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How many of you reading this are "addicted over obligator's?" I know that I was at one time in my life. We have all been put in a situation where a friend or a family member ask us to do something, perhaps attend a party, go out for a drink, any multitude if situations, and we say "Yes", when we really felt like saying "NO" because it was something that we did not feel like doing. How many of you know what I mean?
Do not allow anyone to "guilt" you into doing something that you really do not want to do. When you say "yes" when you really feel "No" but do it anyway, you end up giving all of your personal power away at that moment and get caught in the loop of disappointment and guilt. You actually will keep on doing the same thing over and over because you become addicted (bio chemically) to the emotions that are attached to your feelings.
I will expose myself here a little for everyone. I used to feel guilty if I did not see my extended family over the holiday season. I would go over to someone's home because they were my family and I felt that I had to go for that reason alone, after all, that is what I was conditioned to do my entire life right? As I grew older, much older, I realized that a certain portion of my extended family did not make me feel "warm an fuzzy" anymore and that I really did not gain anything by being around them. In fact, I could not wait to go home! That does not mean that I do not love them, I do. I choose not to spend time with them anymore.
Life is too short to do something you do not want to do or be with people whom you really do not want to be with. Learning to say "No" is like using a muscle, the more you use your "No" muscle the stronger it get's. When you do this for the first time, notice how it makes you feel. Stop giving your power away and start taking it back, say "NO!"
How many of you reading this are "addicted over obligator's?" I know that I was at one time in my life. We have all been put in a situation where a friend or a family member ask us to do something, perhaps attend a party, go out for a drink, any multitude if situations, and we say "Yes", when we really felt like saying "NO" because it was something that we did not feel like doing. How many of you know what I mean?
Do not allow anyone to "guilt" you into doing something that you really do not want to do. When you say "yes" when you really feel "No" but do it anyway, you end up giving all of your personal power away at that moment and get caught in the loop of disappointment and guilt. You actually will keep on doing the same thing over and over because you become addicted (bio chemically) to the emotions that are attached to your feelings.
I will expose myself here a little for everyone. I used to feel guilty if I did not see my extended family over the holiday season. I would go over to someone's home because they were my family and I felt that I had to go for that reason alone, after all, that is what I was conditioned to do my entire life right? As I grew older, much older, I realized that a certain portion of my extended family did not make me feel "warm an fuzzy" anymore and that I really did not gain anything by being around them. In fact, I could not wait to go home! That does not mean that I do not love them, I do. I choose not to spend time with them anymore.
Life is too short to do something you do not want to do or be with people whom you really do not want to be with. Learning to say "No" is like using a muscle, the more you use your "No" muscle the stronger it get's. When you do this for the first time, notice how it makes you feel. Stop giving your power away and start taking it back, say "NO!"
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