanious.
If a woman asked for a committment .... you guys would RUN....or try to figure a way around the subject. You'd think she was pushy, needy, clingy, and the lists goes on.
trust me...it means much more to a woman and a relationship if the man speaks his mind first. And yeah...its somewhat common knowledge that if you want a commitment, hopefully everyone will be faithful....hopefully.
^Lol, this is a "womans" point of view. Again, yes it will mean alot to the "right" woman, that is if she is ready, and the relationship is that far along, but in this case its only been a few wks, and from "my" experiences, if he starts hounding her on a commitment after not even a few months of dating, it will make him look like some candy ass, insecure kid. And really Mck...is it fair to judge these guys here that they would think a woman were being pushy, clingy, etc? Yes, maybe after a few wks, yes then i would say you are correct, but from my dating experiences, usually the woman will bring it up if there is moment where they might have sex for the first time, or there has been sexual involvement for a period of a few months or more. This is where i have to kinda agree with Crombie, Yes Crombie im agreeing w/ya on this. Why would a "man" want to commit to a woman when he doesn't even know her sexual interests?? Yeah, maybe if they are both of a certain religion where they don't have sex b4 marriage, or they are both virgins, but i don't think this is the case here, lol! If a woman asks for a commitment after a few months and there has been sexual involvement, i don't think she is being clingy at all, she is being smart and honest.
Oh my bad...I didnt know only men could respond to this thread?? I thought it was open pop or community....just disregard my posts Diggi
and I guess I am the only woman on the face of hte earth that doesnt like the "hard to get game" I'll lose interest real quick with you.
I like busting w/ya Mck, lol. I didn't mean it that way. Im not saying that this isn't something a woman can comment on. All Im saying is that from a "mans" prospective, that if Diggi waits and then she makes or asks for the commitment, then he will really know for sure that she really is ready, and that she really must like him, other then him asking her. He won't know for sure if he is being alittle pushy, especially after only a few wks. Also, common Mck don't you like alittle "catch me if you can" games?? If its not hurtful, it can be fun right? Sometimes you have to "let go" for the ride and see where it takes you. Yes, ive been thru my share of bad relationships, but it must not make you hardened and afraid of sharing something new with someone else.
Lol, nah no games. I just like to play around, lol! Ah....to clear up my hidden meanings, i guess what i meant was, is that if you have past relationships that went bad, or in your case are...i take it currently still ongoing, that maybe it is best to cut your losses and move on. That is if you can. If you find another, don't be afraid to just go for the ride again. After all it isn't the other persons fault. Keep everything with each person you find new. Yes, it is hard to not evaluate your past experiences in other relationships, but don't let it distract you from someone who may be real and much different from what you've had in the past. It is hard for me to discribe everything that i have been thru and in knowing what a certain person is like, especially without really knowing them, but i know what my insecurities were and what i have done to change them, and it starts with finding out who you are b4 trying to have ppl commit to you.
WELL I GUESS I DID SOMETHING RIGHT 17 YRS WITH MRS FUZO AND SHE DIDNT LET ME IN HER PANTS FOR A COUPLE WEEKS OF DATING.DIGGI JUST RELAX AND BE YOUR SELF DUDE
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