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Hi Crombie! I think we have talked on this before. Many younger males, and i will include women need to set goals early on. You should start setting goals if you haven't already and follow thru on them. Make a journal if you have to, like a diary on each days plans and what you are going to do that day that is positive and will get you closer to your goals, or set monthly ones. Like career goals, and what do you plan on doing say 5yrs down the road or even 10. I know it is a long projection, but if you don't start planning for your future now, you'll miss the starting gun and wonder where has all the time gone and you will be in the same predicament you are in now. Think about it.... is this continuious drinking and getting wasted improving the quality of your life?,... is it hampering things you could be doing during the day to maximize your time?,... and are the ppl you meet there really benifiting you, and are they quality ppl, female and males? Are friends that go with you to these clubs really your friends?, and are they going to be there for you later in life? You also need to evaluate whether you need to get into an substance abuse program, as they are anonymous and most of them are free of charge. You can call AA confidentially and there are other groups that you can find in you local that meet wkly. Also, you may need to improve your career skills and take some classes to better your education?, or maybe get into a tech school. Taking boxing is good for morale, but this is not going to help you down the road. You have to find out what you want to do and take action fast. I found out about this along time ago; there is no free ride, and no one will help you if you don't help yourself. These are things that should be the most important right now in your life, but only you can take the steps necessary for things to change.
Hi Crombie! I think we have talked on this before. Many younger males, and i will include women need to set goals early on. You should start setting goals if you haven't already and follow thru on them. Make a journal if you have to, like a diary on each days plans and what you are going to do that day that is positive and will get you closer to your goals, or set monthly ones. Like career goals, and what do you plan on doing say 5yrs down the road or even 10. I know it is a long projection, but if you don't start planning for your future now, you'll miss the starting gun and wonder where has all the time gone and you will be in the same predicament you are in now. Think about it.... is this continuious drinking and getting wasted improving the quality of your life?,... is it hampering things you could be doing during the day to maximize your time?,... and are the ppl you meet there really benifiting you, and are they quality ppl, female and males? Are friends that go with you to these clubs really your friends?, and are they going to be there for you later in life? You also need to evaluate whether you need to get into an substance abuse program, as they are anonymous and most of them are free of charge. You can call AAA confidentially and there are other groups that you can find in you local that meet wkly. Also, you may need to improve your career skills and take some classes to better your education?, or maybe get into a tech school. Taking boxing is good for morale, but this is not going to help you down the road. You have to find out what you want to do and take action fast. I found out about this along time ago; there is no free ride, and no one will help you if you don't help yourself. These are things that should be the most important right now in your life, but only you can take the steps necessary for things to change.
thats awesome leave it to mick to give GREAT advice!!!!!
Hi Crombie! I think we have talked on this before. Many younger males, and i will include women need to set goals early on. You should start setting goals if you haven't already and follow thru on them. Make a journal if you have to, like a diary on each days plans and what you are going to do that day that is positive and will get you closer to your goals, or set monthly ones. Like career goals, and what do you plan on doing say 5yrs down the road or even 10. I know it is a long projection, but if you don't start planning for your future now, you'll miss the starting gun and wonder where has all the time gone and you will be in the same predicament you are in now. Think about it.... is this continuious drinking and getting wasted improving the quality of your life?,... is it hampering things you could be doing during the day to maximize your time?,... and are the ppl you meet there really benifiting you, and are they quality ppl, female and males? Are friends that go with you to these clubs really your friends?, and are they going to be there for you later in life? You also need to evaluate whether you need to get into an substance abuse program, as they are anonymous and most of them are free of charge. You can call AA confidentially and there are other groups that you can find in you local that meet wkly. Also, you may need to improve your career skills and take some classes to better your education?, or maybe get into a tech school. Taking boxing is good for morale, but this is not going to help you down the road. You have to find out what you want to do and take action fast. I found out about this along time ago; there is no free ride, and no one will help you if you don't help yourself. These are things that should be the most important right now in your life, but only you can take the steps necessary for things to change.
Thanks to eveyone for the constructive critisism, I needed it. Yeah Mick, I think looking ahead in life is a great idea. Right now my priorities are going out, beeing seen, getting laid and working so I have funds to do it all the time. Thinking about it and actually typing out what my priorities are right now makes me feel like shit. Thanks for the advice, I have a lot to think about.
I wouldnt recommend drink during a cycle, but i believe in moderation
off cycle i will definitely have a coupla of drinks , just to relax , red
wine is good and vodka and gin some time, i read some where that
arnold would put bourbon in his protein shakes , but to each is own
just protect yourself with a good antioxidant and vitamins.
You have to get over the hump, I gave up drinking over the summer to lose some weight and after I held out for a few weeks I didnt want to drink anymore. Dont drink for a couple of weeks and then after that it wont be nearly as difficult, goodluck!
I tihkn the issue isn't really you have ontihng better to do there is more to it than that I used to be a 6-7 day a week drinker seriously and if i wasn't drunjk I was high., Part of it was my firneds all wanting to party all the time but part of it was me being unhappy with shit so I drank that away if your not sober u don;t gotta deal with it.
maybe i'm wrong but I tihkn it's mroe than lack of tgings to do
hey bro, I go out all the time and get red bull or water and nobody can tell what your drinking. During my season i barley evr drink and in the off season I go "on". alcohol shouldnt make or break your night. Go out have a good time, just enjoy being young. I knwo too many guys at my school or im my frat that cant go out with out drinking. They dont have confidence unless they are hammerd. I tell them to hit the gym and get some real confidence not beer muscles. being wasted or hungover is no way to enjoy life.
I'm an alcoholic and I was able to quit. My body responded really well to being clean, you don't know what alcohol can do to your test levels, it's true your whole physiology changes when your fucking with your body like that every night.
So you drink alot.
Are you an alcoholic?
Don't say "I don't know"
Think about it and say "Yes" or "No"
If your answer is no then whatever...
If your answer is yes then pm me and we'll talk stratgies.
Hey Crombie, i didn't mean to come off like a lecture. I myself go out and have a few, but it is far and few between, and very seldom, but sometimes i do have one too many, but then again i have had my time going out and partying bigtime when i was around your age and younger, and im not just talking liquor, but i stopped it myself, no intervention. Sounds like it maybe a different story with you. You say you are going out 6-7 days a wk getting trashed?? You need to be seen?? What does that mean? It sounds like there are alot of factors causing you to do this, but it is hard to guess when we don't know your particular background and what it was like for you growing up. Maybe you would feel more comfortable talking to a professional clinical phsycologist who can evaluate you. Addiction is a very unassuming disease. The biggest problem with it is that the person addicted will not think that they have a problem and that it is just something they need to do for fun, or as you say "to be seen," or that they are bored and can control it, but in reality they can't. There are many attributes that can cause substance abuse: depression, low self-esteem, growing up in a controling dysfunctional family, sexual or physical abuse growing up, lack of getting ahead in life, procrastination, denile, insomnia, etc. Only you can make the decision to seek help. Ppl can guide you and help you get the proper help, but you must do the work, no one can force you to do what you don't want to do. Your first step would be to accept that there is a prob and admit to it, then from there actively seek help.
i used to have the same problem! If you think you have a problem and you want to stop drinking then PM me and I can try to help and give u some advice.... quitting was the best thing ive ever done for myself!
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