I got my girl fired from her job today.

[NecroPhreak]

Originally posted by ElCid
I think Sachet and Newgirl hit it on the head. Ya, you probably should have asked her first before demanding that she leave. I also think there is a lot of groveling that needs to be done on your part tonight, but in a good way. Take the advice of explaining yourself in such a way that she understands that she means the world to you. I don't really have a lot of faith in her boss giving her her job back after a conversation with him. But, I think you should do it out of respect to her. It will show her you are man enough to help solve a problem pretty much of your doing, and it will let her save some face with her boss. She is probably pretty embarassed, especially if she respected her boss.

All in all your were definately right in worry about her, but in hindsight, which is always 20/20, you should have gone about things a little differant. But what's done is done, now you just have to make the best out of it.

Just my 2.

Very astute;good advice.

[TxLonghorn]

I agree with the general sentiment. It wasn't your call that sheshould stay or go, it was hers and hers alone.

As far as calling her boss to apologize, I think that's the worst thing that could happen. If she wants her job back, she is going to have to make the call. Remember, the boss isn't and DOESN'T want to employ you. It's about her.

The only course of action I would take if in the same circumstances would be to do everything humanly possible to make it up to her. You just treated your girlfriend like a pet or a 6 year old. That ain't right.

Also, do not bring up the fact that you make decent money and can afford to have her not work. Again, it is irrelevant what you make, if she is as independent as you say then the last thing she wants to do is be a homemaker. Again, it's not your call whether or not she is a stay at home g/f or a working girl. It's hers and hers alone. Forcing the decision on her will just blow up in your face, maybe not now but women do not forget the times their b/f slighted them or made them feel powerless or insignificant.

[TxLonghorn]

Ah, one other thing. Put yourself in her shoes. What if she had come into your office and embarrassed you and caused you to be fired? How would that make you feel? Would you like to be told that she makes enough money to get by without you working?

[OldWiseGuy]

Damm look out dude the females will beat you down for being a control freak. But you forgot to take her makeup away.
But to be truthful only one person can run the show and have it all work out. And if she runs things then you'll just be a big puss.
I'm on your side BTW and if she wants to call the shots she should get her own wife and tell her what to do. Same goes for girlfriends.
Hey I'm proud of you Drenten.

[Keiser]

That was not cool, it shows you care about her, but she is grown and can make decisions for herself, you aren't her dad.

[Drenten]

Thanks everybody for all the replies. I appreciate all of your input and help.

My girl and I have talked about what happened and the conversation actually ended up with us both laughing about it.

Her boss has already called and apologized and told her that she still had her job, so that’s cool. She isn’t sure if she wants to go back yet, but that is entirely her decision to make.

I just want to clarify on thing; when I initially talked to her on her cell phone and told her that I was coming to take her home, she was relived because she was worried about driving home and wanted me to come and get her. Given the circumstances with the weather, she really didn’t expect any resistance from her boss.

It was when that resistance came into play, and I realized the indifference that her boss seemed to have for her safety; that’s when I got heated.

I know that I didn’t handle the situation in the best way, but luckily for me my girl is a very understanding woman.

[ElCid]

Originally posted by Drenten
Thanks everybody for all the replies. I appreciate all of your input and help.

My girl and I have talked about what happened and the conversation actually ended up with us both laughing about it.

Her boss has already called and apologized and told her that she still had her job, so that’s cool. She isn’t sure if she wants to go back yet, but that is entirely her decision to make.

I just want to clarify on thing; when I initially talked to her on her cell phone and told her that I was coming to take her home, she was relived because she was worried about driving home and wanted me to come and get her. Given the circumstances with the weather, she really didn’t expect any resistance from her boss.

It was when that resistance came into play, and I realized the indifference that her boss seemed to have for her safety; that’s when I got heated.

I know that I didn’t handle the situation in the best way, but luckily for me my girl is a very understanding woman.

Good news bro. That's great to hear!!

[Krush]

You came to take her home and that's exactly what you did. I totally agree with what you did bro. If I went to my girls work in weather conditions like that, the same thing would have transpired. There are other jobs and other boss's. There's only one you and her. You were right and she got her shit and got in the car. I wouldn;t apologize to the boss, stand your ground with your decision of what you did because you cared more about her safety than her lousy ass boss's opinion.

[Berzerker]

Even if it turns out the boss recant's the firing - hey, his attorney could have told him it was an unfair dismissal - that does not make what you did right. Bro, I understand your position, but you can't barge into your girl's workplace and throw a fit like that. All you did was embarras her in front of the people she sees every day.

Even if she could go back, have you considered that your girl wont' want to - after all, she'll be forever known as the one with the psycho boyfriend, people will treat her differently and she won't be comfortable with it, no matter how she feels about you.

Sorry if it sounds harsh, but you just can't do that - for your own sake. You're the one who loses out, dude.

WTF, a snowstorm is no big deal. Chill out.

[Rumpster]

I would have left it up to her to decide...and if she didn't make it home safely I woulda kicked all up in her boss' fat ass.

[THE JUICE]

Your a dick man.........j/k

I wouldve done the same thing in a way bro. Her lifes in danger during weather like this. Theres always the "WHAT IF" something happens. Hey I wouldnt want nothing to happen to my girl. I remember a couple of months ago she had to spend the night here in my house cause there was a flash flood here and boy did it rain bad. I wouldnt want to risk it her going by herself and something happening to her. Screw your gf boss, you shouldve told him to fuck himself. Damn bastard dont give a damn about others, they just want there work to be done. In my opinion you did the right thing in this condition.

[The Syndicate]

Apologize and buy her jewelry, that works everytime

[BarBender]

My way

Bro,

I think you should have punched that prick boss. He probably intimidated your girl into coming into work in the freaking blizzard. There are many ways a boss can be intimidating as we all know. There is nothing so important that it couldn't wait another day.

I protect my family and loved one first. I have had a few heated conversations with my girl friends boss. She is my girl friend and she come home to me SAFELY, she doesn't come home in a body bag or seriously injured because he want her to finish up some project to make his ass lots of money when then weather is bad. I haven't punched his ass yet but I have shoved his pompus ass back into his chair. Sometimes a guy gets a little power and authority over others and he forgets what is important in life. My girl just won't say no to his ass. Whatever crazy request he has she does because she told me she is afraid to say no. She is scared of being fired.


So fuck the prick boss and take care of your own first. Many people will try to walk all over you if you let them.