Given that today’s work environment is as hurried and episodic as it is digital, the question arises: How does one turn an office flirtation into anything more than a few sparks, let alone a full flame? You know the story: There’s a cute redhead who's been working on your floor for over a month now, and though you’ve been introduced and exchanged a memorable glance or two, your meetings are few and far between. And when you do encounter one another, it’s fleeting -- maybe one minute at the copier or waiting for the elevator. You simply haven’t had much of a chance to make an impression. You think she might like you, but you never get a chance to find out.What can be done? The content of your brief conversations is key. Give her something interesting to ponder throughout the day or week, and you’ll never really have left her. What’s more, you’ll have an obvious topic ready for follow-up next time you meet, thereby protecting your fragile acquaintanceship from awkward silences.For all those wishing to develop a healthy repertoire with a fetching colleague, we recommend following these conversation tips. 1- Be casual

If you’re not comfortable, she won’t be either. You’re going to be nervous when you encounter her, sure, but remember -- people pick up on what is being projected. Project confidence, comfort and ease and she, in turn, is likely to be at ease herself. 2- Interesting but not bizarre

Since you’re attempting to make a definitively positive impression, it’s best to avoid strange topics that may cast you in an off-putting light, at least at first. Best to pass over topics such as sex, politics and religion at this point in favor of something less charged but nonetheless interesting. Noting the extraordinary or curious in an otherwise ordinary incident perhaps belonging to your shared work experience or surroundings is always a good bet. Remember, at this early stage, she’s discovering what you’re like to be around. Are you considerate, subtle and perceptive? Fun to run into? Do you make her day more memorable somehow? 3- Ask about her

Once an engaging conversation is off the ground, plenty of guys make the mistake of assuming they’re the pilot and she’s just a passenger, or at best a stewardess whose role is to keep the pilot going. Do not assume this. Our hypothetical redhead is, in fact, your copilot in the conversational skies and should be consulted as to her thoughts, interests and passions. She will appreciate being treated as an equal and given a chance to share her own opinions. Needless to say, discovering what excites her, what makes her tick and what makes her furious will also help you select the best possible topics for future conversations. 4- Listen

This may seem obvious, but it’s worth mentioning. If you don’t actively listen to what she’s saying, even if it’s because you’re too busy trying to think of what you’re going to say next, you may miss out on something important. Moreover, if she senses that you’re not really listening but simply waiting for your turn to speak again, she may well write you off as egotistical, deceitful and patronizing. 5- Don’t be afraid to surrender her company

Since an attractive woman in the workplace bears an uncanny resemblance to an oasis in a desert, you should expect competition for her time. The key here, however, is to never appear thirsty. If a fellow suitor lays a claim to her time, ostensibly for work-related reasons or otherwise, don’t fight him too hard. Your amorous motivation may become suspect. Better to essentially feign indifference. Add just a hint of disappointment, but ultimately leave her wondering if your horizons are simply too broad to ever seriously consider her. Remember, people most desire an invitation to a party they’re not confident they’ll be invited to. Continue Reading


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