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[ByRoN]

Tweetwell me and my wife been split up 2 weeks and she asked me to come home tonight to work it out my life is spinning out of control again i got a dui 2 saturday nights ago i blew a .o9 i had had 3 beers, i am thinking of joining the military to help get my self discipline back whats your thouhts on that or any other ideas on how to get it back?

[OldWiseGuy]

TweetLearn not drive when you drink. Joining the armed forces will only compound your troubles.

[mandarb11]

TweetBro you are just confused with all the **** that is going on right now. It is never a good idea to make any big decisions when you can't think straight, so avoid that as much as possible. I don't know what broke you two up in the first place, so I don't know if it is a good thing that she wants to get back together, that is something for you to decide. I hope everything works out for you bro, I have been in a similar situation myself with my wife and I can honestly say it was the hardest time in my life!

[Redstone2]

TweetDon't drink and drive.
Don't do anything to mess up your thinking right now. Keep a level head (as best you). No drinking. No drugs.
Don't make major decisions with out alot of time and thinking.
Slow down and think.
What ever it takes. Mine is going to the gym and wearing my a$$ out. First time or so I'd just go home and sleep. After a couple days I had claim moments I could think. Do what ever works for you. But think about what you want and what is best for you.

Tough times, bro. Hang in there.

Red

[angryoldman]

TweetHow do you think the military will help you? They will teach you discipline, but that doesn't sound like the problem. You may have a drinking problem. Before you run off and join the military, consider marriage counsiling, and attend some AA classes. Show your wife you're willing to try. Joining the military almost sounds like running away from your wife and your problems.

[kite]

TweetNo military Byron. Dude, ya just gotta get it together and there's no easy way to go about it. Like aom said, try some counseling, together as well as on your own. I know ya feel lost and from some of your past posts I know that you don't really know your place in life but ya gotta keep pushin man.

[daved150]

Tweeti dont know what the problem is bro....it's hard to tell you my opinion on that. as far as the military, thats the WAY wrong way to go...puch that out of your mind!! get back with her. find the prob. and work it out.

[Klash]

TweetJoining the military is only going to put more stress on your marriage; stress it probably can't take if you have been separated for 2 weeks. That isn't necessarily a bad thing - just depends on what your priorities are. If your not ready to give up your wife, don't join. If you don't think your marriage with her is going to work anyway; talk to someone that can give you the facts about the military but like these guys said, thats a big decision. Don't make it on a whim or to prove something to someone.

Good luck

[trip]

Tweetbyron,

one day at a time

make a list of the 3 most important things you must do right now, keep a daily log that u do each one, do it for seven days and then try and add something teeny to it

most of the time u seem too take on huge challenges and expect huge results with huge effort very quickly

do the opposite

set up small goals, over a small time frame, that u should achieve, and then over time do a tad more

it's not that u don't have disciipline, u have quite a bit, yet, in the important areas of life, it is very erratic at times and what happens is.........

One bad decision always leads too two others, and that is a big hit to a persons confidence, ego and energy, and usually they try harder, rather than smarter

go smarter, follow the plan above, teeny goals, over time leads too huge changes in 3-6-9 months a year

[FUZO]

TweetYOUR A ALCOHOLIC BYRON BUT UNTIL YOU REACH YOUR BOTTOM YOU WILL NEVER DO ANYTHINNG ABOUT IT.YOU NEED HELP.YOU NEED HELP WITH YOUR DRINKING BEFORE YOU CAN PATCH UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE. DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT THE MILITARY. GET COUNSELING IF YOU DONT WANT HELP WITH YOUR DRINKING.

[ByRoN]

Tweetthanks guys trip you seem to have a way of breaking things down and helping out you the man. i am not gonna lie i love to drink but i dont do it everyday i had only had 3 beer the night i got the dui i didn't even have a buzz but i still broke the law and now i will have to pay!

[daved150]

Tweet3beers, 13beers...drunk driving is drunk driving. i never had a ticket in my life untill feb 05' and it was a dui. and that night, was the first night, in 2 years that i got drunk!! dude...is that the prob your having with the mrs? is it your drinking?...if so, then, you got a prob that you need to realize you have and get help

[Merc]

TweetByRon you always seem to get into trouble when you drink best thing to do is kick the drinking to the curb. You can still have fun without drinking if you cant kick it then check yourself in to a rehab program or go to AA.

I dont know why you two broke up for 2 weeks but look at whats important to you and what you want to keep in your life, then go from there.

[O2BESOHUGE]

TweetDONT EVEN GET IN THE CAR IF YOUVE BEEN DRINKING. MY SISTER IN LAW IS IN PRISON RIGHT NOW AND HAS BEEN THERE FOR 2 MONTHS. SHE GOT 12 YEARS FOR HITTING A LITTLE BOY AND KILLING HIM. SHE BLEW TWICE THE LEGAL LIMIT. .17

SHE NEVER EVEN HAD A SPEEDING TICKET BEFORE THAT.

BE CAREFUL AND NEVER EVEN THINK ABOUT GETTING IN A CAR IF YOUVE BEEN DRINKING

BYRON, YOU LANDED A BEAUTIFUL WIFE. DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO KEEP HER IF YOU LOVE HER

O2

[supernova1021]

TweetI readily agree with the others about joining the military. The military is a very good decision for some but obviously not for you right now.

You have to realize that you have problems and face them like a man. Don't run and hide from them...it only prolongs it and makes it worse.

Prioritize things man, and think about what is most important in your life right now. Is it your marriage? Then focus on it and do WHATEVER it takes to make it right.

These guys know you better than I do but if you do have a drinking problem you definitely need to face it and take care of it. Admitting it is the first step brother. Once you admit it to yourself and others, then you have to WANT to get help. If you don't WANT help, you ain't gonna get any better.

If the courts are making you go through some type of program for the drinking then TAKE FULL ADVANTAGE OF IT!!! No matter how silly you think it is.

And if the wife will agree to some sort of counseling for the two of you THEN DO IT!!

I have read a lot of your posts and like I said the other guys here know you a lot better. I hate to sound harsh here but YOU STILL SOUND LIKE A KID TO ME. Not to bash you bro, but it takes some people some hard lessons and a while longer to grow up. You know the difference between right and wrong so just do it. You have to be the one to WANT the help and to ACCEPT the help.

Don't piss everything away. Do whatever it takes.