what lies behind it? Sadness, Maybe hard to grasp that but its true. next time you feel angry, did deep and think why? Fear may be a close second to an angry feeling
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what lies behind it? Sadness, Maybe hard to grasp that but its true. next time you feel angry, did deep and think why? Fear may be a close second to an angry feeling
This emotion f'n sux
i think stupid people rude people that have no respect and entitled people make me the most angry. i try to control my temper and i shouldnt let those types get under my skin but man it is really really hard.
I do know that Anger is a toxic chemical and can cause disease. Anger kills. Calmness is power. Ive gotten better at catching it when I feel it coming on, but its a never ending thing. It raises your blood pressure big time, as well as muscle eating cortisol-through the roof. Anger is catabolic. Kills brain cells. Its total toxicity. The more we can control anger, the more life improves. At least thats been my experience.
There are very few situations that are ever made better with anger. And anymore, it can get a person shot.
Yes, fear makes people get angry and I think peoples minds get programmed through repetition to respond with anger and negativity to everything. plus, Our culture fosters anger. Just turn on the tv and you can be pissed off in 30 seconds.
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Originally Posted by Dzone
exactly and the root cause comes from sadness and/or fear. Ponder that, it makes sense.
I recently ended an eight year relationship because of that. I never been with anybody who would just blow a gasket over just about anything, I felt like I was allways on eggshells and stressed all to hell to where I was getting really screwed up emotionally. I told her my dad was the same way you never know who was walking in the door, he used to beat my mom and hit me and kinda mind f#uck us. What was weird was he and my ex where really nice people but like split personality ? Karma got the both of them, my dad was murdered in a robbery when I was sixteen and my ex ? Ha, she gave up a successful salon (and me), blew a $70k inheritance in six months and had to move in with her daughter. I miss them both and it hurts me (like really bad) to have lost them, but I have to realize that was abuse. God Bless us all !
Yes, what is happening in the country is making people afraid. Afraid for the future of the country, afraid for their safety. Theres a general spirit of fear across the country and people are pissed off and frustrated and feel helplessQuote:
Originally Posted by BABY1
great point man. i have brought my temper down at least 80% over the years. some things still get me going good though. traffic and people txt while driving are huge bp spikers for me stillQuote:
Originally Posted by Dzone
when i am scared I am angry for being weak. it creates a circle of anxiety. fighting has helped me a lot. sometimes you have to say "*uck it!"
being scared, or sad, is not a sign of weakness. Anger is a protector, a feeling of false strength, but whatever worksQuote:
Originally Posted by jipped genes
i do not know if it is false strength. it can help release 100% in some situations. anger is a tool and must be controlled. i still get pissed when I allow emotions to get the best of me regardless of which onesQuote:
Originally Posted by BABY1
I've had a lot more control over my anger as I've gotten older. I still get pissed at people from time to time (like Guns said, stupid people, rude and inconsiderate people) but I've learned to have more control over it. Over the years I've seen what letting your anger go can do and it rarely ever ends good. Even if it's just angry words. Once they're spoken, you can't take them back. I always say, you're a slave to the words you speak and a master of the words you retain. Same with actions. Once you release them to anger, you can't take them back.
We usually do throw it all on the table when we're temple-flaring mad. I believe there's a whole lot more bare truth spoken in anger than bs.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yohimbe
If you stop and really look deep, when anger strikes, there will be something else there. Most do not do this. I can tell you that you can learn a whole lot about yourself