Tweetyeah, man. I feel ya on that. I went through that with mine as well. She had to deal with that realization a few years earlier, so it made it difficult to explain things to her so that she could digest the whole death thing easier. I just had to really get her to not worry about it. I just told her that she doesn't have to worry about that, because at the age she was wrestling with it, she didn't have any need for concern regardless. She's 5 now. She'll be 6 in Nov. But she's had a very good understanding of death for a good year, or so, now. She was just kinda forced to deal with it once, I think you know what I'm talking about. So that was tough at 3yrs old. Then, having a dog die, and seeing shyt like that on tv, she had her concerns. She has a good grip on it now though. She's just like most reasonable folks about it. She understands it.
I was always as truthful as I could be with her, and tried to explain things on her level. I wanted to take the reins. I wanted to be the one to break my daughter's mind into that major issue. She's okay with a good understanding of the inevitable now. We're over the crying, and worrying. It just takes serious attention and explanation. Just because they're so young, doesn't mean it's not a big deal to them. Well, you witnessed how upset the thought of it made her.
Now we're dealing with the whole Jesus and God thing.
My daughter already knows, very well, about drugs and the dangers involved. She knows well about the threats of the world. e.g. bad-guys(kidnappers, theives, etc...) I've been teaching her about that stuff since she could communicate.
I have chosen not to shelter my daughter. I'm not gonna let her watch Devil's Rejects, but I'm not gonna give her a false belief that the world is a safe place. Her choices will be the deciding factor of how safe her world is.
knowledge, knowledge, knowledge...The most important weapon and defense.
Before I know it, it'll be time for the big "birds & bees" talk. I'd much rather teach her about that than the television, or her buddies at school!
Good luck man!