I know this should go into the dating forum but my buddy needs some advice before 9:00 tonight (2-24-04) and I think it will get more views in this forum. I have a friend who has asked me for some advice and I told him I will get all of your opinions and pass them along to him. Here is his situation:

He has been dating a girl for over three years. He was really in love with her the first two years and did absolutely everything for her to show that he really cared for her. Then his feelings for her started to go away. He says the feelings that were lost were mutual and he could feel that both parties didn't feel the same about each other anymore. Nothing was ever said to each other, they just slowly drifted apart because of their same daily routine and things they did together. She just wrote him an email this morning saying that she wants to talk about something, and it is kind of bad and he feels in his heart that she is going to call off the relationship. He told me that he is fine with that. But here is his question to me: He really wants to know what last impression he should leave of himself on her mind. If he says only nice things she will always remember him as being a very nice and caring guy. If he say that he always loved her and treated her very well and will be devasted by the break-up, he would show he still cares for her as a friend. If he says the truth (that he really hasn't loved her for a while) then he might come across as a jerk whenever she thinks of him in the future. Should he say that he lost feelings for her more than a year ago, even if that sounds kind of mean.

I know from my personal experience that I had an ex girlfriend who took care of my ass for 5 years straight, and she was very kind and generous. Then she cheated on me and married the guy and now whenever I think of her the one bad moment she did always outshines the 5 years of care.