god isn't all that...

[unbroken]

Tweetif god really gave a rip, why doesn't he stop things from happening to believers who truely love and serve him? doesn't make any sense to me. i'm not trying to start a debate or cut on anyone's beliefs but i'm holding a mass grudge against god for what he allowed to happen in my former marriage and the two and a half years that followed.

i was preparing to go into the ministry and then all hell broke loose. he could've stopped it, made things change, or whatever. doesn't matter anymore.

my brother is a contemporary christian artist. he loves god and tries to talk to me about him but is careful about it because i'm not one to listen much to it. i see how god works in his life and it amazes me. when i see his family go through hard times and he's hurting, i have to laugh cause i know (from seeing this time and time again in his life) that he will come out on top and in a better place than before. it's funny but also pisses me off cause i used to have that kind of life but everything was ripped from me almost overnight. hell, i got to where i expected everything to go to hell.

i'm done now, had to get that out since i have no one to talk to about these things. maybe someone can offer some insight on this. hell, maybe not. good day.

[RollPlayer]

TweetGod allows the devil to do his thing and that lil' bastard will attack anything he can to get you to fall from grace. That's just the way it works. It's important to know that prior to the chaos, so you can bind together as a family and ask for Gods help, specifically. The husband is the spiritual leader of his house. I know if things are not right with me it has a negative chain reaction throughout my home & family.

Somebody once told me " Every day goes exactly the way God planned it, It just doesn't always go the way you planned." I try to keep that in mind always, 5 years later, to keep things in perspective and it has worked for me. God has a purpose even though his purpose may not be known to me. It's important that my entire family share in this perspective.

I've now been with my wife for 8 years. Though before I was saved I had destroyed our relationship through drugs and partying all night. She and my kids left me. God retored our broken relationship. I have also been clean & sober nearly 5 years. My wife has never brought up the past. God has truly repaired and made new our relationship. From that moment on he has blessed our lives in many ways. Wonderful jobs, beautiful children, 6 bedroom home, etc. We have received more than we would have even thought of asking for. Thank you Jesus.

[unbroken]

Tweetif god's plans were for a painful divorce and financial ruin, then that just sucks.

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Originally posted by RollPlayer
Somebody once told me " Every day goes exactly the way God planned it, It just doesn't always go the way you planned."

I don't believe that completely. Think of King David or Solomon. He didn't plan for their failures. They reeped(sp) what they sowed. But that is not to say that God does not allow bad things to happen. Think of Job.

Life is a test. Test have tough questions. God provides the strength to survive.

This life is short. The next one is eternal. Choose wisely.

[ladybug]

TweetHey Unbroken,
I am so sorry this has happened to you.... I feel your broken heart and I know that you are bitter now about it ...but you must understand, if you truly trust in the Lord ... You know that His will is to see you become stronger and fulfill his plans for your life.. I don't know all the facts but I do know that satan would love to see you bitter and angry and all that.... Take charge and let God control that in you..... He has never made a mistake yet.....
I myself have been through some really serious tragedies... the last one was my brother being shot and killed at a TCY ice cream store by gunmen.... He was only 42 and it was just aweful....but through it all, I tried really hard to draw close to the Lord as I knew He had reasons for this....
God says in His word that from the moment you were conceived in your mothers womb, your days were numbered.. He has plans for your life and plans to succeed..... Please try to look back on your life and see if you have put God where He wants you to... He loves you very much and you need his strength to get through this.... He alone... can give you the peace inside that you need right now.... The devil is around you like a" lion " ready to devour all that is from God. That is what is happening to you... You are allowing him to keep you bitter and.... in truth and fact... as a Christian, you have the authority Over him.....(satan).
I know I sound like I am preaching but I had to tell you how I felt... It has been 4 years since my precious brother died and I miss him terribly... but God had a reason he took him home.. He may have had something worse in store for him here... I don't know but I do know that I will know one day....
Try to realize that God is wanting you to draw closer to Him, allow Him to guide and direct your paths and you WILL be blown away... I promise...... you will not regret it.....
I will be praying for you....
Glad you are on FG... It is a great site..
ladybug

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Originally posted by unbroken
if god's plans were for a painful divorce and financial ruin, then that just sucks.

God allows both you and your wife to make your own decisions. When I said "every day goes exactly as He plans, just not as we plan" I meant that as we sit and create OUR master plan for our lives things don't always go as planned... hence we become angry, resentful, frustrated, etc. We create more issues by taking it out on the people around us. We sometimes fail to recognize that things may be going just as HE planned, or we should be trying to realign ourselves with His plan for our lives. This could go on for quite awhile and before we know it things are so far out of wack we are blaming everyone else, and looking to escape. This is the battle of pursuing Self-will or pursuing God's-will. If I take time to listen to God's-will I never seem to have major problems. When I do things my way eventually I have major issues and roadblocks.
God has been wonderful to me & my family. I still fail Him miserably everyday, while He remains faithful.

[kite]

Tweetwhen thinking of how hard we have it in life, we should look at a Crucifix. I don't know of anyone who suffered quite so badly, and that is the Son of God. Remember, no cross, no resurection.

[PL456]

Tweetit is hard to see the forest for the trees..hate breeds discontentment and more hate. hate will eventually kill your soul. when you have tough times, give it to God. God, like a true Father, allows us to go through tough times to purify our faith. when it has been tested and we have stuck with God, it is purified. Metals must go through fire before all the impurities are removed, so must we and our faith. When tough times come, that is the time to get closer to God. You know God has no ill will towards you. God is Love. He is your Heavenly Father..he knows the number of hairs on your head..you are the most important thing to Him. He will never leave you...we are the ones that do the leaving. You know this is true. Faith is belief in what is not seen. It is by faith we come to know Jesus. Satan loves it when you become bitter and blame God...when you leave the church..this is what satan wants..dont fall victim to satan's tricks that are so tempting to our human and earthly-tilted minds. Pray, man, pray.
Get closer to God. Read your Bible. Have quiet times and ask God for insight and for the Holy Spirit to soften your heart.

[RollPlayer]

TweetGood post PL456!

[mick-G]

TweetBottom line, like my mother used to say: God doesn't give you anything you can't handle, and there is a reason behind everything in life. You may not see it now, but you will see his course later in life. These experiences and trials in your life will change and give you insight that you may not have had without the experience of it. I have gone through alot in my life, and I remember when i was younger. I felt at times the same as you do, but with maturity that only time brings; with lifes experiences will you become the person that God intends. There are many that have much worse circumstances. Children that are starving, and with sicknesses that they have to live with day in and day out. Ppl without even the things we take for granted. You must look above yourself and see the need in others. You must give yourself to God and know that you do not have the strenght to take on all burdens. Let him take some of this burden from you. Just start reading the King James version of the Bible and talk to God at least once a day. Pray or talk to him and trust in him. Maybe this will show you the light.

[JohnnyB]

TweetWhen did God promise you that you wonldn't get a divores?

I've been through 1 so I know what you saying. Look back and see if you had any part in the result of your marriage. I know that I had a big part in that, God is not my fix it guy.

I'd like to know how has being bitter at God has helped or improved our life?

JohnnyB

[PL456]

Tweetgood point, johnny B.

[RollPlayer]

TweetEven the most commited Christians can sometimes suffer the agony of divorce. Think about this for a minute. Were you & your partner 'saved' prior to being married? Therefore, knowing you were in the center of His will. Often, when people come to Christ they wish to bring all they have with them. Including the partner they may have married outside of God's will. God may have a better partner in mind, and may never have intended for you to marry the one YOU had in mind. God commands we drop what we have, leave all, & follow him. That means leave self-will at the door and try to center yourself in his will. It's hard to do that when you're carrying your past along with you.

[JohnnyB]

TweetGod doesn't intend for anyone to get a divorce. My mom and dad married when they didn't know the Lord or care to know Him. When they recieved Him as Savior they didn't divorce, was it Gods will for them to marry? Only he knows for sure, do I think God plans out who you should marry, No I don't.

He did give us desires that will be used to attract us to a mate, from there we need to make the decision wheather to marry or not. How we base our decision can effect how our marrage will work, if it's based on pure sexual desires those will pass then you'll be not desiring them any more. Marriage is a commitment to love someone no matter what, to honor them and treat them with respect.

JohnnyB

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Originally posted by unbroken
if god really gave a rip, why doesn't he stop things from happening to believers who truely love and serve him?

This is how much God cares, He gave 10 Commandments for us to live by. We can't keep 1 of them all the time, if you brake 1 you've broke them all. Then H esent His own Son in the forum of a man to keep all those commands, then suffer the punishment for not keeping the commandments, so that we wouldn't have to suffer that judgement. Which is eternal punishment in outer darkness, He tasted death so that we wouldn't have to. So if you're mad at God for a marriage that fell apart you don't understand salvation. He never promised a pain free life with no problems to bare, He did promise "that whoever believes in Him will wouldn't perish but have eternal life" As a matter of fact it does say that there will be trials and tribulations, yours could be this divorce.

"We also rejoice in out suffering, because we know that suffering produces perserverance; perserverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts by the Holt Spirit, whom He has given us." Romans 5:3-5 this is to those that love and serve Him, because we don't place our hope in what we have or what we can get, but in Him who gives all thing freely. If someone brings a charge against God it's because they don't know Him.

When I was divorced I had no idea why I was going through it, except that I had a big hand in destroying it. But I had prayed and asked God to help the marriage, but my ex had hardened her heart to the Lord, mostly because of me. Now I'm blessed with a wonderful wife, that loves me and puts up with my crap. I love her, but like all men fail to show it at times. She gets moody like all women, but we bare one another because we love each other.

This can be heart braking but instead of blaming God look to yourself to see where you failed the marriage because God didn't fail it. This is the beganing of healing when we ask God to help us change and forgive us of any wrong doing in that marriage.earn from these mistakes and move on.

JohnnyB