When life sucks what do u do
Just to make it better im losing my best freind my soul mate my lover my hero my wife I have to leave her tomorrow long story short she is sick bad from copd had sugery 7-8'mths ago had to quite my job to run her business and I find out 5 mths ago she is a drunk no nice way to say it I am in a dark hole and don't know what way is up or down but it's killing me watching her drink from 5. Am till she goes to sleep I can't watch it I love her too much and does
It make me a crap to leave her she won't change even when i
Beg on my knees I have tried everything to get her to stop she will lose most of what she owns when I leave
I have talked to God and he says leave if she drys out come back but I don't caRe if u guys think I am a wuss my heart hurts I'm dying and I can't stop crying but I get up Ed go. Make $ to help her when I leave I'm gonna send her every dime I can she is my wife how
Can I smile
Agin no
Meds
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Brother, it does not make you a wuss to cry or are you crap for refusing to watch your everything kill herself. Only you can decide what to do and we as your friends will support and help in any way.
I fell into a dark hole man, and made decisions that only made it deeper and darker. Took awile to realize what the hell I was doing to myself and my kids. But we can change. Im on the way back up. I pray your wife finds the courage and strength through your love to seek help and stop the madness. Anything you need man, you know how to get ahold of me..much respect.
Oh, and I cry, and Im a gruff construction worker. That kind of pain warrents a good cry bro.
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ZOOT
Brother, it does not make you a wuss to cry or are you crap for refusing to watch your everything kill herself. Only you can decide what to do and we as your friends will support and help in any way.
I fell into a dark hole man, and made decisions that only made it deeper and darker. Took awile to realize what the hell I was doing to myself and my kids. But we can change. Im on the way back up. I pray your wife finds the courage and strength through your love to seek help and stop the madness. Anything you need man, you know how to get ahold of me..much respect.
Oh, and I cry, and Im a gruff construction worker. That kind of pain warrents a good cry bro.
Thank u for preying for her please keep
Doing that she is 51'selfemplohed with very few customers left because the fired her for drinking at work no income left no unemployment because she never claimed anything I'm so scared she will be homeless and won't call me to pick her up to live with my family because they won't let booze in house
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U know what I do !!!
I just shut up and Lift !!!
I mean , sometimes u just gotta push forward and push heavy ass weight !!!
It makes me feel better !!!
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Torres
U know what I do !!!
I just shut up and Lift !!!
I mean , sometimes u just gotta push forward and push heavy ass weight !!!
It makes me feel better !!!
That is new plan
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Do it brother !!! Nothing like having a sick workout to push away the madness we go thru day to day !!!
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Torres
U know what I do !!!
I just shut up and Lift !!!
I mean , sometimes u just gotta push forward and push heavy ass weight !!!
It makes me feel better !!!
No shit, best therapy on earth. You can use the gym to endure and get thru damn near aNything. If theres no gym, find a jungle gym at the park and do pullups and dips on it and some pushups and run in the park for cardio. The key is pushing yourself hard
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But nothing beats pushing hardened steel around for feeling better. Get pumped for therapy
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MM, do what makes you feel good. If hitting the gym does it, than do it. It is a good temporary distraction. You will still need to go to a place you like, and feel that pain, and work through it. You can do this...you have to do this
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So sorry to hear bro. I think everyone is so different. Me personally I go and shoot basketball. It's my first love and I retired from playing. But then again there's nothing wrong with pinning some tne eating a drol and hitting the gym. My thoughts and prayers are with you bro
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sorry brother. sometimes we have to embrace the "suck" knowing that it will end eventually. for me exhausting myself at the camp banging a bag until my arms can barely move gives me a moment of clarity. it does not last, the hole in your guy creeps back.
no easy way but you are tough and you will make it. You are a great person, a strong person and will rebound, i promise
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i am going to be the only one here that is going to give you tough love it looks like. i mean this with all due respect but for starters right out of the gate no cash money period. if you want to give her food and things she needs then you freaking buy it and take it to her. absolutely positively do not give her cash gift cards or anything that she can sell because you know damn well where it is going to go and that just makes you an enabler. number 2, i would identify any and everyone that is helping her get access to booze and have either adult protective orders or restraining orders placed against them. finally go to any place in the area that sells booze, show them her picture and tell them not to sell to her. that is one more to start nipping her problem for her and not enabling her to do that to herself. at the end of the day, after you have done all that you can do the bad part is you cant help someone that doesnt want to be helped but by god you can make it a pain in the ass for them to get whatever it is that they want. NO FREAKING MONEY NO MATTER HOW BAD YOU FEEL. occupy your time and dont dwell on the situation. go help buddies out with projects or whatever you can find to do to pass the time. it sucks ass but be the bigger person by helping her out man and dont make it worse. if you show weakness someone that is sick that way is only going to take advantage of you to their benefit and exploit your weakness. usually when they see that you arent caving in anymore then they will step up and change
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Good advice guns, I agree the money itself is not going to help. Takes a whole lot to do this...I would walk away to save myself and what happens happens. The last thing I would do is waste my time begging her to stop, wont work. Guns is right, sometimes when you walk out is exactly the time one may turn around. You must remember though, it may not....
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Brother time heals all. And you are going to do what you want to do the same as she is going to what she wants. I've got your back. Whatever happens. If you need anything, I'm here but I'm sure you know trhat. Stay busy. Best answer I've got. Gym, fishing do something you enjoy.
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