TweetBro, sounds like your a catch! It seems you do a lot more then 50% in and around the house. You have a good head on your shoulders, and your heart seems to be in the right place. Women are very tricky, and I use to walk on egg shells around my wife trying not to upset her when I can tell something is bothering her. But now that we've been together for 10 years, I just come out and tell her how I feel. For example, if I notice her stopping around the house, I'll stop her and say, "what the **** is your problem?" Sometimes it's me, most of the times it's co-workers, but I let her know that regardless of what it is, she ain't doing that in this house. We have kids ages 5, 3, and 2 months, the older ones are just at the stage of "copying" everything, I mean everything. A lot of the times it really helps her to just let it out, even if it's directed at me, I don't care. As long as her frustrations at the world doesn't trickle down to my kids.

Have you guys ever just sat down and hashed everything out, I mean everything.

TweetI've tried to do that, I ask her all the time why she is so angry and she just tells me that I annoy her, when most of the time I'm not even doing anything. It really is frustrating becasue this is every ****ing day. Right now I'm on tren and I don't even get pissed. I just get frustrated how she acts and I keep asking myself wtf is going on. And I can't answer it. I too walk on egg shells, because I don't know the next time that switch is going to flip and here we go again. I haven't been happy with her for a long ass time. But what can I do? I can't just up and leave i have no where else to go. I can't afford to pay rent on 2 places. She won't move back in with her mom and I want our daughter to be around a loving family.

TweetHave you guys ever just sat down and hashed everything out, I mean everything.[/QUOTE]

I like ez's advice. Talk to her communication is key and it sounds like u give her a lot which is fine as long as your ok with it. I myself share costs with my girlfriend and we both do tons but I'm cheap.
I have a buddy who's wife does not work and their kids are getting older and it is tough Bc she just takes him for granted all I'm trying to say is maybe she needs to step back and see what she has and how good she has it!
Good
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Originally Posted by rnixon

Have you guys ever just sat down and hashed everything out, I mean everything.

I like ez's advice. Talk to her communication is key and it sounds like u give her a lot which is fine as long as your ok with it. I myself share costs with my girlfriend and we both do tons but I'm cheap.
I have a buddy who's wife does not work and their kids are getting older and it is tough Bc she just takes him for granted all I'm trying to say is maybe she needs to step back and see what she has and how good she has it!
Good
Luck[/QUOTE]

I like what you're sayin bro and I think she does need to see what she has but living together isn't easy for that to happen. Thanks for the advice bros, I know some of you prob had some experience in this.

TweetAnother thought that may help is if you wrote how you feel so it has a chance to sink in and maybe be taken more seriously.

TweetWow thanks i didnt even think of that. I might just do that.

TweetBro if you ever need someone to talk to don't hesitate to call. I'll send you my number.
I can relate to this in so many ways.

I'm 30 and my wife is 28. We have been married 7 years and have a 12 yr old. Yes, do the math.
Its been good, bad, ugly but one thing I can say is, I'm glad we didn't give up. We are now happier than we've ever been. We were told we wouldn't finish High school let alone college.
My advice is to try again to find a solution. Giving up is the easy way out. You sound like you have your head on straight and you pull more than your fair share.

One thing I started doing was writing down what I was mad about. Then id read it later and analyze. One day I gave my wife a stack of papers and asked her to read them. It helped her understand my needs, and at the same time it helped her know that I was listening.

Sorry for being all over the place. Its a very touchy subject with me that I had to fight tooth and nail to overcome. One thing I realized is I am no way innocent in the mess.

Hit me up bro. You've been nothing but good in my book. If there's anything I could do.

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Originally Posted by suprfast

Bro if you ever need someone to talk to don't hesitate to call. I'll send you my number.
I can relate to this in so many ways.

I'm 30 and my wife is 28. We have been married 7 years and have a 12 yr old. Yes, do the math.
Its been good, bad, ugly but one thing I can say is, I'm glad we didn't give up. We are now happier than we've ever been. We were told we wouldn't finish High school let alone college.
My advice is to try again to find a solution. Giving up is the easy way out. You sound like you have your head on straight and you pull more than your fair share.

One thing I started doing was writing down what I was mad about. Then id read it later and analyze. One day I gave my wife a stack of papers and asked her to read them. It helped her understand my needs, and at the same time it helped her know that I was listening.

Sorry for being all over the place. Its a very touchy subject with me that I had to fight tooth and nail to overcome. One thing I realized is I am no way innocent in the mess.

Hit me up bro. You've been nothing but good in my book. If there's anything I could do.

You had me at "bro"...ha ha! See this is the type of stuff that makes this board really unique. I know we can all imagine what would happen if this was asked somewhere else. FitnessGeared fo' life!

TweetKOS would talk about how hot his wife is(shudders), the capn would call me a jew(I'll rep him), and their would be a guy on guy .gif posted by a random member.

TweetHey bro, good that you can come on here and talk about it. This will help you. Theres good people here who you can trust.
I agree with whats been posted on this thread. You sound like a real good dude and its a shame she doesn't appreciate it.
My first thought when I was reading your post was "Holy shit, this chick needs to be cut off immediately! Get rid of her and stop paying for all her shit." But then you said you have a daughter together and that def changes the entire dynamic. So I suppose you still need to try to find a way to make it work.
What you said about her being sneaky and then blowing a gasket when you talk to her is a humongous red flag. Her lack of appreciation is also another major flag.
I dont know how you do it, bro. I hope you two can fix things, esp since there is a child involved.
But also, if your daughter is seeing this kind of meanness and rage, thats not good for her in the long run. Man, this is a tough one brutha. Relationships can be complicated, they can be wonderful and they can also be hell on earth if youre with the wrong person. I wish you all the best ,man. Feel free to come on here and vent as much as you need to.

TweetLMAO u guys are cheering me up

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Originally Posted by Dzone

Hey bro, good that you can come on here and talk about it. This will help you. Theres good people here who you can trust.
I agree with whats been posted on this thread. You sound like a real good dude and its a shame she doesn't appreciate it.
My first thought when I was reading your post was "Holy shit, this chick needs to be cut off immediately! Get rid of her and stop paying for all her shit." But then you said you have a daughter together and that def changes the entire dynamic. So I suppose you still need to try to find a way to make it work.
What you said about her being sneaky and then blowing a gasket when you talk to her is a humongous red flag. Her lack of appreciation is also another major flag.
I dont know how you do it, bro. I hope you two can fix things, esp since there is a child involved.
But also, if your daughter is seeing this kind of meanness and rage, thats not good for her in the long run. Man, this is a tough one brutha. Relationships can be complicated, they can be wonderful and they can also be hell on earth if youre with the wrong person. I wish you all the best ,man. Feel free to come on here and vent as much as you need to.

Yea the whole fact that we have a daughter makes it 100 times harder. If it wasn't the case she would have been gone by now.

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Originally Posted by adwal99

LMAO u guys are cheering me up

I can always send you nudes...of me. That should cheer just about anyone up.