My wife got it for me for our anniversary in November as I am adopted and have no idea about my biological fam. (My family is my family without a doubt of what I find biologically on this site.)

I did it. I was so exited to get answers, medical history, meet kin, see where I came from (heritage), brothers/sisters, ect. As an adoptee I have always had had this little hole of doubt in me from it. It is like a little cut in a bad place that never heals.

I say that to say this. I found my biological mom and a half sister that were matches. People, I felt such joy in my heart that I cannot put it into words. I reached out via direct message on the site and got a reply from first my bio sis and then bio mom.

They want nothing to do with me, They chastised me for linking my profile with theirs without their permission. They told me I was causing problems for them and ruining her mom's, reputation and was causing them great grief and they went to great lengths to create their family tree and do not want me ruining it. The sis said i was upsetting her mom so much that I should get off ancestry all together.

I closed my acct as it hit me like a ton of bricks. I guess I got my hopes up too much.

I want to message them and tell them whether they like it or not I am part of that family tree no matter how inconvenient. But forcing myself into a situation where I am unwanted does nothing for any of any of us.

What to do? The whole reason I did it (Even though I hate the fact my DNA is now on file, insert conspiracy theory here) is to get answers. I guess I will get no answers, closure, pictures, stories, history..................

I am super bummed out.

What do y'all think?