Lady Advice

[lxorl]

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true.... but the reason we initially went out... was because i really dont know anyone in this town.... i was under the impression that she just offered to meet me because i didnt have any friends..... i was hoping we might flirt, but never expected what happened.

im not looking for much more than a friend to hang out with... if we hook up some, then cool.... but i plan on moving from this town in a few months.

Trust me, u might forget what it's like to be that age or what girls are like tat that age but they're still socially immature relationship wise...If she did something REAL drunk, shes probably embarassed and ashamed...I can remember getting REAL drunk at a part and getting with a girl who was REAL drunk and then never wanting to talk to them again just bc it was ..well..weird. and i think the feeling was mutual I know youer just getting out of a real bad break up and all, but realize shes TWENTY ONE, u probably shoudlnt even be messing w a girl that young

[mick-G]

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I was thinking exactly what Lilly was saying, lol! Iam not saying she is like this Ixorl, but in my single days ive seen girls that act like this. They will act like they are really sweet and all that, then you see them at a bar and their smashed, and get really hot and horny with ya. I will bet she does this alot with many men. You are just one in many she finds "cute and hot". I wouldn't doubt that she met someone at the basketball game, and thats why she didn't call. That night at the bar would have been the perfect time for you to "sew your oats", as they say, lol! Now that she knows you didn't take advantage of her, she may not "hang out" with you, because a one nighter is prob what she wanted. If you don't want a "relationship" and are for sure your marriage isn't going to work, then go for it, but just don't get the idea that its only about you and she isn't doing anyone else on the side.

[lxorl]

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yeah... i hear you guys... I should have just hit it that night!!

nice guys finnish last !

lol


i still say im just looking for some friends in this town..... if i can hook up with a hot friend, then cool.... but I just want somepeople to pass the time with.

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I was thinking exactly what Lilly was saying, lol! Iam not saying she is like this Ixorl, but in my single days ive seen girls that act like this. They will act like they are really sweet and all that, then you see them at a bar and their smashed, and get really hot and horny with ya. I will bet she does this alot with many men. You are just one in many she finds "cute and hot". I wouldn't doubt that she met someone at the basketball game, and thats why she didn't call. That night at the bar would have been the perfect time for you to "sew your oats", as they say, lol! Now that she knows you didn't take advantage of her, she may not "hang out" with you, because a one nighter is prob what she wanted. If you don't want a "relationship" and are for sure your marriage isn't going to work, then go for it, but just don't get the idea that its only about you and she isn't doing anyone else on the side.

[Lily]

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Just be sure that if you do hook up with her again..or any little hottie for that matter, you should be very clear that you are not looking for anything more than a "friend" to hang out with.....you don't want some young girl hanging onto you wanting more if your not ready.

[NATE]

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Women are tricky, they want you to want them, they want you to need them, they want you to respect them. You go to far with any of them and you're kicked to the curb. Especially on a first "date".

So, look at things from her perspective for a minute. She obvioulsy likes you/ wants you, she threw herself at you more than once and you "respectfully denied"...Ha, all she knows is that you chose not to sleep with her after she more than gave you the green light....that my friend is probably one of the worst things you can do to a woman, ever. Embarresed is probably the understatement of the year! Still, dont get all worked up over it. She'll see you at the gym (and probably try to avoid you a little) and once you talk to her and put her at ease everything will be ok. i suggest that if she offers herself up again you don't deny her as you will probably never see or hear from her again. Heck, she may be very hesitent to go that far with you now... well, if she's sober lol...

[lxorl]

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well she never "offered herself up" like that...... she was just kissing me in the bar. it would be an awfully big presumption that she wanted to get laid just because she was kissing me.

Women are tricky, they want you to want them, they want you to need them, they want you to respect them. You go to far with any of them and you're kicked to the curb. Especially on a first "date".

So, look at things from her perspective for a minute. She obvioulsy likes you/ wants you, she threw herself at you more than once and you "respectfully denied"...Ha, all she knows is that you chose not to sleep with her after she more than gave you the green light....that my friend is probably one of the worst things you can do to a woman, ever. Embarresed is probably the understatement of the year! Still, dont get all worked up over it. She'll see you at the gym (and probably try to avoid you a little) and once you talk to her and put her at ease everything will be ok. i suggest that if she offers herself up again you don't deny her as you will probably never see or hear from her again. Heck, she may be very hesitent to go that far with you now... well, if she's sober lol...

[NATE]

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So, I get to the bar at about 11.... walk in and give her a hug. She is pretty wasted and almost instantly starts making out with me.... like intense make out... .like embarassing PDA make out.... but im drunk , down on my luck, so i dont really mind. She starts telling me stuff like..... " I always thought you were so hot... I always thought you were way out of my league" Later her sister was telling me how she used to talk about me all the time." The night continues on.. and each time we cross paths in the bar she attacks me again..... but i tried to keep my distance more or less... but we still had some hot moments.

I guess i may have read into that to much....

[McKenzie]

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i think you should have gone ahead and banged her the first night- especially considering that you don't want a relationship. that way you get the sex out of the way early, and hopefully establish point of the relationship- sex.

then it can either go two ways- 1) she feels guilty and never calls you again or 2) you get a friend with benefits.

either way you get laid ;-)

NISH...did you just say that?

[mick-G]

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So, I get to the bar at about 11.... walk in and give her a hug. She is pretty wasted and almost instantly starts making out with me.... like intense make out... .like embarassing PDA make out.... but im drunk , down on my luck, so i dont really mind. She starts telling me stuff like..... " I always thought you were so hot... I always thought you were way out of my league"

This is what you said, didn't you?? Lol, this sounds like a woman that wants some action, bro, lol! Don't start the denile....

[bowbow]

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Shoulda hit that little ass bro

[McKenzie]

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Shoulda hit that little ass bro

BOWBOW! I know you didnt just say that!

[Lily]

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well she never "offered herself up" like that...... she was just kissing me in the bar. it would be an awfully big presumption that she wanted to get laid just because she was kissing me.

Didn't you say she was like majorly making out with you?
if that isnt an offer, i dont know what is...lol

[bowbow]

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BOWBOW! I know you didnt just say that!

[firstenrgy]

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Sounds like your at the intersection of Banger & leaver . Two roads I've visited before. She might be a good one but... I doubt it. Play it by ear bro. Don't get too attached. You seem genuine, see if she is too.