TweetYeah, that is a tough one. You cannot say "Sweetheart I love you but you are fat and I no longer find you attractive."

Even if it is the 100% truth. After our son was born my wife continued to eat the same way and was about 25# overweight. I encouraged her to go to the gym and made healthier foods for lunch and dinner. She lost the weight on her own really as she is very self aware.

All this fat acceptance bullshit. "He should love me if I weigh 300#!" she says. Hey easier to love but if you are not attracted to fat women then how is that going to work? You cannot force attractiveness on others. I could not do it for sure. I can see a guy cheating to fulfill his sexual needs with an attractive woman if he is not attracted to or even repulsed buy his wife who let herself go. I am not condoning it, I just understand it.

It is a lack of respect to allow yourself to become fat and unappealing to your spouse male or female.