As hard as it is, I do not always answer a text or call from my daughter. Especially while in school... I am her safe place, I know, but I also know that she has to learn to self regulate and cope with things that happen. I guess I watch from a distance, but step in when needed. After all, these teens are NOT developmentally mature enough to expect them to act like adults. There are other areas I work on, to let go of helping her with. Some would say I still do to much, but I am working on it. I love fiercely and my goal is to love without trying to control The worst thing I see happening is us older generations throwing labels down on kids and expecting them to do all things as we did. the world is not the same as it was back then and that IS a reality. To be honest, I dont agree that everything we lived in our younger days was all the best either. We also have to adapt, and instill, what we value as well as allow them to have a voice. I dont push religion on her, I want her to follow her own path. While faith got me through most of my life, for me, it did not help me believe in "me". My goal with her is to teach her to use her voice, to believe and love herself, and to know she is love loved. The rest will come as we grow along. Kids need to feel safe and if we dont make them feel safe at home, they will do, and go where they feel safe. All this in a nutshell, with society and technology...equals anxiety a result of fear and/or sadness. This is just my own personal perspective. No right or wrong