One of the most important things you need when you are trying to transform your body is the unconditional love and support of those who love you. I don't think it takes a brain surgeon to realize that maybe you need a new girlfriend. Do you have any idea how far I would be right now if hungarianbeast was constantly comparing me to the other fitness girls in the gym?! I would be about 25 pounds heavier than I am now, and it wouldn't be muscle. He compares me to me, to how I looked a year ago, 2 years ago. THAT is what matters. It doesn't matter what ANYONE else looks like. The members on this board cover an entire spectrum of body types. Not everyone here is looking to be huge. We have staff and vets that range from hobbyists, athletes, & strength competitors to full blown bodybuilders. Some are competitors in their area, some aren't. So don't worry about the other people. Worry about you. strip down to your skivvies and take a picture flexing. Put the picture away in a box, take our advice and in three months take another picture and compare the 2 but dont peek at the old one before the 3 months is up.