Why is breaking up so damn hard?

[Lily]

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thats why i lost 40 pds lol damn women

it goes both ways, there buddy!

[space mountain]

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it goes both ways, there buddy!

[Lily]

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[Phreak]

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LOL

fine p***y is a powerful force my man. it always amazes me how my better judgement seems to get tossed out the window when i am face to face with a pretty face and sexy body. if find myself pining over women that i normally would have absolutely nothing in common with solely because i want to f*** them.

i have ended up in dead end relationships because of it; ones that never had a chance in the first place, but i fooled myself into thinking that "she was the one" because i was quite simply addicted to having sex with her.

eventually that shit wears off though... and you are left with nothing if her personality and mindset don't match with yours.

this may not be your situation at all, but i am thinking it is from your post. you are young bro, assess where you are and what you want. don't disrespect yourself because you are sprung. if you really feel like you are dependent on her attention and you find yourself doing things that you regret just to be with her, take a step back!

pull away from her. don't call her. make time for yourself and your friends without her.

if you are strong enough to do this, one of two things will happen:

1) she will come back to you, and then you can decide if this is what you really want

2) she will move on to the next, then you will know it wasn't right.

has she ever told you she loves you? have you told her? if so, who did it first? if you did, did you say it just to get in her pants?

i've been there bro!

[SMILEY FACE]

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we all been there........

[SMILEY FACE]

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plus i didn't call her all day yesterday and she called me and texed me this morning..but ohh well, not going back..she hurted me too much..if she did it once , she will do it again....

[diggi]

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HAHAH.. ya all remember my stories ?? ..lol.. anyways pu$$y has power over men.. men are idiots.. and.. what else.. can I add.. yeah that "go under someone else" thing doesnt work..I went under plenty of other broads.. but still the ex was in my mind..

[mick-G]

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Tell yourself this also Crombie. Do you really love her, for herself, or is it just the sex and what she looks like? I know it is rough, but many guys fall in lust not love, because they hookup with a girl that is very attractive and have sex too soon before they can even develop a real relationship and then its too late when they find out the woman is not what they anticipated. I sence that perhaps she is taking advantage of you and your spending as well. Id play cheap with her for awhile, even tell her your trying to save some $ for the future. Do things with her that are less expensive and see how she reacts to that. Also, what kind of "shit" is she putting you through? I dont know Crom, seems you are having similar probs like this over and over again. Maybe it is time to approch and meet women in a different type of situation, not clubs, or thru friends. Quality women are not in the clubs much, they are going to college, or are close to their parents and go to church etc. I would question a young woman that will have sex in the first few months of a relationship and without a commitment. The "quality" women usually want to wait to see where the relationship is going and want something stable before getting involved with someone that serious.

[SMILEY FACE]

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Tell yourself this also Crombie. Do you really love her, for herself, or is it just the sex and what she looks like? I know it is rough, but many guys fall in lust not love, because they hookup with a girl that is very attractive and have sex too soon before they can even develop a real relationship and then its too late when they find out the woman is not what they anticipated. I sence that perhaps she is taking advantage of you and your spending as well. Id play cheap with her for awhile, even tell her your trying to save some $ for the future. Do things with her that are less expensive and see how she reacts to that. Also, what kind of "shit" is she putting you through? I dont know Crom, seems you are having similar probs like this over and over again. Maybe it is time to approch and meet women in a different type of situation, not clubs, or thru friends. Quality women are not in the clubs much, they are going to college, or are close to their parents and go to church etc. I would question a young woman that will have sex in the first few months of a relationship and without a commitment. The "quality" women usually want to wait to see where the relationship is going and want something stable before getting involved with someone that serious.

same shit what u told me..listen to him crombie... keep ur chin up ..i'am still broken heart and feel sometime i wanna throw up...and it bother teh phuck out of me big time..but what can we do..
listen to me: ignore the calls and textx and i will guarantee for u she will come back and if she does not...she is not the right one...BUT MOST OF EM WILL COME BACK

[T-Man007]

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Here's my two cents:

You need to get the ball back in your court if you want to stay with her. All this buying expensive shit is useless IMO. Girls want what they can't have. If you give her every waking moment and buy her all this crap it's will be great, for a little while, but she will get bored. There is NO challenge for her, she has you and she will get bored. I don't care who you are, this is how it works. I can tell you from dating many women in my day, the gifts are cool to a certain degree. Unless you have a gold digger, they don't want all the stuff, they want a man. They want their man to be a man and that meas blowing them off from time to time for your boys. If you give a woman everything she wants there is nothing left for her to want from you and things change. But, if you give her just enough to keep wanting, then you keep her interested. I have dated women that I wanted to be with att all moments and it drove me crazy at times but I stuck my ground. I spent time with my boys. I also have dated some girls that were so damn hot I had to pinch myself to make sure it was real. Some of these girls were like that. They would call me all damn day long. I'm sorry, but I don't care how hot you are, I don't want to talk to your ass all day long. I can remeber this one chick from the Gold Club in ATL. She was an absolute bombshell. But man, there comes a point when you just need time away. Seriously, she wanted to be together almost every night. It drove me away. It's sucked too, because I really really liked her and she killed it. I knew I had her and she became boring. She would show up at the bars I went to and she would get pissed if I talked to other girls. I just had to kick her to the curb. Girls are the same bro. They will kick you to the curb if you don't challenge them.

Now, once you are married, it's the whole phukin opposite. My wife wants to spend time together all the time. But, I can't just kick her to the curb, so I changed to make her happy. Now, and only now, do I buy gifts and do all that other stuff. Now that I got her, I want her to be happy. Before we were married, I didn't care either way and it made her want me even more. I seriously did not care. I was not getting married or tied down before 30. My wife broke me at 28. LOL

[SMILEY FACE]

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Here's my two cents:

You need to get the ball back in your court if you want to stay with her. All this buying expensive shit is useless IMO. Girls want what they can't have. If you give her every waking moment and buy her all this crap it's will be great, for a little while, but she will get bored. There is NO challenge for her, she has you and she will get bored. I don't care who you are, this is how it works. I can tell you from dating many women in my day, the gifts are cool to a certain degree. Unless you have a gold digger, they don't want all the stuff, they want a man. They want their man to be a man and that meas blowing them off from time to time for your boys. If you give a woman everything she wants there is nothing left for her to want from you and things change. But, if you give her just enough to keep wanting, then you keep her interested. I have dated women that I wanted to be with att all moments and it drove me crazy at times but I stuck my ground. I spent time with my boys. I also have dated some girls that were so damn hot I had to pinch myself to make sure it was real. Some of these girls were like that. They would call me all damn day long. I'm sorry, but I don't care how hot you are, I don't want to talk to your ass all day long. I can remeber this one chick from the Gold Club in ATL. She was an absolute bombshell. But man, there comes a point when you just need time away. Seriously, she wanted to be together almost every night. It drove me away. It's sucked too, because I really really liked her and she killed it. I knew I had her and she became boring. She would show up at the bars I went to and she would get pissed if I talked to other girls. I just had to kick her to the curb. Girls are the same bro. They will kick you to the curb if you don't challenge them.

Now, once you are married, it's the whole phukin opposite. My wife wants to spend time together all the time. But, I can't just kick her to the curb, so I changed to make her happy. Now, and only now, do I buy gifts and do all that other stuff. Now that I got her, I want her to be happy. Before we were married, I didn't care either way and it made her want me even more. I seriously did not care. I was not getting married or tied down before 30. My wife broke me at 28. LOL

[B]i agree and WOMEN ARE LIKE BUSES, THEY COME EVERY 20 MNS [/B]

[Gooseneck]

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Here's my two cents:

You need to get the ball back in your court if you want to stay with her. All this buying expensive shit is useless IMO. Girls want what they can't have. If you give her every waking moment and buy her all this crap it's will be great, for a little while, but she will get bored. There is NO challenge for her, she has you and she will get bored. I don't care who you are, this is how it works. I can tell you from dating many women in my day, the gifts are cool to a certain degree. Unless you have a gold digger, they don't want all the stuff, they want a man. They want their man to be a man and that meas blowing them off from time to time for your boys. If you give a woman everything she wants there is nothing left for her to want from you and things change. But, if you give her just enough to keep wanting, then you keep her interested. I have dated women that I wanted to be with att all moments and it drove me crazy at times but I stuck my ground. I spent time with my boys. I also have dated some girls that were so damn hot I had to pinch myself to make sure it was real. Some of these girls were like that. They would call me all damn day long. I'm sorry, but I don't care how hot you are, I don't want to talk to your ass all day long. I can remeber this one chick from the Gold Club in ATL. She was an absolute bombshell. But man, there comes a point when you just need time away. Seriously, she wanted to be together almost every night. It drove me away. It's sucked too, because I really really liked her and she killed it. I knew I had her and she became boring. She would show up at the bars I went to and she would get pissed if I talked to other girls. I just had to kick her to the curb. Girls are the same bro. They will kick you to the curb if you don't challenge them.

Now, once you are married, it's the whole phukin opposite. My wife wants to spend time together all the time. But, I can't just kick her to the curb, so I changed to make her happy. Now, and only now, do I buy gifts and do all that other stuff. Now that I got her, I want her to be happy. Before we were married, I didn't care either way and it made her want me even more. I seriously did not care. I was not getting married or tied down before 30. My wife broke me at 28. LOL

Good post. Like BigMike said, we've all been there, and most of us more than once. My ex-fiance was my world for 3 years, and when she left me, I thought I was going to die, literally. Couldnt get out of bed for a week. But ya know, a year later our roads crossed again and we ended up seeing each other for a couple months, only for ME to realize this time that I was just blinded by love before and it was the closure I needed to move on.
Best of luck to ya bro, hang in there.

[Gooseneck]

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[B]i agree and WOMEN ARE LIKE BUSES, THEY CUM EVERY 20 MNS [/B]

Sounds more like us guys bro......

[Phreak]

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great post t-man, as always

[Starr]

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Crombie and the rest of the boys here... There have been some great words shared here in regard to relationships, and unfortunately, relationships are just like everything else, the more you have and the older you get, the better you get at them. Reading what some of you said, and as young as some of you are, it's really no surprise that things aren't perfect. None of us are when we're young and immature. So just take it all in stide and leave with the lessons that we've learned. And also take the beauty that you knew in that relationship and make sure you apply it to the next one, and the beauty in the next one carries on to the next, and the next, and the next...