My wife is a bad drunk

[Terminator]

Originally posted by Damonic
video tape her when shes a drunken retard and show it to her when shes sober maybe she'll not like what she see's.....thats all I know

Well actually I just thought about that last week. Now all I have to do is get my video camera fixed or get another one. I am almost positve that that would work. She would either quit drinking all together or learn to control herself. I sure know i wood if I seen myself act like that!

[Damonic]

good luck dude

[darmadoc]

This sounds like a major alcohol problem. When every episode of drinking turns into a loss of control over consumption and behavior you see the classic symptoms of alcoholism. You can try to point her in the right direction but this has to be her responsibility not yours. You may want to check out the AA or Alanon web sites for more ideas. Good luck.

[edvedr]

my advice don't listen to anyone who says boot her, or its her prob not yours. AND THE BEST ADVICE I CAN EVER GIVE IS WHEN YOU SEE TRIP'S REMARKS JUST LISTEN TO HIM. he always gives the best advice!

[dreamgirl]

This is a big problem and the only thing that I can agree with is maybe the videotape thing, but you shouldn't be the one taping, get someone else who cares for it, then say this was given to me, they are worried and I am worried. Then talk about what she wants to do to fix the problem. She is the one who has to want to get better, she can't be forced.

[Kristylynn]

Re: My wife is a bad drunk

Originally posted by Terminator
Hey Bros, I am confused, my wife and I used to be able to go out and drink up and have a good time but latey, like the last couple of years, whn we go drinking she thinks she has to get blitzed and then try to start shit with me. She gets to the point of falling down drunk and then any little thing I do she goes off about it. We have lost alot of friends over it and it really pisses me off. Hell I dont feel safe being around her when she is like that. She will start a fight then try to start hitting me and shit. and then if i lay one finger on her she calls the police or threatens to. I have have had one ocassion were she smashed an old antique clock over my head and then started punching me in the face after I took the keys away because she was to blitzed to drive, I tried to defend myself by pushing her away and she fell and hit her head on the wall leaving a red mark on her forehead. she then calls the police and what you know i am on my way downtown. I am the one who should have been filling charges but the woman cop was totally on her side, So i went to jail.
She will threaten to kick me out of our home and threaten that I will never see my kid again and shit. When she is sober she is the the nicest person you would ever meet. I mean she wont get mad at any thing. Lately after she gets like that I just leave and stay at friends house or a hotel then the next day she calls and dosent remember a thing and is begging me to come home. The fourth is coming up and we have a big party on the lake to go to with alot of friends going to be there. I am worried that it will be the same old thing and it is bumming me real hard. what would you guys do in this situation? I dont want to quit drinking and socializing because its part of me and I have so much fun being around our friends until she gets this way!

There is nothing wrong with drinking in moderation, just make sure you are sober enough to cut her off after a couple - that should avoid the problems, but allow you both to drink socially Good Luck

[Kitten]

Seriously, if it were me, I would not go out with her at all. If you want her to stop, you have to stop. And just tell her, thats it, you are not going out. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say I feel so strongly about this that if you continue I am leaving. I'm not saying you should do that, I am just saying thats what I would do. But if the police are being called....you know its always the mans fault as far as they are concerned....and you don't want to be going to jail over something you didn't do. Its a tough situation thats for sure, I feel for you. Good luck!

[Terminator]

We actually dont go out much any more because of this problem. Which sometimes I wonder if thats the problem. Maybe her tolerence went down when we are not partying everyweekend like we used to. I just cant see me just up and quiting. I slowed way down to like once or twice every couple of months and I hate it because I like to go to clubs and hang out with Bros and shit at the lake. Going to the lake and drinking water or pop? Just cant do it. Got to have some drinks and shit or I am not very sociable!
Thanks to everyone and your opinions on this.