Who to trust/who to knock TFO

[MxxC82]

So i have been talking to this girl for some time now, it is a long story so i will make it short. Girl was dating/living with a guy i know in town and he buys parts at my shop sometimes, well he sends her after a part one day and we ended up weeks later talking through facebook and she tells me how shitty their relationship is and all this mess and that she is getting out of it an that went on since March or so and she finally left him and moved out a fwe weeks ago; I had a little to do with it obviously. About the last week in June or so, her and I met for lunch a few times but it was always innocent and we never even made physical contact other that a hug and I had always told her that I didn't want anything more and didn't want to cross that line while him and her were still together just b/c I still have that respect for the other guy. So, time goes by and the second week of July one night we met at the local high school track to walk after i finished up my workout at the gym and we ended up walking like 7 miles or something and were there for about 4 hours and during that time her boyfriend at the time drove through the parking lot and seen both of our vehicles their and so he started texting her and kicked her out that night and he talked mad shit about me and was saying we were out having sex in the woods and all this crazy stuff! Now, she got her stuff out and got an apt. and we have been seeing each other since then, but what this whole thread is about is coming now.
So the past few weekends I have been hanging out a good friend of mines fathers house because him and i have raced motorcycles together and build bikes together also and she has been hanging around there also with me because we were grilling out and drinking some beers, anyway, this past weekend he (friends dad) is making a few comments about the girl i am dating that is there with me and about here breasts and just some a few other sexual comments that sort of un-nerved me a bit but i just let them slide because we had all been drinking a bit and i was just like whatever b/c she is obviously with me and he is like 25+ years older than both of us, BUT then as we are all in the shop and i am working on my R6 they were conversating and somehow he had said something about how white his skin was and they made a joke about it and he lifted his shirt and grabbed her hand and she rubbed his stomach and he tried to push her hand on his crotch and although she didn't go all the way down with her hand she didn't jerk it away either, NOW I AM ****ING PISSED because that is crossing the line! Now i kept my cool and played it off like i didn't know what was going on and the whole time we had been over there I kept noticing how kinda flirty she was with my friend and his dad and how my friends dad kept making sexual comments toward her and she never said anything to me like it bothered her or she didn't like it, honestly I think he crossed the line just by making the comments and deffinantly went too far when he grabbed her hand and put it on his stomach!
When it comes to girls i date or in any type of relationship i always give that respect toward them as far as being faithful and focusing my attention fully on them and I also never make any comments about my friends girlfriends that would be disrespectful toward them either, although if they have a pretty girlfriend or wife I will tell them that b/c that is something to be very proud of, but I will never make any sexual comment toward them ever! I not sure that i even trust this girl anymore and we have only been officially dating for like 3 weeks or whatever because of how flirtly she is with my firends and especially ones that she had just been introduced to! As far as my friends dad goes, I really want to punch him in the face for that ****ed up shit he did and the unneccesary comments he made, but i have to wait until my bike parts come in and I can get it out of his shop! Even worse is that I have known this guy and his sons ( my friends) for almost 14 years and they know i haven't been dating for almost 3 years because of the last couple of horrible relationships i had with my last 2 girlfriends and they have made it difficult for me to want to trust any girl that I might want to date because of those relationships.

Sorry for the rant guys/gals, I just need to vent and get some opinions from some of you one here bacause you guys are seem to be the only good friends i have at the moment that will give me an honest, no BS opinion unlike some of my face to face friends that will just tell me some bullshit they think i wanna hear.

[chemicallyengineered]

I definitely think she abviously doesn't have the same morals/values as you it would be best to first address the issue with her and see how she views it. It your views are indeed very different then it's better to have found out sooner then later. Maybe now you see the other side of the coin and maybe the ex-boyfriend was somewhat justified in his paranoia with her. There is always 2 sides to the story. I dated a chick for nine ****ing years and when she wanted to do her own thing she would tell people that we were on a "break." meanwhile she lived with me at my parents home, drove the car i bought her and paid the insurance on. If people saw us out together she would tell them later on that i was just the jealous, crazy exboyfriend and that she had to spend some time with me just to keep me calm. Chicks do some ****ed up shit and i didn't know half of it till we were over.

[Rapunzel]

Id talk to her about it... but that's deffinetly not cool of her or your friends. People in relationships(in my opinon of corse) shoud not act that way. Now I bet you see her ex's side of the story.... that still dosent make it right tho. But don't let one bad egg ruin your dating life. There are plenty of nice girls out there you just gotta find them.

[badcompany487]

Yea I would have said something right then and there to the guy. If I wasn't already swinging. But as far as the girl goes id be keeping an eye out for anything fishy. Keep in mind there's plenty of fish in the sea. If one doesn't work, yea it sux, but find another one. Maybe Im a bit of a radical when it comes to relationships but I refuse to be unhappy or be in a relationship that im worrying about a girl with other dudes. I've been down that road before and it sucks.

[daved150]

well...if you REALLY had all this respect for the guy you wouldnt have done shyt until she was out of his life....just my .02 bro...you say you have all this respect for the guy but you got out to lunch with his girl? yea bro, i understand you didnt fuk her, but, fuk it at that point...your having an emotional relationship with her....you might as well fuk her!! though i KNOW my wife would never cheat on me, but there would be a HUGE difference if she fuked some clown after a night of shots at the bar, or if she had a relationship with some fukin clown...going out to lunch...meeting up with him after work....i'd rather they just fuked and dropped it after that!!!! atleast if it was a drukin fuk i'd know she fuked up and could believe she didnt mean it...what you 2 was doing, if it was my girl...i'd through ass the fuk out and think about hitting you with my fukin car....(nothing personal...i'd hit someone else with my car too...it aint so much you, lol).

ok..read the rest, lol...i'd kick her to the curb and start over

[MxxC82]

Ima get back with on this one dave, checking via cell phone so typing is a minimum.

[MxxC82]

Yeah, so as far as the events that took place this weekend I confronted my friend and told him i was pissed and that he crossed the line and he apologized and knew that he was out of line, as far as she goes I told her how i felt and and she broke out in tears b/c she said something along the lines that she didn't realize that things we what they were so... me and her are doing this thing one day at a time.

Dave, there is a big difference is emotional and physical and you are right, i should have waited until they were fully split, i could have had sex with her if i really wanted to but i didn't and kept some distance until they were over. Everyone will view it different and your opinion is yours and i respect that but really dude, vehicular man slaughter??? really? Their relationship was over 8 months ago, just took her that long to get all of her shyt togehter and get out, and i just told the basics of the situation not all the ****ed up shyt he said about me and the lies he told her about me after the first day that her and i met when she came in my shop and se just asked who i was! Its cool though, i'll go play in traffic now! HAHA!

[MxxC82]

Yeah, so as far as the events that took place this weekend I confronted my friend and told him i was pissed and that he crossed the line and he apologized and knew that he was out of line, as far as she goes I told her how i felt and and she broke out in tears b/c she said something along the lines that she didn't realize that things we what they were so... me and her are doing this thing one day at a time.

Dave, there is a big difference in emotional and physical and you are right, i should have waited until they were fully split, i could have had sex with her if i really wanted to but i didn't and kept some distance until they were over, everyone is different in a sense of going after something and how the approach it. Everyone will view it different and your opinion is yours and i respect that but really dude, vehicular man slaughter??? really? Their relationship was over 8 months ago, just took her that long to get all of her shyt togehter and get out, and i just told the basics of the situation not all the ****ed up shyt he said about me and the lies he told her about me after the first day that her and i met when she came in my shop and se just asked who i was! Its cool though, i'll go play in traffic now! HAHA!

[MxxC82]

and now my pc is screwed up and posting shyt twice everywhere!

[6p6]

I need paragraph breaks to read that without my coffee lol!

Go with your gut man...it is usually always right!

[BigDawg]

dave's right dude. two years ago id have said no Mxx is right but i was in the same boat, even tho i didn't sleep with the girl i was involved with, we were inimate emotionally tho she was in a dead end re;ationship with her bf and i was on divorce row with my wife. it f'd things up way worse than if we'd have waited completely and just been friends. and we put too much pressure on ourselves wanting to be together it screwed us up, her relationship ended ugly, im still living in the basement of my house so wife can't claim abandonment as we try to amicably mop up this mess and part as peacefully and equitably as we can. as far as your girl, if she had respect one for you she'd have either asked you to intervene or said to ur friend herself that was inappropriate behavior and when he grabbed her hand and she was ok touching his stomach? she'd have gotten dumped on the spot and he'd have gone to the ER if it was my girl. beware a relationship with a girl who craves that attention from other guys.

[MxxC82]

You do have a good point Dawg, relationships can be a bytch some times and start and end the wrong way sometimes also. As far as the whole thing with how that evening unfolded, I confronted my friends dad and told him straight out how F'ed up that was and he immediately apologized on the spot. The bad part was that everyone was drinking and i was busy working on both of my bikes to keeping an eye out and having my head stuck up her butt and at the same time i shouldn't have to do that either.
She knows how i feel about our relationship right now and that i ain't moving fast for anything and if she wants fast to go get it somewhere else, i am busy all the time and racing season starts in a few weeks and I will be even more busy so she can come along on the ride or go find something that suits her needs cause i was doing what i do before she came along and i will not stop just for her. The really shitty part about this is the more i type the more I feel as if I am getting into another roller coaster relationship.

[badcompany487]

You do have a good point Dawg, relationships can be a bytch some times and start and end the wrong way sometimes also. As far as the whole thing with how that evening unfolded, I confronted my friends dad and told him straight out how F'ed up that was and he immediately apologized on the spot. The bad part was that everyone was drinking and i was busy working on both of my bikes to keeping an eye out and having my head stuck up her butt and at the same time i shouldn't have to do that either.
She knows how i feel about our relationship right now and that i ain't moving fast for anything and if she wants fast to go get it somewhere else, i am busy all the time and racing season starts in a few weeks and I will be even more busy so she can come along on the ride or go find something that suits her needs cause i was doing what i do before she came along and i will not stop just for her. The really shitty part about this is the more i type the more I feel as if I am getting into another roller coaster relationship.

I wouldn't worry too much just yet. You just had to put ur foot down and put on your man pants. Ride the wave out, see where it goes.... but don't be afraid to jump ship if its not what you want. If there's anything my dad taught me that was worth anything it was that you are the prize... not her.

[MxxC82]

yeah, im not worried and i think things will be alright, you dad made a good point with that lesson! I am in better health and physical shape than i have ever been so finding a date won't be as hard anymore... HAHA! I can't wait to start the racing season and and my next cycle, get the best of both worlds at the same time!

[MxxC82]

I need paragraph breaks to read that without my coffee lol!

Go with your gut man...it is usually always right!

dude! i suck at typing storied if you haven't noticed! haha

[Rapunzel]

Hey! Girls can be the prize too! in fact if you like her enough she should be the prize... not you....

[daved150]

Hey! Girls can be the prize too! in fact if you like her enough she should be the prize... not you....

little early to start drinking aint it rapunzel?? lol

[badcompany487]

little early to start drinking aint it rapunzel?? lol

She's a little confused

[Rapunzel]

Hey now! No need to be mean! Girls are deffinetly the prize!