How to deal with people who mock and criticize you

[BABY1]

TweetCame across this i my travels. Have to say this has happened to me several times in life but the good part is I have learned a whole lot from it. Actually was good motivation for me.



Everyone who is destined to succeed in life will at some time be the subject of mockery or criticism. If you are now facing this type of abuse from people, either in your personal circle or at work, it’s valuable insight to know exactly why it’s happening so you can deal with it wisely.


Mockery and criticism is a good sign
When people mock, criticise and laugh in your face know that you are on the road to success. Josef von Sternberg once quoted “the only way to succeed is to make others hate you.” In reality, the cruel behaviour they throw at you is indicative that you are doing well in life or that you’re disheartening them in some way. If that was not the case, they would not bother with you! It is that you are a personal threat to them that propels them to hunt you down.


Hold your head up high
Refuse to see such people as big, whilst feeling small within. Thinking you’re their victim will do nothing but put you in a powerless position. These types of people are too cowardly to venture out of their comfort zones and allow their fears to keep them from chasing their dreams. The only objective mockers and critics have is to stop you from moving to greatness. So endure the humiliation of mockery and criticism. Your job is rise above it and dare to do what is right in fulfilling your destiny.


Play deaf and blind
Don’t hear the criticism. Don’t focus on the disapproving looks of others. Reproaches should pass by you without a care. Be as stubborn as a mule; the mule is a stubborn self centred animal who is only concerned with his own interests.


Don’t try to prove yourself to a small fry!
Don’t waste your energy in trying to prove yourself to annoying “small people” who constantly undermine your efforts. Instead focus your eyes on leaping to the top and gaining the support of the powerful and successful, which can help you on your journey.


Thrive on their negativity

When others tell you that you can’t do this, you can’t do that or that you’re a loser – use their negative energy plus the negative energy you feel regarding the mockery and criticism to push you to create an emotion explosive enough to support and realize your dreams. As the well know saying tells us; success is the sweetest revenge!


Expose and eliminate

When people mock and criticise you to your face, be privileged to know where they stand. And as for those who do it behind your back, be vigilant. An enemy un-confronted becomes stronger, so discern this type of person and dispose of them as soon as you can. If you have no choice but to be exposed to such people, kill off the relationship or develop ways of avoiding them.


Be unstoppable
Finally remember that mockery and criticism cannot stop an idea or a dream that will succeed. Your job is to do ignore these people and do what you have to do by ruthlessly pursuing your objectives. As Baltasa quoted “Be content to act and leave the talking to others.”

[MOUNTAIN-MAN]

TweetVery nice thread very good advise

[Dzone]

TweetExcellent. Baltasa “Be content to act and leave the talking to others.”
Reminds me of the girl who mocked me for wanting a new truck for my business. She got so ugly and mean about it that I had to block her on facebook and her phone #. We dont need people around us who want to hold us back or try to control us. It is a sad fact that there are people out there who flat out dont want you to succeed and want you to fail and fall flat on your face. Sometimes they are even people close to you

[Trixie]

TweetThis is so true:

In December we went to our golf course/ restaurant running an errand. There was a Christmas Party going on so we decided to have a couple drinks. The next morning one of the servers went around spreading the word that Rake and I came in, crashed the party, got totally drunk and ate all the food. A lie. This bothered me for several weeks while I was trying to figure out how to deal with her. January I had my opportunity. My best friend had her son's wedding there and the owner of the club threw all the employees a late holiday party. I got my food and followed my daughter-in-law to the tables and reluctantly sat down where this server was eating. Suddenly she said 'Hi I heard you came to a wedding here last night. Did you do anything crazy?' I replied. 'I'm not sure, you weren't serving last night so I didn't get to hear any gossip about it this morning.'

She got that 'tight as* look on her face' then about 5 minutes later moved to a different table. I won lol.

[Dzone]

TweetPeople will not like it when they see you moving your life forward in a positive way. They will hate you for it. Why? They probably dont even know. Unconsciously, it makes people uncomfortable, maybe reminds them of how lazy they are. Maybe they are afraid if you get successful that you wont be their friend anymore. Who knows why

[Dzone]

TweetThis same girl, as soon as she got wind of me launching a new business she texted me a long list of all the things I had better consider before moving forward and why she thought it was doomed to fail lol...Needless to say, I rarely discussed anything of a creative nature with her because I didnt want any of it infected with her negativity...Now that I no longer converse with her, I dont have to worry. I only converse with people who are 100% on board with my products, services and ideas and vice versa. I dont have time to argue and try to win you over. Thank you.

[guns01]

Tweetif you are man and you wear yoga pants or any other tight skinny sweat pants type of clothing i am going to mock and make fun of you to the fullest extent possible.

as for you dzone, if you dont take risks and branch out then you are destined to stay the same. your money and your success or failure. if i was in your position i would go with my gut every single time

[BABY1]

TweetI had very good mentors, and I was not a follower or even a leader, but I always took the leap whether i was supported or not. Much of the mocking came from family and friends and as much as it stung I paid no mind did what I wanted to do. I don't like to be told what to do or not to do and that sometimes involves conflict. Now my goal is to teach my daughter the same as she is already experiencing this. I find it comical when I am mocked, or given opinion, and then only to find in the future that those who didn't support me are doing that very thing. As far as credit, forget it, if your a good leader the big EGOs will eat up your hard work. I have learned to keep distance from those kind of people. If you are not my boss, or my Dad, best not try to tell me what to do...that's my story. Now I do not have a boss and my dad knows whom he raised and is now my buddy.

I have some shoes to fill in the family and I am just tweaking them a bit so I do not lose myself. If this article pertains to you, stay strong. If you are one of the other people, its time to do some digging inward. Envy plain sucks and it can cost you some good people

[BABY1]

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People will not like it when they see you moving your life forward in a positive way. They will hate you for it. Why? They probably dont even know. Unconsciously, it makes people uncomfortable, maybe reminds them of how lazy they are. Maybe they are afraid if you get successful that you wont be their friend anymore. Who knows why

I think you're right Dzone, there is fear there. I also think people take it as a personal attack on themselves.

[BABY1]

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if you are man and you wear yoga pants or any other tight skinny sweat pants type of clothing i am going to mock and make fun of you to the fullest extent possible.

lol, I always like your honest opinion and you are very humble and supportive of people. On the other hand, more power to any indivisula who wears what they want and doesn't give a shit what others think

[BABY1]

TweetIt is these kind of people who "hate" and then copy