TweetI gave his wife my cell number and told her he gets out of hand and hits you call me.. I said that in front of him.. told him you want someone to beat on i'll come over and you can beat on me..

I told him that this morning dad you didn't raise that way why would you do that to your wife? he said it was an accident.. I said 3 times?

Tweethe had 5 brothers and one sister and there all dead from drinking...

TweetWhat a tragedy. He is lucky at that age that his body hasnt just quit from the constant drinking. You did the right thing. If she thinks she can still drink and he cant then she is asking for trouble. Those two need to get the hell away from alcohol or they will be dead from it. Good luck and hope it works out for the best

TweetTough and sad situation. I sincerely hope this can get turned around, but it will be hard. Do an intervention. At 68 death is prob on doorstep from all these years of abuse. I wish you luck my brother.

Tweetyou did the right thing man. it is hard to deal with people when they get to that point and even more hard when it's a parent. i would suggest an inpatient stay if at all possible. that way they may be able to get him detoxed and taken care of. that may also look good with the pending dui charge as well

TweetHow hard to have grown up and see years of that. I am thinking that as a grown adult you have some knowledge about the disease of alcoholism. I don't think anyone here could say you are wrong for what you did. I also thinking that people who have any sort of addiction Want to stop, don't want to abuse, etc. it's all up to them thought and it's never to late. I hope this doesn't continue for you. Everyone has a choice..,stop or not, leave or stay. Those choices aren't easy but it is entirely up too that person. Have no regrets and do what you feel is right

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Originally Posted by guns01

you did the right thing man. it is hard to deal with people when they get to that point and even more hard when it's a parent. i would suggest an inpatient stay if at all possible. that way they may be able to get him detoxed and taken care of. that may also look good with the pending dui charge as well

I put up bail for him and I plan on going to court with him and I really don't want him to have a driver license. I told his wife to stop buying beer she said he would drive to the store and get it when she was at work. I told her I will come over and remove the starter from his truck..

I might look into that.. he has penision from working for the government for 20yrs then he was in the 101st airborne. he got in the army in 66 and got out in 72.

guns your a army guy how do I find out where he was and where he was at while in Vietnam?

I got his fort polk La year book and also a 101st 1968 year book also

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Originally Posted by BABY1

How hard to have grown up and see years of that. I am thinking that as a grown adult you have some knowledge about the disease of alcoholism. I don't think anyone here could say you are wrong for what you did. I also thinking that people who have any sort of addiction Want to stop, don't want to abuse, etc. it's all up to them thought and it's never to late. I hope this doesn't continue for you. Everyone has a choice..,stop or not, leave or stay. Those choices aren't easy but it is entirely up too that person. Have no regrets and do what you feel is right

thanks baby.. I look at it this way.. you put your family on a table and you put beer on a table and you can only have one and he has always choose beer.. that was why I haven't talked to him those 10years..

when he wasn't drinking man he was the best father a boy could ask for. he would work all day on the oil rig in south fla and come home and take me and my brother to pop warner football hell he did that for 4 years or better. but if my mom didn't stay on him it was on..

I don't and wont deal with bs like this in my life..

thanks for the support guys..

TweetThere are so many horrible things about alcohol that I hate that I could go on and on for hours. It is hands down one of the worst elements of our society and our culture. Imagine how much pain, misery and suffering could be avoided if it werent for this deadly poison.

TweetSorry to hear this brother, I totally understand where you are coming from. I also love a cold one at hooters with some wings!

I could tell my story but this is your thread, I hope all get's better for your dad bro .... Best thing to do is try to get him some help but some things never change.

Change is very hard for a lot of people and very hard for people to stick to and not go back and repeat their normal lifestyle.

I wish the best for you and your family.

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Originally Posted by apbt549

I put up bail for him and I plan on going to court with him and I really don't want him to have a driver license. I told his wife to stop buying beer she said he would drive to the store and get it when she was at work. I told her I will come over and remove the starter from his truck..

I might look into that.. he has penision from working for the government for 20yrs then he was in the 101st airborne. he got in the army in 66 and got out in 72.

guns your a army guy how do I find out where he was and where he was at while in Vietnam?

I got his fort polk La year book and also a 101st 1968 year book also

shit man, get him to the freaking va and have them treat him. dont let them give you any shit either and if you get the run around, call you senator or state reps office immediately. as for finding out about where he was, you can try the hq department of the army and the records branch there. i unfortunately retired from the marine corps so i dont have any first hand experience dealing with army admin stuff. the rest of my family on the other hand was army and one navy. my grand father actually retired from the army and served in korea and a couple tours in vietnam. from his experience while i was growing up he had a hell of a time getting his records straight from vietnam and all the battles that he actuallly participated in. he was lucky that he kept most of his paper work but some he didnt have took years to prove he was there. same went with injuries he sustained in combat and on active service. they lost some of those records and tried to screw him.

get ahold of your local va, they will help you with him and it shouldnt cost a dime. old man, went though some issues with ptsd and would check himself into the clinic from time to time. they helped him out a lot in the area where i grew up

another thing about getting him into the va which helped my grand father out was it seemed like him being around all those other old guys was good. he didnt actually know or serve with any of them but the bond was always there and he always came back much better

TweetI probably hate alcohol more than anyone I know. Maybe I should say its drunkenness I hate, since I dont mind other people drinking ...but I wont buy it for you and if you come to a party at my house, youre only getting water lol

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Originally Posted by guns01

shit man, get him to the freaking va and have them treat him. dont let them give you any shit either and if you get the run around, call you senator or state reps office immediately. as for finding out about where he was, you can try the hq department of the army and the records branch there. i unfortunately retired from the marine corps so i dont have any first hand experience dealing with army admin stuff. the rest of my family on the other hand was army and one navy. my grand father actually retired from the army and served in korea and a couple tours in vietnam. from his experience while i was growing up he had a hell of a time getting his records straight from vietnam and all the battles that he actuallly participated in. he was lucky that he kept most of his paper work but some he didnt have took years to prove he was there. same went with injuries he sustained in combat and on active service. they lost some of those records and tried to screw him.

get ahold of your local va, they will help you with him and it shouldnt cost a dime. old man, went though some issues with ptsd and would check himself into the clinic from time to time. they helped him out a lot in the area where i grew up

another thing about getting him into the va which helped my grand father out was it seemed like him being around all those other old guys was good. he didnt actually know or serve with any of them but the bond was always there and he always came back much better

thanks guns I will try to call them over the next day or so and try to get him some help..

when I talked with him today about it I was looking thru his 101st year book and he pointed out a section in there about LRRP said that's what he did. he never really has talked much about it and my mom said when he came home she would wake up in the middle of the night and find him balled up sleeping in the closet. I don't feel his time over there is what makes him drink its a family thing...

I would like to get more info out of him to let him now I am proud of him for what he did for a war this country doesn't seem very proud of.. he's never talked about his time over there or what battles he was in.. I bet in my 42 years he hasn't said more then 10 things about his army career..

I am going to try and find him things to do beside sit at home and drink.. might go get him sat morning and go to breakfast at 7 am or so and stop by the house I am building to get him out and doing things..

thank you all for the support...