Need Advice

[FUZO]

TweetOK HERE IT IS.BEEN WITH MY WIFE 14 YEARS ALL OF A SUDDEN AFTER THE BABY WAS BORN 31 DAYS AGO IT HAS BEEN COMPLETE SHIT BETWEEN US.SHE IS GOING THROUGH POST PARDOM HER HORMONES ARE OUT OF CONTROL.DOCTOR PUT HER ON SOME ZOLOFT OR ANTI DEPRESSENT WHAT EVER AND HER EMOTIONS ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY. SHES BEEN AT HER MOTHERS BECAUSE BECAUSE WE FIGHT MAKES ME LOOK LIKE A REAL DICK WHEN I AM TRYING MY BEST. EVERY TIME MY WIFES CRIES HER PERANTS ARE LIKE OK COME OVER WITH THE BABY AND STAY IT PISSES ME OFF.HER ING SISTERS CALL THE HOUSE NON STOP,HOW ARE YOU IS FUZO BEING A JERK WELL JUST COME OVER THAN.IT SEEMS NOBODY IS SEEING MY POINT. I HAVENT SEEN MY BABY IN 2 DAYS AND I AM GOING CRAZY SHE BELONGS AT HOME.OK HERES A BIG PART OF IT. THE GYM IS MY GOD MY CHURCH I HAVE TO GO AND SHE IS TELLING ME YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP 2-3 DAYS A WEEK SHES TELLING ME NOT ASKING. I GUESS I AM STUBBORN WHEN SOMEBODY TELLS FUZO YOU CANT DO THIS I TELL THEM TO OFF.IF YOU ASK NICELY FUZO DOES IT.IVE TALK TO ALOT OF PEOPLE AND IT ALL COMES DOWN TO WHERE I HAVE TO KISS HER ASS UNTIL SHES BETTER. I CANT KISS ASS IT JUST WONT HAPPEN. WHY DO MEN HAVE TO SUFFER BECAUSE OF HER EMOTIONS.I WILL TRY HARDER BUT THIS IS HOW DIVORCE HAPPENS YOU GET TO HATE EACH OTHER.14YRS PRETTY GOOD- 31DAYS MAY = DIVORCE IT SUCKS.

[DOUBLE J]

TweetIT MAY BE BECAUSE YOUR YELLING ALL THE TIME!
Seriously, Hormones and the fact that a new baby, especially a first baby is extremely stressfull!
Suck it up. I rarely give advise to give in but in this case it'll all be good soon!
Bet your a little stressed too.

[trip]

TweetFuzo,

Deal with clients on many emotional issues.

On this one know it is super tough to see and understand cause on outside all looks normal.

In a certain way she is VERY VERY VERY SICK .

Take how she is acting on the outside and multiply it by a factor of ten or twenty that is how she feels on the inside, she is on a huge emotional roller coaster every minute of every day, it is making her sick tired worn out on edge, on and on.

When people get like this the inside is so scary for most folks they can't even begin to understand how to express all this stuff that is so foreign to them, it would be like you and me trying to speak chinese.

Agree with you on the gym though, and it doesn't make any difference whether it is gym, cars, bowling or whatever, we all have passions and as long as they are not harmfull to the relationship it is one of the things that makes relationships work and makes them better.

Suggestion, 1. Hang in there
2. Find your own support, friends, minister etc., or
heck even the board, you will need to express
yourself about this stuff or it will most likely
eat you up, ( note there are exception so if
you deal with things your own way own time,
that cool too
3. Prepare yourself, this is not like the flue, 2-3
weeks, it can last many many months

any q's ask

Hoped That Helped
Good Luck

[FUZO]

TweetWELL I WILL CALL HER TODAY TO SEE IF SHE WANTS TO COME HOME.I DIDNT TELL HER TO LEAVE SHE LEFT BECAUSE HER FAMILY BABYS HER AND SAYS WELL COME OVER THAN.I'LL SUCK IT UP. PROBABLY WILL BE POSTING ALL DAY ON THIS TO GET IT OUT. I AM READY TO BLOW

[trip]

TweetFUZO SHE IS SICK SICK SICK SICK SICK

ie, nothing is going to be rational, so try not to expect it to be that will only cause you to be more p.o.'d

one of the situations kind of go with flow and be supportive as possible, which gosh when you write it seems so simple, in reality it is a 500 lb. bench, and to get to a five hundred lb. bench most of us will have to be men we have never been before in everyway

Catch the drift?

PS-not trying to be rude, it is the hardest thing I have to deal with and I've dealt with it many times, it's a ball buster each and every time, never get's better, have faith though the other person does

[Slightly Enhanced]

TweetFuz, I wish I could help you man, but I have no clue how marriages, women, and especially babies work. Put all three together and I would just RUN.

But you can't do that. You have to be strong and suck it up for now. That may mean taking some time away from the things you enjoy, i.e. gym.

You already know that your wife is jealous of the gym. So surprise her, give it up for a week or two, just stay at home and help her. Prove that she is more important.

[Workinhards Queen]

TweetHang in there FUZO it will get better ! You can not begin to imagine all her body and mind are going through. Be patient and yes you might have to kiss bootie just a smidge...most all women like that every now and then. Lots of babying and pampering and all about family and love now......It will help you out !

Give a little on the butt kissing and let her know how special she is to you and she will likely cave and cut you some slack on the gym !

Best of luck !

[leankid]

TweetWow, I feel for ya buddy! I hope your situation gets better! I'm sure things will be back to normal before long. I had a good friend go through that and almost divorced over it, but it's all back to normal now! Give it time my man!

[jsjs24]

TweetWell I'm goin thru a divorce so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice. But I was the one that tried to fix things and go thru therapy. I think if yuo really love her then maybe you should work with her on the gym issue until she calms down and starts feeling better. Just lift 5 day a week and see how that does. Later when she is doing better you can rationalize with her about how much working out means to you...but don't lead her to believe it's more important than she is imo. Hey maybe you could get her to start working out. That was one strong thing in my marriage...we both worked out religiously. Good luck Fuzo.

[trip]

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Originally posted by saturn
MAN FUZO YOUR POST GAVE ME A HEADACHE......

Listen to trip he gives solid advise....I think he is actually a woman trapped in a man's body.

ROFLMAO

[workinhard]

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Originally posted by Workinhards Queen
Hang in there FUZO it will get better ! You can not begin to imagine all her body and mind are going through. Be patient and yes you might have to kiss bootie just a smidge...most all women like that every now and then. Lots of babying and pampering and all about family and love now......It will help you out !

Give a little on the butt kissing and let her know how special she is to you and she will likely cave and cut you some slack on the gym !

Best of luck !

yepper, dont ask her is she wants to come home...tell her you want her to be home with the baby for you to take care of and love! KISS ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the gym is always going to be there. this will blow over if you handle it right. if you cant do this and the gym id you god... then why did you have a fam and i guess you know where it all id going

pride is the down fall of stupid people!!!!

[FUZO]

TweetTHANK YOU ALL AOT. I JUST GOT OFF THE PHONE WITH HER AND TOLD HER I WANT HER AND THE BABY HOME.I WAS JUST SO SICK OF NOT SEEING MY NEWBORN FOR 2 DAYS AND MY WIFE.SHES COMING HOME AND I WILL SACRAFICE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE UNTIL SHE GETS BETTER.THANK YOU ALL AGAIN.

[trip]

TweetYou da MAN, good news

[vengeance]

TweetThat's good news FUZO. Just remember to take it one day at a time... and that there's nothing more important than your wife and your baby. With that said, I can also tell you that it takes a solid two weeeks for anti-depressants to build up in your system. So make sure she takes them once a day, at the same time of day, or as the doctor has prescribed, and after they build up in her system, she'll mellow out. Once that happens, she'll be able to be more objective during discussions with you.

[Got Gear?]

TweetYa know Fuzo... I have 2 suggestions for you:

1) Maybe giving up a few days at the gym isn't such a bad idea. Just until things smooth out and she gets over the post partum.

2) Consider showing her this thread. Let her know how you've been fealing and seeing things.