what do you think, did I do the right thing ?

[diggi]

TweetOk .. well me and my girl have been going out for more than a month now... everything was fine.. some small minor disagreements but nothing huge..

What bothers me is every time we go out and no matter what we do I AM THE ALWAYS ONE WHO PAYS FOR EVERYTHING and I'm sick and tired of it.

I'm not a millionaire .. to be doing this shit.. every day..

When she gets paid from her job..she goes out and buys clothes and whatever with her friends.. she never paid for anything..and when she's with me I have a feeling that "she's broke" or whatever..

So today she got her check..and was like I'm going to the mall.. with my friend.. and I was like oh..ok.. but man inside I was burning like hell.. so I couldnt take it anymore and I told her wtf is this.. she spends money.. but expects me to pay for everything..all the fukin time.. I mean doing it once twice even three times is fine.. but now all the time.. She lives 20-30 miles away from me..so she NEVER ever even asked me hey do you need some money or want some money for the gas..you drive all the way here..to see me and stuff.

DONT GET ME WRONG..I DONT WANT HER PAYING.. BUT ITS ABOUT BEING POLITE AND RESPECTFUL AND TO OFFER TO PAY..SHE DOESN'T EVEN OFFER..

So when I told her about this and how I feel she was like.. OH WHAT KIND OF BOYFRIEND ARE YOU EXPECTING A GIRL TO PAY.. this and that.. so I blew it and just told her to STFU and hung up the phone call..

I dont wanna go through drama with anyone again.. been there done that..costed me alot of things.. so even if it means that I will lose her..or LOST her already I honestly dont give a shit.

[oddball]

Tweeti would be pissed of to.at the least she could offer to pay half.

i dont like women who think men should pay for everything.i wouldnt date any girl i though was a gold digger.

[BigDawg]

TweetI ain't sayin she a gold digger but she ain't hangin with no broke....

[Lily]

TweetI agree..if she has money she should at least offer to pay for dinner sometimes....of course she would "" if you actually said, "ok, you pay" lolol

At least she knows how you feel and if she is that immature to say what she said, you can live without her.
Good Luck!

[McKenzie]

TweetIts ok diggi....you let her know how you feel...no harm in sharing your feelings

If I may ask....how old is she? Also, is this the same girl you suspected her to be doing something with the jealous ex?...or is this a new girl?

[McKenzie]

Tweetha...lily and I posted at the same time....same answer basically

[Lily]

Tweet

ha...lily and I posted at the same time....same answer basically

I tried repping ya, but couldn't
I'll keep trying...I owe ya for another post, too.

[diggi]

Tweetshe is 23 yrs old..and yes shes the one.. that i assumed she had something to do with her ex..but its fine.. he moved to another state anyways..she got nothin for him.. she is 23 young but she is very smart and not naive..

[mick-G]

TweetLol! Bro, don't take offense, but she is damn young and doesn't care. She prob has had guy paying for everything all the time and has no consideration for you, just so that you fill her time with entertainment. If she really cared, like you said she would have been asking you to maybe take it easy and maybe for you and her to stay at home or watch a video instead or at least offer to pay. I don't think she is dumb at all, but if you want to budget your $ you have to be in control and put your foot down. If she doesn't like it "asta la vista, baby!"

[kite]

Tweet^True

[mick-G]

TweetDiggi, you mean to tell me she never comes to see you?? I remember when i was in my early 30's and was single. Id go out with these 20 yr olds and most of them was just to fill my time with some young, and for my entertainment you know...lol!, but most all of them would come to visit me off and on, and show me some interest as well, and if iam taking them to 5 star restaurants, top clubs, and spending time, and what have you, then they need to show me some interest and sincerity as well. Doesn't matter if it doesn't cost much or that we even have to go anywhere, just so they show some intitiative once in awhile. One thing that is a big turnoff to me is a woman who wants the guy to do everything all the time and she has no imput. Sounds to me like she is one of those typical young women that doesn't really care about $ or respect for it, just as long as its being thrown her way. Diggi,... you are still young, why put all your cards on one girl? Date a few or more of them at the same time and quit commiting if your not getting what you want out of the relationship, and a realtionship with a woman isn't everything. Take sometime for yourself and grow. That is the one thing i see now with young guys is that they will commit right away, just because they went out with a girl awhile and they think they are attractive and had sex. They throw everything away, money, future, goals, etc., just because they met some attractive girl that smiled at them, lol! If i remember correctly you kinda were the one pushing for a commitment, or at least thinking about it. Imo, i can't really understand why?,... just because you want a relationship doesn't mean you push the commitment just because you want her to be "yours". If you feel that is the necessary ingrediant to keep a girl, maybe you need to re-access your own thought patterns and try to find out why?? If you are insecure about your prospective woman's character and whether or not she will be faithfull, then maybe you should rethink about considering a commited relationship with that person. In the relationships ive been in that i decided i wanted a commitment, it wasn't because i was afraid if the woman would find another man, but rather because i fully trusted them, and by the time we reached that decision we spent at least a yr together and i actually knew the woman and everything about her, and they the same about, what we were truely like and were comfortable with each other. I remember the first date my wife and i had. We went to a movie and then a few drinks. As soon as we got to the ticket box at the movie, shes handing me $, lol! I shook my head and laughed to myself (damn im thinking...this is my kinda woman!).

[Fit2bLarge]

Tweetyeah, she's definetly not dumb

start playin the 'im busy' part. you're busy with this, with that, make yourself unavailable. after a few times of blowin her off, tell her to come out to you. see how much interest she shows, then take it from there

and as the others said, at your age, i'd be shuffling through 2 or 3 girls at a time. you have the whip (audi? i forget). the young ones fall for the cars.

where's crombie? he needs to take diggi under the wing

[crombie09]

TweetI usually start out by paying for most things when I date a girl. Then as the relationship progresses I let her pay for things, if she insists. Im usually the one that pays for stuff though. If Im in a bind or not doing well on money at the current time, I'll let her know the situation and she usually pays..no biggie. I think if the girl honestly likes you and enjoys being with you and spending time with you then she wont give a shit if she has to pay on occasion.

[superdog]

TweetWhat Mick said is probably true.

If this girl really cared about you she`d be offering to come see you, pay occasionally, etc..

My GF isn`t rich but still pulls out a 10 when I put down 30 for dinner, etc. (and where I live men are supposed to pay)

[956Vette]

TweetSounds like she has a bad case of princess syndrome, not good. Nip it in the butt!

Ever watch the movie "A bronx tale?" Does she pass the door lock test at least?