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Are you afraid to cry?
TweetAlot of people weather they are male or female are afraid to cry. But why? Are you afraid to cry?
Crying is a natural way of releasing emotions from our bodies.
Those, for whom crying comes easily, often remark about how much better they feel after a good cry.
But for many, there is much fear associated with appearing vulnerable and letting go.
Shame about being seen to cry.
Or maybe a life time of suppressed tears that just will not come.
Let's face it - babies cry.
Our toddlers howl, storm, rage and tantrum.
Our children weep, sob or wail.
But are we, as parents, as adults, able to avail ourselves of this amazing, natural, available system of stress relief or has it been conditioned out of us?
Can you, and do you cry?
Releasing Emotions - Big Boys Just Don't Cry
We all know about 'big boys don't cry', or, 'come on, you're too big to cry!'
We've all caught ourselves saying, 'stop crying', or 'don't cry', or 'that's enough now!'
So many of our males have been indoctrinated with this catch cry, sadly, from when they were just little fellows too.
Many females have also received this same childhood conditioning too. If expressing feelings was contrary to your family's way, male or female, you will have learned to store up your tears.
Crying is not a weakness; it's a natural, inbuilt, human response to sorrow, pain, fear, anger, shame, grief, despair, depression and sadness.
It's also a built in response to joy, feeling deeply touched or moved, feeling loved, being awed, feeling overwhelmed, and experiencing tenderness.
The strongest males I know are definitely the ones who are able to cry when they need to.
Many people have told me that they find it far easier to respond to gentleness with tears, than they do to stressful events in their lives.
Releasing Emotions - Too Scared to Cry!
Both males and females often tell me that they are too scared to cry. When I ask why, most immediately reply, because I'm afraid I'll never stop!
My response is to encourage the person to let go and cry because usually nature takes care of that.
At some stage during the tears, we all need to get a drink, find a tissue, go to the bathroom, or just stop through sheer emotional exhaustion.
If we just trust in the process of crying for release, and really allow ourselves to express our pain, fear, discomfort, hurt, rejection or whatever is behind our tears, we find that our bodies just seem to know when enough tears have been shed.
Releasing Emotions - Afraid to Feel.
I suggest it is not crying itself that people are afraid of, it is getting in touch with the feelings themselves that we fear. And yet, time and time again, people have told me that the most amazing things happen when, during times of stress, they allow themselves to really feel their feelings.
Releasing Emotions - Chemical Release
Release, relief, and relaxation occur. The flood of tears is cleansing, freeing, opening and relieving. Tears contain different amounts of chemical protein and hormones and releasing these may keep depression at bay and serve the purpose of restoring the body's chemical balance after a stressful event has occurred.
I believe we need to make the most of releasing emotions through crying, when the timing is right for us.
When we understand just how well this amazing function releases tension from within us, perhaps, as parents, we will be more able to allow our children's natural tears, and be less inclined to smother them, brush them away, shorten their flow, shut them up, or make them feel ashamed.
Crying During Counselling
During a very difficult counselling session, I put my arms around a woman and pulled her head down to my shoulder, murmuring soothing words to her. She began to cry, and then continued to sob without ceasing for almost an hour while I held her.
Several days later, she rang to tell me that for the first time in years, she was now sleeping steadily though the night, felt more capable and aware, less exhausted and lighter within herself. For her, a miracle had occurred, and all she had needed was the permission, the time, the attention and the place. She often says that a really good cry now helps her to know her own truth.
Releasing Emotions Safely
If you know that this is what you need, find a safe place and give yourself permission to go for it. Wrap yourself up in a blanket, or cuddle a hot water bottle - climb into your bed or fill a hot bath, ask for a loved one to hold you, or be where you feel the most held, and then release your tears instead of bottling them up.
You won't break down, crack up, or fall to pieces, but you may be broken open and rise renewed.
Feeling your feelings is a brave and courageous act and one that replenishes you, and brings you home to yourself.
Allow Your Child's Tears
Allow your children's tears to flow freely, before you hush them. Tell them you understand why they feel upset and that crying is the best way to heal that.
To Demonstrate:
I once saw a child fall heavily onto the concrete, only to be hauled up quickly by the mother and told, "Stop it, you're alright, you're not hurt".
Several days later, in almost the same spot, I watched another child fall. His mother knelt down, put her arms around him and said, "Yes, you've hurt yourself. Have a cry and then we'll see if there's a mark on your leg to show Dad what has happened."
Releasing Emotions - Pay Attention
As you pay attention to releasing emotions, acknowledging your feelings, accepting yourself, and then truly being yourself fully, you grow up emotionally and begin to achieve your full potential.
The run on effect means that your children will be encouraged to feel their feelings, rather than suppress them, and will become happier and emotionally healthy.
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Re: Are you afraid to cry?
Tweeti was brought up as guys should never cry. I cant even remember the last time I actually did
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TweetNope, not afraid.
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TweetMy eyes tear up easy. I dont exactly cry like a baby, but I can shed a tear over lots of things. The other night at the hospital, a nurse told me she lost her husband 3 weeks ago when she got home from work she found him dead of cardiac arrest at age 41. Two little kids. Seeing her upbeat and positive attitude, tears started welling up in my eyes.It was moving.
When I drive by that place where that drunk driver killed those 3 girls, yes, my eyes well up with tears.
Theres a time and a place to cry. One place to NEVER cry is when a chick dumps you. That is one time when it doesnt help a man to cry, at least not in front of her LOL Good way to lose your dignity.
I think one time I was on clomid and I cried more then. Sheesh now I feel stupid LOL
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TweetOriginally Posted by Dzone
I cry whenever I watch movies...like a mofo. Cliffhanger makes me cry like a 3 year old. And just about any movie that has a soft part to it.
I also cried for months after my break up this past year.
But yeah bro, on clomid I am a ****iining mess myself. I can't control it, I get so emotional WTF
Of course normal people don't know I am on clomid so they wonder what is wrong with me
B2J
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Re: Are you afraid to cry?
TweetIts nice to see that some of you all don't feel that crying is being week.
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Tweetno iam very sensitive and i tear up like dzone . dzone are you a RN to?
all information is for entertainment purposes only and i dont condone the illegal use of steroids! iam just on here for fun and anything said is fictitious not real!!!!!!!!
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Tweeti apologize dzone i just looked your a fitness instructor or something ok cool job. we both been lifting 3 decades lol. great brother.
all information is for entertainment purposes only and i dont condone the illegal use of steroids! iam just on here for fun and anything said is fictitious not real!!!!!!!!
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TweetIts a good topic MrzDiva. I dont mind crying. I dont fight it. Im comfortable in my own man skin.
I love happy tears of JOY!!!!!!!!Those are the greatest tears of all!!!!!!!!!!!Like winning Comeback Player of The Year, oh how I cried then.
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TweetI wish I could cry easier...very hard for me. I get delayed emotion. It hits me hours or days after the event. Most of it comes from my protective nature as I try and take care of everyone else first before I can let my own emotion...
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Tweetnaaa. i'm not afraid...its a good release of emotions...good or bad...the birth of my daughter...she almost died just before birth...i felt helpless... even after she was born, she wouldnt take that first breath...they took her out of the room and was rushing her donw the hall..they were trying to explain to me what was going on and iall i caught was "not breathing, brain damage or death"...and i was scared to death!! as we went into this room all these baby's werte hooked to machines...3 or 4 of them...i couldnt stand it...the helplessness i felt...my little girl...took us 4yrs for my wife to get pregnant and now...this? well...as everything was going on,,,they were getting machines over to hook her up and a little baby respirator and all this fukin shyt and as the head nurse was explaining about her needing to take a deep breath and cry so her lung open and she breaths, they were trying everything they could "by law"... i heard the older nurse tell a younger one"....thats why we used to spank them at birth...but someone decided that was abuse, so now this.."...wtf?? really??! I'LL SAPNK HER ASS!!!! i lift up that little leg and smacked that tiny ass!!!
she took in this deep breath and let out the LOUDEST scream!!! and all the anxiety left the room...all the nurses smiled and my little girl was handed to me....i cried like a baby!!!
now....17yrs later...something will happen....her first prom.... or getting her driver license...it really can be just a little bullshyt nothing...but i remember that day...i think about how i could be missing this so easy...and i'll cry. i'll hug her and cry a little....
so...i dont think your a man if you dont cry...i have no doubts i'm all man.... i just can share my emotions with my little girl
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This just made me tear up...Very nice bro..started thinking about my boys and how they saved my life..I tend to tear up more than have a good cry, but I'm due and I'm not afraid of it
PAIN DON'T HURT
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Tweetdaved your story made me tear up as well. i dont know wat i would of done to hold it together in your shoes. great brother everything is ok. but wat bad things people have gone through on this board. thats why i got out of the paramedic business, last draw was a baby caught in fire that did it. i punched my wall when i got home for long time fractured 2 fingers. but i couldnt take it no more but then i go to er nursing just as bad. so now iam content. but daved your a great guy for handling it like a man. wat a sad story. i couldnt do pediatrics or obgyn. but good ending.
all information is for entertainment purposes only and i dont condone the illegal use of steroids! iam just on here for fun and anything said is fictitious not real!!!!!!!!
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TweetDave incredible story thanks for sharing! I have a very similar story as my twin boys were premis and spent there first hours days months in surgery after surgery...touch and go...I will never forget the pouring of emotion those first few hours though...
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TweetThat is some story Daved. Sorry you had to go through that, but glad to hear it worked out well.
I cry if something makes me sad, plain and simple. However, I wouldn't say it's very often that I cry over sadness, only when something truly sad occurs. I have cried when angry before, but I have to be very upset. Sad movies are my weakness though. I sit there and tell myself it's only a movies, and that the actors are merely acting, yet it still gets me.
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