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[Skarhead]

TweetIt's so true, sometimes we gotto look in the mirror and sit back and stop thinking about ourselves sometimes.


I get very frustrated with the sport of bodybuilding sometimes because its a very self absorbed, self obsessed mentality. Alot of people in this sport will talk about themselves for 45 minutes before asking you a question about yourself (and during that time your answering they are thinking about the next thing to say about themselves again). I dislike many people in this sport because it makes insecure skinny people into (cocky-but really more insecure) idiots who really think a 20 inch arm means something to that guy they just passed by in the grocery store. Trust me the guy forgot about you already by the time he got to the next aisle. He really doesnt give a shit-your a meathead to him.
Im not a saint and im not trying to portray one in this post. You have seen me be very impatient and an ass to people online before because theres alot of things in the bbing genre thats really selfish that bothers me a great deal. Today I was in a restraurant eating with my wife--I noticed a women who was sitting alone eating behind me, looking out the window, with tears in her eyes talking to herself (not loud). Alot of people would look at that lady like she is a nutcase, but you really dont know what has happened to her that got her to that point. Where would you be if your wife/girlfreind was driving with your family and all of them got crushed by an 18 wheeler and instantly killed? Would you be in a restraurant just devastated looking out the window talking to yourself a month later? I dont know what happened to that lady, I dont want to know....but I do know it was bad enough that somewhere along the line she broke. I called the waitress over and said "i want to pay for her whole dinner but i just want you to tell her a customer took care of it--dont tell her its me". I try to do things like that once a week or whenever I can. Im that guy you see pulling over and changing a tire every once in a while, for someone whose stuck. Im that guy who will tell the 2 homeless guys outside of the restraurant to go in and order dinner and I'll pay for it. A waitress that is in one of the restraurants i frequent is such a nice person. One nite when my wife asked what she would like to do career wise....she started telling us proudly "I work 2 jobs and Im trying to be a.....(and then she stopped)(and started to cry) and then said "ive never been quite able to get into position where I can further myself ahead" and excused herself and said "im so sorry to cry in front of you--Im so sorry"...and she walked away in tears....THAT FREAKING CRUSHED ME. The day before xmas I left her 200 dollars in a christmas card for her tip.
What am I trying to relay here? The next time you look in the mirror and your bummed out because you dont feel your big enough, or your arms are weak, or you look fat or whatever.....just remember theres a guy/girl with muscular dystrophy in a wheelchair out there who will never know what its like EVER to be loved romantically by someone. They are just like you and me on the inside with a shell of a body they have no control over. What do you think is going thru their head when that beautiful woman walks by? Do you think they are thinking "oh maybe I have a shot?"
Ive been devastated before and at the lowest of the low many years ago, it was like an atom bomb went off in my life and I had to rebuild everything but the last few years Ive been blessed, finding my wife, and everything I touch turns to gold AND BELIEVE ME I APPRECIATE IT IMMENSELY. I make the time to try my best to do "random acts of kindness"......it makes me feel good personally even when its anomynous like today. So I ask of anyone reading this....just try it, make yourself do it, outside of the bodybuilding world, go that extra mile, take that extra step, load that ladies groceries in her car for her, help someone that TRULY needs some help, whatever it is, try to do the right thing at the right time--I promise you good luck will come your way from it eventually. Karma has a way of doing that.

[kite]

Tweetgood post skar

[geesler]

TweetThanks for posting that here Skar! Thanks.

[a-bomb83]

Tweeti can honestly say, that i rarely do that. i'm not a prick or anything, i just don't put much thought into it. i've given a homeless guy $5 before, but its not a habit. that post kind of makes you think.

[Skarhead]

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i can honestly say, that i rarely do that. i'm not a prick or anything, i just don't put much thought into it. i've given a homeless guy $5 before, but its not a habit. that post kind of makes you think.

To be honest I dont really go out and give money awy like that either, but I think u can get more out of this than that. The way i see it was just kind of a wake up call to everyone to keep our egos in check. no one cares if we got 18 inch arms or a 650 lb squat besides ourselves ya know?

[president_fad]

TweetI recently too had a revelation. Its very true, the way bbing makes you. I was a prick to everyone, my dad, mom, grandparents i was about to never speak to any of them again.
Luckily my mom interveined and made everything right with my dad and i and everything has been great. I also lost my gf of almost 3 years because of my pricky ways. It was a total wake up call for me, but ever since ive felt 100 times better than ive ever fealt. Any of you who dont speak to your parents, or grandparents etc, pick up the fone and give them a call. I guarantee it will make their day. Lifes too short, to hurt the ones who love you.

[kite]

TweetYeah, and it's not just limited to us iron heads either. So many of us just get caught up in our everyday that we forget about or ignore those in need. It doesn't even have to cost anything at all. You never know what a simple smile or "how ya doin" could mean to someone.

[daved150]

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I recently too had a revelation. Its very true, the way bbing makes you. I was a prick to everyone, my dad, mom, grandparents i was about to never speak to any of them again.
Luckily my mom interveined and made everything right with my dad and i and everything has been great. I also lost my gf of almost 3 years because of my pricky ways. It was a total wake up call for me, but ever since ive felt 100 times better than ive ever fealt. Any of you who dont speak to your parents, or grandparents etc, pick up the fone and give them a call. I guarantee it will make their day. Lifes too short, to hurt the ones who love you.

how very right you are bro..

[mick-G]

TweetSkar, why don't you put quotation marks ("") when you tell someone elses story, lmao!! Still it is a good story. I just wish more ppl would "do", more than "talk", as i see it everyday when i go to my dad's senior apartment. There are ppl there that haven't seen relatives for months, and thats the majority. But it is different when they pass, as everyone is there acting like they are soo sorry for their passing. What a joke and a bunch of hypocrites!

[edvedr]

Tweetgreat read!!

[HungarianBeast]

TweetIt is easy to get caught up in ANYTHING like that. Many people do not think and try to put themselves into other people's places.

Great post.

[a-bomb83]

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I recently too had a revelation. Its very true, the way bbing makes you. I was a prick to everyone, my dad, mom, grandparents i was about to never speak to any of them again.
Luckily my mom interveined and made everything right with my dad and i and everything has been great. I also lost my gf of almost 3 years because of my pricky ways. It was a total wake up call for me, but ever since ive felt 100 times better than ive ever fealt. Any of you who dont speak to your parents, or grandparents etc, pick up the fone and give them a call. I guarantee it will make their day. Lifes too short, to hurt the ones who love you.

fad, is that you in there?!?!?! thats the most sincere thing i've ever seen you write. i'm impressed

[Phreak]

Tweetthis is a good post skarhead- you make some good points. it made me think what a dickhead i've been lately. this past month and a half i've had a pretty bad attitude; thoughts like these going through my head:

get out of my way you old *****, i need to eat

get out of my way you old *****, i need to train

get out of my way you ****, i need that rack

i know this feeling, because i have gone back "on" for the first time in five years. anything that gets in the way of my eating or training elicits an impatience and billigerence that i have not experienced in some time.

i need to chill the fuck out and start trying to give a little instead of take so much.

[kite]

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this is a good post skarhead- you make some good points. it made me think what a dickhead i've been lately. this past month and a half i've had a pretty bad attitude; thoughts like these going through my head:

get out of my way you old *****, i need to eat

get out of my way you old *****, i need to train

get out of my way you ****, i need that rack

i know this feeling, because i have gone back "on" for the first time in five years. anything that gets in the way of my eating or training elicits an impatience and billigerence that i have not experienced in some time.

i need to chill the fuck out and start trying to give a little instead of take so much.

Try baby steps at first nishnish, like ending or even beginning all of the above statements with "please" and when they comply, "thank you". And if you're feeling really generous, offer a nice kick in the ass.

[president_fad]

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fad, is that you in there?!?!?! thats the most sincere thing i've ever seen you write. i'm impressed

ima whole new person!! *****