Keeping a woman around once you have her

[crombie09]

TweetNeed some advice. Im good, actually excellent at hooking a girl into a relationship. Only thing I have trouble with is keeping the girl around once I have her. Either I get bored or I can tell she isnt so happy and crazy about me anymore and I leave her. I've only been left by one chick and she was a crazy stripper.

So my question is: Whats the best advice you can give to keep a girl around and keep her extremely happy?

[mick-G]

TweetBe real, and if try to find out what they are like b4 hand. Are they what your really want in a woman?? Looks are great and chemistry is necessary, but if they are superficial and its all about material, and partying, then in time it will wain and become boring to both of you. It all depends too on whether you are looking for casual dating or a commited relationship down the road.

[crombie09]

TweetWell Im asking because the girl Im dating now is a definte keeper and I want to keep her around.

[solidground]

Tweetdont "do" anything just be yourself, if its meant to be it will - just treat her right..prob not the advice your looking for.

[FUZO]

TweetCROMBIE IF YOU GET BORED EASY WITH NICE WOMEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD LOOK MORE INTO YOU AND FIND OUT WHATS WRONG.17YRS WITH MY WIFE AND YEAH I GOT BORED BUT I DIDNT LET HER GO MAN.YOU HAVE TO WORK AT RELATIONSHIPS.

[O2BESOHUGE]

TweetREP POINTS FOR FUZO!

[OldWiseGuy]

TweetDon't forget to have fun together and go out on a date even if you two have been together forever. Don't treat her too good just don't treat her like crap. And tell her how you feel about her every now and then. And always have crazy wild sex just like she likes it.

[kite]

TweetListen to her, ask about her day, ask about her dreams and aspirations and just be there.

[a-bomb83]

Tweetfuzo is right.

[McKenzie]

TweetI've always been able to maintain long relationships, a 5 yr and 10 yr one....however, it is always me that gets bored, aggravated or disenchanted with the relationship and wants out.

Kite and Fuzo made excellent points....if she isnt complaining Crombie, chances are she is happy with you

[daved150]

TweetJUST BE YOURSELF, WITHOUT THE WHORING AROUND. TREAT HER RIGHT. YOUR GONNA HAVE TIME'S THAT THINGS GET "BORING"...USUALLY THAT'S WHEN THINGS ARE GOING O.K. AND THERE'S NO DRAMA. I LIKE THE BORING TIMES, LOL. NO DRAINBRAMAGE. I GOT WITH MY WIFE JUST BEFORE I TURNED 21 AND KNEW SHE WAS THE ONE. WE HAD UP'S AND DOWN'S, BUT WE NEVER QUIT WORKING AT IT. IT A TEAM THING

[McKenzie]

TweetYou sure you dont have any "drainbramage" there dave?


I dont see how everyone can see/tell "she/he is the one"? Even after 10 yrs, I didnt even know if I liked or loved him or just got use to his ways/security, etc.

I'm like clueless on the subjective

[daved150]

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You sure you dont have any "drainbramage" there dave?


I dont see how everyone can see/tell "she/he is the one"? Even after 10 yrs, I didnt even know if I liked or loved him or just got use to his ways/security, etc.

I'm like clueless on the subjective

WELL, I CANT SPEAK FOR EVERYONE...BUT, I THINK YOU'LL REALLY KNOW IT. IT WAS AT FIRST SIGHT...I KNEW IT! AND, I CAN SAY, THERE WONT BE A POINT THAT WE'RE NOT TOGETHER... JUST THE FACT THAT YOU THAUGHT IT MAY BE JUST FOR SECURITY, IT WAS OVER LONG BEFORE 10YRS I BET. I ONLY HOPE THAT ONE DAY YOU GET THAT FEELING.

[diggi]

TweetWell I will talk from my experiences and the mistakes I've made..and to this day I probably continue to make them but I'm learning everyday. This board has helped me alot and alot of these guys gave me some very smart advices. There was a time when I broke up with someone and had real hard time moving on, but today I'm in a 3 month old relationship - really happy and I'm using experience from my previous relationship just to make sure I don't make same mistakes with my current GF like I did with the ex.

If you get bored of a girl, then its time to move on, but be straight with her. You should know by a few months if you actually wanna stay with her or finish the relationship. Just remember, as easily as you can get bored with some girl and you feel you should break things off with her, then a female can also do the same thing with you and leave you heart broken.

Now if you both are interested in eachother and want to be in a serious, commited relationship I can give you some tips that will work keeping her around for a long time.

- be honest with her and your self.
- be a real man and stand up for yourself.
- have confidence in yourself
- don't call or txt her alot. What I realised is GIRLS really hate desperate guys and thats a big turnoff for them.
- When you are with your friends and with her..show her alot of attention and never ignore her.
- When you have sex with her after you finish.. if you love her..always make sure to tell her that you love her.
- Suprise her with flowers, and do small nice things for her. SHE WILL REMEMBER ALL OF THEM.
- If she trusts you, she will tell you ANYTHING about her life or w/e. so always be there for her .. and never cut her off when she's speaking. Women like guys who are great listeners.
- Don't always be avaliable. This means when she calls, don't always pick up. Esp. if its 2-3-4 months relationship.
- Look good, dress sharp.
- Give her all the freedom in the world. Never ask did you do this, or that or all that assuming shit.. and WHAT IF (fit really gave me good advice here).
- Have goals in your life. Women don't like lazy bums.

For cheating: send her flowers to her work. Don't let her know that they are from you. If she calls you and asks you if you sent her flowers she is loyal and faithful. If she doesn't bring anything up dump her.

hope I helped.

[mick-G]

TweetI think perhaps there are some ppl that go out with ppl that they are really not that happy with, or don't really meet up to their expectations, then later in the relationship they become bored, because they are continuing this relationship because they feel they cant find anyone else. Some, too have been in many relationships and none working out, so they get discouraged. B4 getting into a relationship, i would think about what exactly im looking for and like in a partner, then make a pact with yourself not to develop a relationship with someone that there is no chemistry with. Be fully aware when meeting someone and don't push yourself if the feelings just aren't there. Another words, if you are not "head over heels" about someone, its not going to change later in the relationship.